Allfatthings:
Do you need a partner to be a full on feedee, or would a fat girl who doesnt mind being fat and is willing to indulge you from time to time be enough?
If the former, then I must agree with the others here that finding someone like that is fairly unlikely.
However, there are many many fat girls, and ok with their weight. And many may be self conscious now, but in my experience, when they are with a partner who appreciates them, learn to love their bodies.
My wife doesn't share my sexuality around fat, but is happy to be appreciated for all her curves and eat what she wants. And she will ler me feed her, make comments about growing out of clothes etc... Because she knows I like it. Indeed, knowing I like her fat has led to her indulging more and gained quite a bit of weight since we met.
Its not the same as a full on feedee relationship, but more than enough for me.
If you think this would be enough for you,
I would seriously consider finding another fatter partner more compatible with what you like, even if they are not a full on feedee
I agree with many things that have been on this thread but up until Allfatthings wrote this....that was kind of what I was thinking while reading through the other posts.
I mean if my wife was a Feedee....yes that would kind of be the perfect situation I guess.....but things don't really work out that perfectly. Have there been times where I wished it was like that.......YES. But I have become more creative and may get just as turned on or aroused by watching my wife over eating continually and not because she is trying to but because she is turning into a greedy little pig and she can't control her appetite....which is very sexy to me.... then if she was a feedee and telling me to feed her and having it more like a script and trying to gain for me. Granted I do need her to be gaining weight or at least eating a lot and not dieting.....which she did diet many years ago.....she would gain 10-15 Lbs. and it would excite me a bit more than usual and she would get frustrated and then diet. It wasn't about me....it was about society making her feel bad and guilty....even though I felt like she should be more relaxed and not care so much knowing that I loved her gaining anyways. But time changes things and it did for us in many ways.....in fact it has me scratching my head sometimes to thinking she has this fetish to a degree with me being the Feedee.....and only when I started putting on a Gut is when this was discovered. What I have found out in our relationship is I buy at the store her favorite food and snacks and keep them around and she will eat them and Thank me but at times she won't buy them for herself....but if I do it she will feel in some weird way it is ok....kind of like.... put the guilt on me that I made her gain weight and get Fat.....even though she know's I want her Fat....It is very strange I know. The other thing as I mentioned earlier while I accidentally gaining 20 lbs. and a bigger gut by snacking and eating sweets along with her every night.....I decided to Intentionally gain....primarily to have her tease me or scold me for putting on a big gut. I was stuffing like crazy for many weeks and then over a month and she never said anything even though my Gut got huge. This when I started thinking she had Feedee desires or tendencies.....I would come home after stuffing myself all day looking so bloated just to try and get a reaction from her....and she started making us more and more Fattening dinners.....and she would grab my plate & fill it with with seconds even before I was done with my first helping...and even do thirds sometimes just to finish everything up so we didn't have leftovers she said. She was eating everything along with me and both of us pigging out with ice cream afterwards on the couch watching TV....it was like a Mutual Gaining relationship without any teasing or discussion of us getting Fatter together.....it was GREAT. In the last 2 years she has steadily gained primarily from her new desk job, not enough time to exercise and her eating. But the best thing is as I said as time goes on things change....she doesn't even discuss diet or say negative Fat things about herself.
Ultimately things can work,,,,,but there is always the grass is Greener situation. Another bad thing is as time has gone on so has my desire for more and more weight on my wife or women in general. So I think that could be kind of mute because some Feedee's never get as heavy as the feeder may want......but my wife is heavier now than what I use to think was really Fat ....when I was in High school let's say......but I dream of her getting to higher weights like 300 or even 350 Lbs. but I don't think that is reality.
Hopefully this thread answers a lot of your questions.