Fantasy Feeder

Girls just aren’t into fat guys. even on a fat fetish site like this

CuteFarmer:
No dating site has a massive gender imbalance like this.

Telling men the solution to overcompetition is to compete harder, is only going to worsen the situation for other men. It's like telling poor people to improve their situation by taking money off other poor people, making them poorer. There's no net gain.

Re-read the comments sent to the OP. Some of them don't accept that there's advantage for females on here. There is.

Everyone on here should behave, male and female.
But the stats make it much harder for men on here. Just be real

Do you remember when you messaged me and asked my advice on how to get women on this site? Do you remember what I told you?

Have you done any of it? Nothing I told you to do was hard.

2 years

Munchies

Girls just aren’t into fat guys. even on a fat fetish site like this

CuteFarmer:
I can't speak for the OP, but there are stats here in front of everyone's face folks.
Look at how many men & women are on here (as profiles, or logged in at any time, or in the chat room at any time etc). There's a huge difference.
So of course on average it's going to be much "harder/competitive/potentially discouraging/however else you want to define it" for men on here.
This means ladies have much more choice, so on average they have it far less "hard/competitive/potentially discouraging/however else you want to define it"
If I was in a 'lower numbers' population that was in demand, I'd be grateful. Would I want to admit it gave me an advantage? I hope so. Would I be angry if someone pointed out this gave me a distinct advantage? I hope not.

And yes I know there are other preferences and identities (non-cis/TG etc, some of whom I'm really into myself). But even after that, the stats show a massive disadvantage for almost all types of men.

Have your opinions, but be real folks.

Many of us are queueing for a nearly empty store. Some of you get free home delivery

Wouldn't say it gives me an advantage. More like a different set of problems.

The issue is one of quality over quantity for most women on this site. I've encountered a lot of women on this site bemoaning a dearth of decent men on FF. I am not talking about personal preferences. I am more so talking about men that come across as creepy, toxic, or dangerous.

I adore fat men. And while I'm not looking for a relationship, I love talking kink or even helping people with their weight gain journey. Still, I come across scores of men who do not understand consent, do not respect me as a person, are manipulative, or just plain toxic.

Thanks to my experiences, I'm a dab hand in dealing with these people. But I have seen them run off other women on this site before. Others have gone so far as to stop interacting with men on FF completely.

So, no. There's a lot more to it than a simple numbers game.

2 years

Munchies

Skinny boys must be fattened

BoysRCute:
Does anyone else see skinny teenage boys like just starting college, and want to just fill them up till they pop

Munchies:
Skinny boys that young awaken some times of maternal instinct in me (which is hilarious as they are young enough to be my siblings), and I think that they look so frail.

I want to feed then until I can't see their ribs anymore. So not necessarily fat, but defo not thin.

I'm weird. 🙃

Quink333:
This made me feel something 😳😭

Munchies:
Lol, did I awaken something? I seem to do that a lot on this site.

Quink333:
You rather deepen what was already there. 😖

Munchies:
Another thing I do all the time on this site. Completely inadvertantly.

Apparently, I'm just that powerful and amazing.

Quink333:
Such a bad influance 🙄

You say "bad". I say "full of fun ideas".

2 years

Munchies

Skinny boys must be fattened

BoysRCute:
Does anyone else see skinny teenage boys like just starting college, and want to just fill them up till they pop

Munchies:
Skinny boys that young awaken some times of maternal instinct in me (which is hilarious as they are young enough to be my siblings), and I think that they look so frail.

I want to feed then until I can't see their ribs anymore. So not necessarily fat, but defo not thin.

I'm weird. 🙃

Quink333:
This made me feel something 😳😭

Munchies:
Lol, did I awaken something? I seem to do that a lot on this site.

Quink333:
You rather deepen what was already there. 😖

Another thing I do all the time on this site. Completely inadvertantly.

Apparently, I'm just that powerful and amazing.

2 years

Munchies

Girls just aren’t into fat guys. even on a fat fetish site like this

Fatpeter:
What I was getting at was more of an observation really. I’m not just talking about myself. There are heaps of guys on here, you only have to look at there pics, posts etc and see how few views or comments they get, or how few followers they have. For women on the other hand it is completely different generally speaking. But I guess that’s pretty normal really? Not just in the fat community. I think I may of just answered my own dumb question🤦‍♀️

You have *got* to be wiser about asking these questions. Too many people on here say these things, and if people don't step in early to shut it down, it turns into the "He-man woman hater" club. You can already see a few posts on this specific thread that are going in that direction.

