Fantasy Feeder

I get depressed because my partner (m45) doesn't support my interest (f36).

Badshae:
I feel most alive when gaining. I've gone from 150 to 250lbs in the past, and always end up losing it because my partner doesn't approve.

It's not approval so much as it is projection. He has had problems with how own weight gain as a kid and judges himself harshly. So me wanting to be fat just makes our relationship somewhat fragile and I can tell it depressed him.

I wish all the time I could convince him to support this or make him enjoy it some magical way, but that is unrealistic.

I love my partner, and this sacrifice sometimes eats at me. 😓

This is not healthy relationship behavior. What's he gonna do if you didn't have a fat kink and still put on weight? Nah, this is toxic behavior from him if he's projecting his insecurities onto you.

Reminds me of my mother, a little bit. She and I look a lot alike. As such, she often projected her insecurities onto me even if we had different circumstances. For example, when I was 5'6" and 115 lbs, my mom - then 5'9" and 160 ~ 170 lbs - openly envied my size. When I put on 5 lbs (of muscle no less) and went from underweight to the low end of normal - she went insane and said it was better for me to be 115.

Of course, that's your husband, not your mom. Can't handle things the same way.

If you guys haven't done so, you two need to have a heart to heart. Tell him that you want to gain - that it makes you happy. You understand he doesn't like it, but the way he projects his insecurities onto you makes you feel miserable.

Does he do this with anything else? Or is it just this one thing?)

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Person you would love to feed/see fat

ChubbyHubby:
If I may step carefully here:

Etiola, what you say is an important point, and I understand wanting to spread awareness. I think Curiousicey just means the topic here was who do we want to see. That’s it. It’s not about the other person’s reality or how they’d feel about it, it’s just about our dream/fantasy and who would we like to see. For BeeJay, that is Lily Collins.

This is kind of a fun topic. I think it’d be interesting to see Scarlett Johansson as a chubby or fat Black Widow. There aren’t any fat superheroes except maybe Mr. Incredible cartoon??? Can superheroes be fat and still function as superheroes? Could Spider-Man still swing around carrying a nicely fattened MJ?

*clears throat*

Bouncing Boy from DC's Legion of Superheros.

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Liking stuffing, but not liking weight gain?

SSSNakey:
So you all likes full belly but dont want to gain? I think iam on the same. I am not interested in people gaining weight but like diferences between empty and full belly.

Belly stuffing and weight gain a two different fetishes. They often coincide, but not always. There are people on this very site who love to stuff but hate to gain or love to gain, but hate to stuff.

Super common, really.

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Fat habits?

ChubbyHubby: If they are actively pursuing a goal and you are actively sabotaging your them against their will, that’s not being a good friend. But if that is just the lifestyle you two have, and they are happy, content, neutral or otherwise don’t care, then you are not doing anything wrong.

TheOneFancyHunter:
Yeah, he's a normie so even though he seems content I worried. I feel insecure when I think about how if I wasn't there his diet might not have changed much, but what you said is true. It's his choice at the end of the day.

If you feel that guilty, get some healthy items along with your usual stuff. Not a whole lot of it - just enough for him. If he eats it, great. You now have a system where you can be a pig without it effective him. If he doesn't it eat, you can sleep well knowing that it's his choice.

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Fattening boyfriend

Cookiekit:
sounds like he’s in denial; enough belly rubs and good food and he’ll give in soon

Angy523:
I hope he will. I just love how things are going now and I don't want a change. His belly just became big enough so I can feel it on my back during sex (not doggy tho, it's still a small belly, but getting bigger) and I find it really hot. Idk if it's ok to mention this kind of details, but it's a fantasy site after all

There's no shame in taking it slow. And it's okay to give him an out.

If he feels like it's his choice to get fatter, and you love the choice he's making, he'll feel more confident with time.

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Double chin plastic surgery

BerlinGainer27:
Thanks for the info. Looking at some of the results of plastic surgeons, e.g. super huge BBL, there must be a few around who do any fat grafting job for money.

I certainly would not cap my gains or remove fat, as long as the bigger chin does not cause any issue breathing or eating.

The thing with plastic surgery is that you shouldn't go to just *any* surgeon. There can be a lot of complications if you aren't wise about it. Botched surgeries are no joke. You can be disfigured, have complications, or even die on the operating room table. BBLs are some of the most dangerous surgeries out there.

If you can't find a reputable surgeon to do it do NOT, and I repeat DO NOT, do to just anyone who is willing to take a stab at it.

