Fantasy Feeder

Music you're feeling/hearing lately

Munchies:
I've gotten into psytrance music recently. I'm rather fond of Vairo.

Do not watch this if you are prone to seizures. Lots of flashy lights.

Ney:
I know that song. Good one. How about this one? Was my first song of this genre.

Munchies:
Gah! I love this! Thank you so much!

I mentioned electro swing earlier, but I didn't recommend any music.

Hands down, my favorite electro swing band is Caravan Palace. And my favorite song of theirs is Long Digger.

This is the audio-only version, but there is a music video version as well. Fair warning, Caravan Palace music videos can be very adult. I love them to bits, but still.

CuppaJoe:
I LOVE "Long Digger". Absolutely infectious energy!

"We No Speak Americano" by Yolanda Be Cool/DCup is another one of my faves in the same genre.

It's a good song. It's based on this Italian bop:

2 years

Munchies

I need help dealing with my fetish

I am seing a therapist due to many other issues I'm having. However I was scared to discuss this. When I was a child I remember how my mother reacted to fat people on the street, for example. That made me close in even more.

Gushloader:
Hi,
I don't know whether writing on a random website about that will help, but I hope someone can tell me how to proceed. So I was raised in a very fit family. My mother is a personal trainer, and my father loves exercise. I am skinny myself, however I have very soft spot for larger women, but I am scared to death to admit to it. Being shy, depressed, etc does not help in this matter. I am very much an introvert, however I love talking to people I find nice. But, I could tell nobody about my fetish, and so I am afraid to even speak online to girls. The combination of my personal traids, like shiness and depression and pretty specific tastes I think I am into older women makes me walk into an impasse. I don't even want a GF, I want to be OK with my fetish and don't feel guilty that I am into obese women even though it might be unhealthy for them.

Munchies:
I am a fit and muscular woman who loves fat men and making them fatter. There's nothing wrong with loving fat people. It's not a crime to let fat people exist. And there's nothing wrong with finding fat people sexy.

It will take some time to work through you issues. And that's okay. If you aren't seeing anyone, I do recommend seeing a therapist.

Gushloader:

In time, you will get the courage to stand your ground. Love who you love. Your family shouldn't stand in the way of that. And if they do, you stand up for your partner because they are a person first and foremost.

2 years

Munchies

I need help dealing with my fetish

Gushloader:
Thanks for the reply. But what scares me to death is that I'll hawe to tell him/her about my fetish. I am not scared to speak about it here, but outside? That-s my problem.

You don't have to say everything immediately. You can work up to that.

2 years

Munchies

I need help dealing with my fetish

Gushloader:
Hi,
I don't know whether writing on a random website about that will help, but I hope someone can tell me how to proceed. So I was raised in a very fit family. My mother is a personal trainer, and my father loves exercise. I am skinny myself, however I have very soft spot for larger women, but I am scared to death to admit to it. Being shy, depressed, etc does not help in this matter. I am very much an introvert, however I love talking to people I find nice. But, I could tell nobody about my fetish, and so I am afraid to even speak online to girls. The combination of my personal traids, like shiness and depression and pretty specific tastes I think I am into older women makes me walk into an impasse. I don't even want a GF, I want to be OK with my fetish and don't feel guilty that I am into obese women even though it might be unhealthy for them.

I am a fit and muscular woman who loves fat men and making them fatter. There's nothing wrong with loving fat people. It's not a crime to let fat people exist. And there's nothing wrong with finding fat people sexy.

It will take some time to work through you issues. And that's okay. If you aren't seeing anyone, I do recommend seeing a therapist.

2 years

Munchies

The larger side - a rant on the irony and hypocrisy of fetishizing thinness while tabooing fat a

Miachu:
why are we still here? Just to suffer?

Must be. He's reworked it three times now, and it keeps getting worse somehow. It's like ... he's at the cusp of understanding but is so busy wanting to be right he isn't listening.

I do not like it when people (thus far, it's always been men) become armchair scientists and pontificate about feminine attractiveness. Every time it's always about the male gaze and what men think women should be like. And since modern western beauty standards are made by men, it makes me sigh.

2 years

Munchies

The larger side - a rant on the irony and hypocrisy of fetishizing thinness while tabooing fat a

The problem with viewing women's attractiveness view a biological lens is that it turns something subjective into objective. This is very dangerous. Because it says that if you do not meet a so-called objective beauty standard, you are not beautiful. People have tried this before, and that's how we got eugenics.

This is why I say it's misogynistic and ablest. If you objectify beauty, you objectify ugliness. And since some women cannot be fat for various health-related reasons, it is also ablest. And for women like me who choose not to be fat, there is something fundamentally wrong with us.

(As a side note, the first video does not present a binary like you say it does. Instead, it discusses two groups. If you re-watch the video, you will see she implies the third group - everyone who isn't fat or thin. I fall into that third group.)

I am curious. Who is your audience for this rant? It's not for women. Two women have told you that you are posting harmful and hurtful things, but you persist. It's not for the people who objectify thin women because they aren't coming to places like this. Is it for the men on this site that enjoy bashing thin women and saying things like "Real women have bellies," or "Sticks are gross," and other things like that? I don't think you are the sort for that, but posts like this *will* attract them.

2 years

Munchies

My girlfriend is the perfect feedee but she doesn´t know it

Arkm:
We had a talk about her weight. I did not went all in but i really stressed out that i like her body shape and would not mind more. She still seemed not so convinced of her body. The last days i tried to give her body even more attention. I intentionaly grab her belly and her lovehandle. I play with her soft body. She seems to enjoy it.