2 years

Munchies

Skinny boys must be fattened

BoysRCute:
Does anyone else see skinny teenage boys like just starting college, and want to just fill them up till they pop

Munchies:
Skinny boys that young awaken some times of maternal instinct in me (which is hilarious as they are young enough to be my siblings), and I think that they look so frail.

I want to feed then until I can't see their ribs anymore. So not necessarily fat, but defo not thin.

I'm weird. 🙃

Quink333:
This made me feel something 😳😭

Lol, did I awaken something? I seem to do that a lot on this site.

2 years

Munchies

Girls just aren’t into fat guys. even on a fat fetish site like this

Bigdaddyjack:
Most women on this site are too darn picky !!!

I am very curious as to how you define "picky".

2 years

Munchies

Girls just aren’t into fat guys. even on a fat fetish site like this

Fatpeter:
I’m starting to realise there are virtually no female FA/feeders on this site. Ones that are into guys at least anyway. Most fat women on here seem to be into either only thin guys, or thin girls or maybe other fat girls. But not fat guys. There is even virtually no thin female FAs that are into fat guys. They seem to prefer women too. In fact it really only seems to be other guys that are interested in fat guys. Has anyone else noticed this too?

*Stares at you in heterosexual domme feeder with a male feedee*

Lol, what the heck are you talking about? We do exist on FF. There's a lot of us too. But I have noticed some things that may explain your situation.

There are a lot of guys on here that are ... to put in mildly ... insane, gross, and creepy. Not all of them are like that. But there's so many of them that even some of my bisexual female friends have sworn off all the men on this site.

And for the ones that are straight? It's hell, man. If you look through the forums, you can see horror story after horror story. I can even share some of my own with you if you want.

Still, of the male feedees I'm friends with on this site (bisexual, pansexual, and heterosexual) they don't have issues finding female feeders (romantic, sexual, and platonic). It helps that they are all kind, respectful, personable, and bring more to the table than an empty belly.

These are not rich men. They have average looks. But their character plays a huge roll in their success.

2 years

Munchies

New feeder, advice?

Arden Feeder:
Thank you so much for your kind reply. I really appreciate the advice. He has told me before that a safe space is important and I'm still learning how best to provide that for him.

I'm afraid he has definitely been bullied into not being himself in the past and I definitely want to be that safe space for him. I don't think he fully trusts me enough to open up yet (given his past and how his past partners/family has treated him about this, I can't really fault him for that).

I am still learning what I am enjoy about the community if I'm honest, I grew up fat with people who taught me to hate myself, so I am having to relearn a lot of things about myself. My main priority currently is wanting him to finally be able to be himself and to be able to have that safe space to do so.

Any other advice though is greatly appreciated, I feel like a fish out of water right now. But I can definitely make sure to give him all the love and appreciation that I can.

PolyPinoyPuppy:
The only other advice I can give is to take your time, then; I'm still a fledgling in a lot of ways myself, though I've been lurking for quite a while. The longer you stay in the community and explore what it has to offer and the different viewpoints and perspectives people have, the better you'll be able to articulate for yourself and your boyfriend how you want to pursue feederism. Likewise, it will take time to develop that mutual trust. You've both already gotten past the enormous hurdle of one of you coming out of the closet, as it were, on being interested in feederism; congratulate yourselves and look forward to taking each next step one at a time.

And don't hesitate to post any questions you have on specific things as they come up and talk with people who are experienced. (I'm surprised Munchies hasn't chimed in yet, as she gives good advice and is a pretty experienced feeder.)

I'll ask some questions here if you don't mind sharing on your and your boyfriend's behalf. Do you know what his goals are as a feedee? Any specific ones, like a target weight? General ones, like whether he pursues weight gain for the physical attractiveness or to pursue the excitement of taboo? You mentioned also that he isn't a big fan of stuffing. Is this something he wants to work on but feels ashamed to partake in?

Lol! Believe it or not, I'm usually at work during the bulk of my posting. My brain constantly crave stimulation, so when things are slow, I'll check the forums.

That being said, I don't have a whole lot to add to what you've already said.

2 years

Munchies

Has anyone tried the “fat bomb”?

Kingwhatever1:
Very much tempted to try it. Wondering if any other cooking oil will do the trick?

Would it work? Yes. Would you also have the squirts, fatigue, and general feelings of blah? Also yes.

If you do this, don't do it on an empty stomach. You need to eat a lot to make sure the oil doesn't completely run though you. High levels of oil can have a laxative effect.

I also do not recommend going this for long periods of time. It will spike your triglycerides if you do. A week or two won't kill you. But it *will* knock you on your butt.

2 years

Munchies