FaireShade:
My fiance brought home 15 lbs of Casey's maple pumpkin spice cappuccino mix. Obviously mix it with milk for drinks, but what else should I put it in?

Abyssal Mind:
I'm considering trying to make some money from this hobby/passion, I'm very naive on how I'd go about it. I have low self-esteem so I've been scared to try because I'm worried that I'm in over my head or that I'm not good enough. I'm not necessarily trying to go premium but if it's a good start then I'll try it out, otherwise selling my stories in general might go well for me.

I have a hard time selling myself so any help or tips would be appreciated, I've never done anything like this before and I want to try to take the next big step.

Always Grateful, A.M.

Letters And Numbers:
Not trying to be rude or dismissive, but maybe a fetish website is not the right place to learn how to express yourself online. Why not start with a space that’s about hobbies or something less heavy?

Estil17:
Because I do feel passionately about my eh, special interests in my profile (I don't know if "fetish" is exactly right). I already have a couple of forums I frequent for my "normal" hobbies.

Munchies:
I have ASD and PTSD. I struggled a lot with relationships because of it. So I took a 5 year dating hiatus to work on myself. I struggled to understand social cues, so I learned what they were and how to communicate effective to smooth out misunderstandings. I have PTSD, so I learned healthy coping mechanisms as well as dealing with my trauma.

I'm not 100% better. More like 60% to 80% depending on the day. And I am always trying to improve.

It doesn't sound like you are ready to date yet. It's not because of your mental illness. Instead, it doesn't sound like you've learned to self regulate.

Estil17:
Oh I'm nowhere near the "dating" part yet...for right now I'm just trying to find to get good at the online part!

Letters And Numbers:
Therapy doesn’t just stop when you don’t click well with your therapist. That just means you need to try someone else. Give it another try.

Estil17:
I don't know what it is they could tell me that I don't already know...and I don't think they'd be much help on these kind of matters.

Estil17:
There is a major problem I seem to have and it really frustrates me as I feel like I keep making this same mistake over and over again. I often come on too strong too soon (online I mean) and I end up scarring the other person away :,(

Like, there was someone here who was really one of a kind, one in a billion, thought she might be "The One" but as I often do I stupidly came on too strong and she ended up ghosting me, even after she reassured me (because I kept asking to make sure I was doing everything right) that "You are fine" and she would say "I appreciate that". I mean, I thought maybe I had some appeal for her but...as I often do, I blow it. :,( And of course I've had more than my fair share of catfishers too I'm sorry to say.

I wish I could somehow learn from my mistakes and do better...I've been quite depressed and lonely lately (seasonal changes probably don't help that any) and it might be that it will soon be 2 1/2 years since my wife passed away. Still, can anyone help me be as appealing and persuasive and all that as I can? And try not to come off too strong too soon? I know that's my main problem by far...

Kacchan:
For me, it's less about the size and more about the mentality. Whether a person is class 3 morbidly obese or underweight, if they feel sexy and get turned on by fat, weight gain, and/or getting someone else fat - then they are the perfect size in my book.

I've dated all different sized people - including someone who was severely underweight, but was completely sexually confident with their size and were WAY into weight gain. I truly felt like that person was perfectly-sized. Another I dated was beautifully fat with a gorgeous fat belly, love handles, squeezable fat arms and even a cute double-chin just beginning to make an appearance. But they HATED it, and detested themselves, and no amount of positive reinforcement from me would change their mind, so.... NOT perfectly-sized.