Patriarchy (systematized) is still not the entier problem. It's definitely on a deeper level than the end results, but i think this goes even deeper. For starters a lot of the jobs today are overworking their workers. And when a father returns from work overworked, he might not exactly have the energy left to also be a decent parent. Same with mothers that work on these kind of jobs.
And then there is school! Which is either public, or it's a business that looks to earn money. And in the context of our current socioeconomic system, these businesses that we put our children in, are trying to maximize profits. This always leads down to a worse quality of education. And the educational system, no matter the lessons, is an institution initially designed to produce efficient workers. Not decent human beings!
Im telling you the roots go really deep!

Today i got a little taste of the horror that our society is turning into. What you may have to go through sometimes. Rudeness and sexism you may call it.
I just want to do something about it by providing some food for thought.
Its going to get dark but please try to think about it, calmly.
Its common knowledge in our days that lots of people (the majority men, but i won't stick to that) harass other people. This most of the time, in places like FF happens in a more sexual manner.
And for that im sorry. It's a human need to be treated with empathy and love. Instead you are often used for other people's sexual pleasure.
I wish that was the problem! It could be so easy to solve it. But i think the reality is much, much worse. Our society produces these kind of people. The roots go deep, and they can't be ripped of without ripping apart the structure of our society itself. Most people don't even want this to happen
Its sad that we don't have a good place to be helped with growing up. Today's notion that you should take full responsibility of yourself, pretending that you have absolute authority of even that, is sadly a widespread notion.
Please consider ripping the route of the problem!
I beg you

I started as a feeder, for years, the last two, or one and a half, I've slowly turned into a feedee. Now im trying to stay away of the fetish, or at least limit it in the realm of fantasy because i feel bad about it (because of ideology) and also because i wish i could have a romantic relationship free of sexual stuff (if that's possible)

And no heavy subjects! I know from personal experience!
(altho I'd wish for the opposite for myself at least)

What I'm into evolves through time i guess. But as far as fantasy goes, an evil female feeder, especially a muscular one is a turn on for me! I like the contrast! My feeder whould be strong, dominant, intelligent and someone who knows what she wants and how to take it! I, on the other hand whould be really weakened, submissive, in a constant state of being horny, with no goals, but only to please my feeder no matter what because that's the only way for me to cum!
And she'd apsolutely abuse that power she has over me, to make me eat as much as possible! Ideally, I'd be too horny and too painfully stuffed to even think! So she'd keep me like that until she makes me fat enough to not be able to move! >.<

(Again that's only for fantasy)

Hello my balcan comrade!

Hello! Im also in a position where I'd love to just get rid of it! I think a good option might be ideology. It might not br sufficient alone, but it might help! If you need to talk about this, im open to that! I'd love to try and help you!

Thanks for the replies! I just really wanna get out of the situation I'm in and i cant see where it'd be better to go. It's not a very happy period of my life, i just hope that at I'll find someone I'll love, but hope won't do something to help. :/

Okay so as a heads up, this is a serious issue for me, so I'd prefer if you'd take the time to think about what you wanna advise. Also, for the shake of transparency I'll try to be as honest as i can.
So i have a problem (or two) with feederism. Even tho I'm a very horny person and I'd really like to just be forcefed to immobility or something, i wanna do stuff in my life. Not because i wanna have a full life, but i see a lot of things in life that desperately need to be worked on and improved. I just can't ignore them. I have to do something to help, at least, fix them. But at the same time, my sexual need to do.... the things you can guess, is really strong and i just feel like i really need to do something about them as well. I'm in this state for over a year now, thinking that i can subsidize doing things for real with fantasizing. I don't think balancing these two is possible, since one has to steps completely on the other. (For example if i decides to gain, I'd love to go for something really extreme, close to or beyond immobility)
And on top of that I'd love to have a normal, romantic relationship where I care for my partner and i get cared for by her as well. In a mutual way. I feel like I really need all of these.
Do you have any advice? (if yes please try to describe your thought process fully)