Munchies:
Was browsing the interwebs and found this:

www.fetish.com/feederism/

Tell me you aren't part of a community without telling me you aren't part of a community.

This page says that feederism is a part of the BDSM community. It also says that feeders are dominate and feedees are submissive. This page is riddled with inaccuracies.

Doublefrosted:
Given the site this is on it was likely written by a member of the BDSM community with a BDSM audience in mind, and it's likely their only real exposure to feederism has been in a D/s context.

I agree that better representation is needed, but a lot of people also aren't that interested in learning about it if they don't already have an interest in it for themselves.

Blobdesires:
My ultimate dream is kneel like the fat pig I am while my feeders fucks my ass and see my belly hanging down to the floor

BigBellyBBW:
I have not intentionally gained, just decided to eat what I want and be confident in myself.

With that said, I am genuinely curious..based on my photos if you saw me walking down the street would you think I was too big, too small, just right? Belly too big/small, not your preferred shape?

You will not hurt my feelings either way. Just looking for honest answers!

Blobdesires:
I stuff myself with a dozen dougnut ievery and what little weight I do gain goes to my ass

Farleygoldberg:
Hey I found this girl on twitter, she's super cute and looking to gain weight. I want to keep convincing and helping her along her weight gain journey.. what do you think

twitter.com/p8stie

Eating Dude:
Hi,

Some days ago I met online a pretty big girl. We wrote and it was all nice. Then she told me, that two days ago the only movement she did, is going to the door twice as she ordered one pizza for lunch and one for dinner.

I must admit that this sounds quite nice. How could I find out if she is into feederism oder something? And I also don't want to be a creep and ask it directly as I also want to get to know her more for personal reasons.

Any experiences or tipps?

Thaynor:
It's kinda why I tend to stick to messages here and see if they last a week of fun chatter. If they don't, well, they're probably gonna ghost on other platforms and aren't serious. I kinda at this point don't take it too seriously since I think while I'd love something more serious, most people here just want kink.

Edit: I will also say that I feel like at times there's crossed wires. I am kinda more of an incidental gainer who likes to gain and watch someone gain but in no rush whatsoever. Where some feeders will expect me to blow my entire wages to stuff myself for their satisfaction. Like, maybe others will be willing to sink tons of wages on this fetish, especially to random people on the internet, but not me tbh. More interested in friends and a partner.

Munchies:
Read again, love. This entire thread is about what an idealized safe space would look like. Not about the merits of having a safe space or the pitfalls there-in.

Fantasy Feeder is a safe space for feedists. Regardless of how you feel about it, it is first and foremost a safe space. I don't see men leaving in droves because they feel like they are walking on eggshells.

If anything, there other genders on here that feel like they are in hostile territory because of certain behaviors are being left unchecked.

I am very aware you can overcorrect and become an insular, regressive group. But again, that is not the point of the thread at all. In fact, the majority of people on here are just asking for basic level protections. So I find it curious that you think this would inconvience the average man.

I also find it curious about you saying that women who's views are not in line with the majority of the group. The women would not be wanted in this safe would be racists, homophobes, transphobes, xenophobes, etc. You know, the kind of people who seek to exclude the very people who want this safe space.

HanselsWitch:
Are you hinting that I must belong in the "undesirables" category because I'm challenging the feasibility of a completely "safe space?" This is exactly the behavior I'm referring to when I say most people wouldn't want to deal with being scrutinized.

Of course hate speech should never be tolerated. If that's the only thing you're trying to eliminate, it doesn't seem to be much of a problem on here (then again I don't comb every forum looking for it). So if FF is already a safe space as you say, what's the point of this discussion?

Also, who's seeking to exclude people based on race or gender? Has that happened on FF, or are we just trying to solve an imaginary problem?

Munchies:
I have hinted at nothing. If I thought you were a bigot, I would say so. I am simply questioning your premice and subsequent logic.

And yes, hate speech is in the forums. And in chat. I've been subjected to it myself more than once. But I am a far more active user than you, so I see more things than you.

Hate speech is part of it. There's also sexual harrassment, disrespect for boundaries, and a general lack of basic human decency. You know, the stuff you learn in pre-school or kindergarten.

No one is expecting the average joe to have a perfect understanding of gender theory or CRT. Instead, people just want people to be decent.

HanselsWitch:
Nice backpedaling, but based on this exchange I don't believe for a minute that people's words wouldn't be picked apart for ideological purity at any given moment on this imaginary "safe space." All too often I've seen good people experience the wrath of the mob over ridiculous BS by people hiding under the guise of "being kind."

All I said was it's impossible to preemptively eliminate everyone who might potentially offend someone. If the FF admins not doing a great job of moderating, that's a separate issue that should be addressed.

Munchies:
Hun, point to where I back peddaled. I have been nothing but consistent. I've *clarified* but I have not backpedaled.

And again, this is all about a hypothetical safe space. If your idea of a safe space looks different, this would be the time to say what your idea of a safe space looks like. You have not done that once. Instead, you've talked about why safe spaces are not feasible.

HanselsWitch:
I mean... perhaps the absence of condescending people claiming to be tolerant? 😄

Munchies:
Read again, love. This entire thread is about what an idealized safe space would look like. Not about the merits of having a safe space or the pitfalls there-in.

Fantasy Feeder is a safe space for feedists. Regardless of how you feel about it, it is first and foremost a safe space. I don't see men leaving in droves because they feel like they are walking on eggshells.

If anything, there other genders on here that feel like they are in hostile territory because of certain behaviors are being left unchecked.

I am very aware you can overcorrect and become an insular, regressive group. But again, that is not the point of the thread at all. In fact, the majority of people on here are just asking for basic level protections. So I find it curious that you think this would inconvience the average man.

I also find it curious about you saying that women who's views are not in line with the majority of the group. The women would not be wanted in this safe would be racists, homophobes, transphobes, xenophobes, etc. You know, the kind of people who seek to exclude the very people who want this safe space.

HanselsWitch:
Are you hinting that I must belong in the "undesirables" category because I'm challenging the feasibility of a completely "safe space?" This is exactly the behavior I'm referring to when I say most people wouldn't want to deal with being scrutinized.

Of course hate speech should never be tolerated. If that's the only thing you're trying to eliminate, it doesn't seem to be much of a problem on here (then again I don't comb every forum looking for it). So if FF is already a safe space as you say, what's the point of this discussion?

Also, who's seeking to exclude people based on race or gender? Has that happened on FF, or are we just trying to solve an imaginary problem?

Munchies:
I have hinted at nothing. If I thought you were a bigot, I would say so. I am simply questioning your premice and subsequent logic.

And yes, hate speech is in the forums. And in chat. I've been subjected to it myself more than once. But I am a far more active user than you, so I see more things than you.

Hate speech is part of it. There's also sexual harrassment, disrespect for boundaries, and a general lack of basic human decency. You know, the stuff you learn in pre-school or kindergarten.

No one is expecting the average joe to have a perfect understanding of gender theory or CRT. Instead, people just want people to be decent.

HanselsWitch:
Nice backpedaling, but based on this exchange I don't believe for a minute that people's words wouldn't be picked apart for ideological purity at any given moment on this imaginary "safe space." All too often I've seen good people experience the wrath of the mob over ridiculous BS by people hiding under the guise of "being kind."

All I said was it's impossible to preemptively eliminate everyone who might potentially offend someone. If the FF admins not doing a great job of moderating, that's a separate issue that should be addressed.