drvbnkr:
But I didn't plan on eating a bakery, at least not in front of the kid.
I chatted with a woman with the same plan when she started gaining: she was careful to eat moderately in her children's presence. But since then she's gained a lot and built up her appetite so much that she needs to stuff herself when she eats, even in front of the kids.
9 years
Many feedees have to be careful they don't get too fat to take care of themselves.
You obviously have to be even more careful, since you have additional responsibilities.
As far as her being bullied for having a fat father...I wouldn't worry about that too much. But of course it is possible.
The main issue is: do you overeat in front of her or hide it? Hiding requires less explanation but can be hard to pull off.
Some feedees not only overeat in front of their children but allow their children to eat all the goodies they want. Their children tend to be really fat. I think this is messed up. People should be able to get fat if they want, but it's not a decision a child can make.
Some feeedees overeat in front of their children but make it clear that "the doughnuts are only for Daddy". This is doable, but may require some kind of explanation. You may be able to lump it in with other adult behaviors (like drinking and smoking) that adults can do but children can't.
In any event, I'd figure out the narrative you're going to use and get your wife on board before gaining any serious amount of weight.
9 years
Nattily:
So no matter how fat I am on the outside, well, that part of me doesn't need anything larger sized and nor would I want that part of me stretched out ... does that make sense?
Yes. Okay, what about this: Your feeder bf only makes love with you when you've gained a pound?
9 years
TalesOfAGrowingBelly:
All of those except number 5, since she doesn't yet know about the whole fat-fetish thing. Apart from that I just like the feel of the extra flab on my belly, it's fun to fiddle and play with whenever I get a spare moment to myself.
Can you rank them?
9 years
Usually feedees increase their goal weight as they gain. If you've experienced this, which of the following art trure?
1. You find, contrary to your expectations, that being bigger is no problem.
2. You find there are problems with being bigger but they're not as bad as you feared.
3. You enjoy gaining more than you thought you would.
4. You enjoy being bigger more than you thought you would.
5. Your goal has increased just from hanging out with feedists (on-line or irl).
6. Anything else?
9 years
Now I think of it it might be better to phrase a "soft limit" as simply a goal and a limit, with the rule that your limit has to be at least 5 pounds more than your goal!
9 years
For feedees who have gained:
1. Do friends know you've done it on purpose?
2. Do sibilings know?
3. Parents?
9 years
johnxyz:
There are too many things going on to say you can stop at a specific point. Once you get into the habit of eating what you want, it's hard to stop. Your body gets into a routine, and expects the same thing every day. Once you stop, your body thinks there is a famine, and will start to store more of your food as fat. Your brain will tell you to eat more.
Interesting...so you're saying limits NEVER work?
9 years