I am not against plastic surgery. I think that it is something that anyone should be able to get without shame or judgement. But it isn't without risks and shouldn't be taken lightly.

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Is it the estrogen?

Ditzy:
My question is what is a lizzo?

ILuvChubbyChix:
A brief Google search suggests she's a plus-size black singer, rapper, and songwriter from Atlanta, GA born in 1988 who is of some note to some folks, it seems. Other than that, I don't know. I don't think I've ever heard any of her songs.

I listen to her infrequently. Imo, she's a pretty good rapper. I like her song "Boys". I am especially fond of the Pink Panda remix.

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Thoughts on "miles away" feature

ILuvChubbyChix:
I think it's great!

It also doesn't really change much, since you can search for profiles and there's an option to limit to a certain given radius.

I can understand why some might not feel the most comfortable, but if you're worried about this, specify a location other than your own.

I will say this though.. it's moderately annoying if someone picks out a larger city/metro area, since this could "lead on" users who actually live there. It's even worse if someone picks out a country not his own, or a region that's too far off, since that can make it more difficult to talk about advice regarding things like local restaurant chains (America has a lot of regional fast food chains, for example), or of course, heavy cream v. double cream.

If someone wants to be less specific but still want to give a good general idea of location, a good choice is to specify the largest city in their metro area. For example, I don't actually live in Dallas, TX the city proper, but I live in a nearby suburb and I can commute to anywhere in DFW and can conceivably meet anyone there easily within a relatively short drive.

If you don't wish to be that specific, I'd probably recommend picking out a random small town within your state or province; the kind of place that's kind of hard to get to (far from any major highway), and the smaller the town, the better. This would eliminate most of the problems I mentioned. There's still some risk of "leading on" but it's far less likely.

As a stalking victim, I understand where you are coming from, but no. I've been stalked twice. I am not keen on a third time.

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Controversial thoughts about feederism

Bigdj1977:
I completely understand that sentiment you expressed at the end of this post. I too started out in a field that has some physically demanding jobs but as I got bigger, I was lucky to find positions that are much more desk bound. You may have to get some additional training or credentials but if it allows you to live life more according to your preferences that is a small price to pay. Also, keep in mind that for many people, myself included, there comes a size where they have to eat a satisfying amount of food to just maintain or gain very slowly (this is the mid 400s for me) and are still reasonably mobile.

FattMatt:
My backup plan is to start teaching when I’ve gathered a few years of experience in my field. Maybe that wil open up the possibilities of gaining to an more extreme weight. And I know I won’t be bed bound by the time I hit 500 pounds. I think however that the image of a 400-500 pound hospital worker, isn’t widely accepted in society…

Ayumi Orihime:
Many people in the medical field are very fat phobic. As a pharmacist, when I do continued education, the non pharmacological advise for most health problems include "weight loss".

I wish they'd really get educated on the subject. Research shows that voluntary weight loss isn't sustainable in the long run and that the weight cycling is the real danger, not the fatness itself.

Maybe they feel "safer" assuming all fat people are greedy and lazy, this way they are "protected" from becoming fat themselves.

Blaming fat people for their fatness and assuming health issues such as high blood pressure, type 2 diabetes, etc are caused by obesity (as opposed to "associated with being fat", which isn't the same at all) is very common in health professionals and it's been shown that many have a really bad perception of their fat patients.

Just suggesting that these issues could be linked to other factors also associated with being fat (stress, lack of exercise or weight cycling for example) is seen as controversial!

It's just ridiculous and I don't want to me a part of it. I've never told a patient of mine they should lose weight and I never will.

I think it depends on what health issue they have. I agree that weight loss isn't the end all be all. A lot of health concerns can be resolved by doing something else.

But some medical conditions can be helped by some level of weight loss. For example, my grandma has osteoporosis. While losing weight will not fix the problem, it can be helped by maintaining a lower weight. To put it simply, she had to lose weight because her bones are not strong enough to support her.

This also doesn't take into account the more extreme forms of obesity such as immobility. I don't think most immobile people will tell you that they are as fit as a fiddle. But on FF, I believe that is part of the appeal.

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Overeating at night is better for weight gain than overeating at morning?

2xChins:
If it works for you then sure but I find that if I take in too much sugar/carbs before bed I tend to wake up feeling groggy or crappy.

Consider: Do late-night stuffings with less sugar and carbs. There are other kinds of foods besides carbs and sweets.

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