I would first figure out why you want to gain and why you want to stay in shape. Then go from there.

Instead of stuffing yourself silly, eat smaller, more frequent meals throughout the day. When you do eat a bigger meal, eat until you are comfortably stuffed and then a little more.

There's also nothing wrong with increasing your capacity that don't have a lot of calories. After all, the point with that is volume, not calorie intake. Basically eating and drinking foods that will stretch you out, but won't leave you filling heavy.

Just talk to her, man. Tell her what you want. That way, you'll both be prepared when you start to balloon. You can hide a 10 - 20 lbs gain depending on how you look at the start. However, you cannot hide a rapid weight gain to 300 lbs.

Slowly build up to it. Eating high calories foods or maximizing your calories will only get you so far. You'll have the methodically stretch your stomach out.

However, you will not be able to eat 13k calories a day every day. Speaking from experience, you'll only be able to do it for a short span of time. Your body *will* force you to stop because the human body was never meant to be that full for that long.

My partner said that he felt like a pregnant fat hog the entire time. Moving is hard, your back hurts, and you get heart burn, and your digestive system will scream at you.

If you eat a lot of heavy/hard to digest foods, you will struggle to keep up. The solution isn't to eat more calories. It's to train yourself to eat more.

When I started feeding my current partner, he had a gastric bypass years ago. He could eat about 3k - 4k calories a day and feel stuffed, but he wanted to eat over 10k calories.

At the time, this was impossible for him. However, under my guidance, we slowly stretched his stomach out. We are taking a break from gaining, but he can now fit over 13k calories during an all day stuffing. On a normal day, he eats about 5k. This number may go down as he transitions back to normal eat.

Based on your country location, I am going to assume English is not your first language. So I am going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that you are struggling with reading comprehension.

If this was a case of him saying "Be careful with posting pictures for safety reasons," no one would care. The problem is that he shamed women for posting their pictures and expressing their sexuality.

And if he was truly worried about safety, he wouldn't have gendered his statement. After all, there are a lot of non-women on this site who post the same kinds of pictures on here. They are also putting themselves at risk.

If he wanted to support modest women, then he didn't need to put down women who aren't. It's extremely misogynistic, and there are too many people like that on this site.

Also, let's not forget that he inserts himself into situations where he knows there will be sexual promiscuity and says things like "Don't be like that because you could be with me instead." That's a classic Nice Guy. No one likes Nice Guys because they aren't actually nice.

Shower wands are amazing, and I think that everyone should have them no matter the size.

Adding onto the chafing thing, there's a lot of different products out there to help. Lotions, creams, anti-chafing bands. I've got big thighs, so my go too is wearing bike shorts and/or using an anti-chafing stick.

Lol! Yes, my good sir. Cheese.

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I have no idea where you acquired this opinion. Is this about my simile about fine china and paper plates? Allow me then to explain: Fine china represents something that is valuable and treated with care, making sure that your actions don't damage it because it is irreplaceable. Paper plates are something you use once and throw away, without the need or desire to care what that does to the plate. The meaning of the simile was the exact opposite of what you claim. It means that each woman is an irreplaceable individual that should be treated with care, not as an object to be disposed of whenever it is convenient.



Fair point, but if by "contribute" you mean placing my personal details and pictures on a public forum, then I disagree.



Hence my opinion that they should not be placing their pictures or information on a public website. And if they felt pressured into doing so, they should reconsider, as there are people like me out there that don't require that in order to consider them someone of worth.



It's odd that you will listen to me because I am "classy", but you will not listen to Lora because you perceive her not to be. The tone someone writes or speaks in does not negate the validity of their statement.

Since you are either struggling to read or are being deliberately obtuse, let me restate what she said more clearly.

She did not say, "your opinion is invalid," as you are taking it to be. She is saying that you are speaking on something as an authority that you do not fully comprehend.

You say you work in cybersecurity. How often do you speak to people - professionally and personally - that give you suggestions about how to do your job? I'd assume it to be quite often if you are like any of the IT and cybersecurity people I know. And if that is the case, I'd assume that you would find it annoying or aggravating, depending on the situation.

It's the same concept.

Also, it's rather foolish of you to say, "you only know what's on my profile," when someone draws conclusions based on what you told us about yourself. Why are you upset that people are taking you at your word?

And finally, I will restate why everyone is taking issue with your statements. You portray yourself as a 53-year-old man who inserts himself into places he knows will be sexual. You admit to regularly going to Mari Gras in two different states and thinking to yourself, "These women wouldn't need to be sexually promiscuous if they had someone like me to treat them right." Your first post after being on this site for two days is to tell women to cover up.

You objectify and infantilize women. We do not like it. Please treat us like people and not like like precious objects. Thank you.