Since then she really ate a lot. The day we had the talk she snacked 5 pieces of cake, then she had 3 plates of dinner and later on we ordered sushi, which she mostly ate all alone. The day after we bought a lot of snacks and planned a big dinner. On the way to buy food she wanted some fries. The snacks we bought were gone as soon as we were at home and for the dinner she ate way to much again. Yesterday we went to an all you can eat breakfast. When we were finished she asked me to get her bag from the floor because she was tu full to bend down. Back at home more snacks and later on a big dinner again. I don´t know what to think about that. One the one hand she seem to give in on the other she still mentions her weight and how she should eat less.

I am pretty sure the last days are allready visible. She is even more soft. Her belly grew in her lab and her love handles got even bigger. She jiggles when she walks. Her hips got a lot wider. Today she tried some old dresses...you can imagine how they looked^^ Most of her clothes seem to tight right now. I am really curious where this is all heading!

When someone tells you "I love the thing you hate about yourself," it takes a while to internalize it. It seems she's willing to give it a try, so good on you.

2 years

Munchies

My bf’s diet

Anjou:
Right now his diet for the last month, in which he packed on 25lbs of delicious fat, had been as follows:
6am:Coffee with a pint of cream and a 1/4 cup of sugar.1,800 Kcal
9am: breakfast. Eggs, toast and bacon usually. About 1,000kcal.
11am: Another 1,800 kcal coffee
1 pm: Lunch was usually light soup and sandwich with some nuts. About 800
4pm: Dinner varies a lot. Anywhere from 600 to 1,200 kcal.
6pm: This is wear things got serious. He started drinking his beers (about 1,000 kcal worth) and he just stuffed himself with chips, peanut butter sandwichs, literally eat a family size box of muesli over the sink. Guessing he put down about 3000kcal here.
8pm: drinks the rest of the quart of cream and a glass of red wine.
So I am guessing at least 10,000 kcal a day.
Am I wrong to think that he should have had a bigger gain?

It's only been a month 25 lbs in a month is a large amount of weight in a short amount of time - especially for someone just starting.

For context, when I first met my feedee, he was 270. We went hard the first month we met. My big boy was eager to impress me and would eat about 10K calories a day before we slowed down a bit. He put on 26 lbs.

Don't rush the gains too much. Rapid weight gain is sexy, but unsustainable and demanding on the body. Don't be so eager to get to your destination that you forget to enjoy the journey. Your boyfriend isn't going anywhere, after all.

2 years

Munchies

The larger side - a rant on the irony and hypocrisy of fetishizing thinness while tabooing fat a

If you would like some examples of how to critique social beauty without denigrating women, here are some examples:

Both are outstanding video essayists. I recommend everyone give these two a gander.

2 years

Munchies

The larger side - a rant on the irony and hypocrisy of fetishizing thinness while tabooing fat a

Nok:
How bout this instead?

Still binary, true, but that was kind of the point - not to claim that all women fall into one of those two categories, but to make the point of the dichotomy for the sake of illustrating the illogic of societal distaste with fat. Not sure how to do that elseways.

Anyway, tried to redress the more intense phrasing - coming off as misogynistic myself was furthest from my intention. Inflammatory, certainly, but not towards women, more towards people that design our fashions and even in the largest try to hide fat as if it is a sin, wrapping it in loose cloth to slim and obscure, while the other side of the industry does everything it can to reveal. It's just... weird.

Anyway, so again, I'm sorry to have offended you.

The Larger Side - A Rant on the Irony and Hypocrisy of Fetishizing Thinness while Tabooing Fat Admiration

(Note: This was pure opinion, and reactionary, with a goal halfway between conversation and being pointed.)

Being into fat women isn't a fetish.

Being into thin women is a fetish.

For millions of years, a fat female body has meant fertility, which, let's face it, is the core of sexuality every bit as much as fun is.

A thin female body, on the other hand, has no biological reason to be attractive (I am not trying to be offensive here, I am talking about the biological purpose of physical attraction): it doesn't as prominently display the nutrition necessary to make baby brains, it doesn't feel as good in bed, and, for most thin women, it also kind of sucks to inhabit... except, debatably, for the attention it gets from people that fetishize thinness.

And that's the crux of the problem: two of the most common reasons to strive to be thin are: one, for that, frankly, biologically-illogical attention, and then the only reason for that attention is a novel and deviant modern cultural norm based largely around just how difficult and unnatural it is to be thin; and two, to avoid the negative social attention heaped on anyone that doesn't laud the cult of thinness or has the audacity to actually show in public a body that is larger than borderline anorexic.

It's even become adopted by the medical community itself, despite the dearth of actual evidence. Does excessive visceral abdominal fat have a correlation with some diseases? Yes, yes it does, and that's probably one of the reasons the waist-to-hip ratio is also relevant to instinctual physical attraction to a woman's body.

But there's grosse fallacies imbedded in the medical fear of fat, most prominently: that most fat is not unhealthy; that exercise and healthy foods have far more impact on health than body weight does; and, OF INCREDIBLE IMPORTANCE, that the disease and damage (physical, psychological, social, etc.) caused to individuals and society over the last several decades of cultural bodysize dismorphia and the pursuit (read: fetishization) of female thinness, despite it being neither natural nor healthy, is probably LITERALLY INCALCULABLE (but, certainly, absurdly, obscenely, disgustingly, despicably vast).

I have a background in debate and public speaking, and I studied human biology, psychology, and sociology in college. Your argument is flawed. If you wish to critique the societal concepts of beauty, doing it through a biological lens makes no sense.

Biological attractiveness is about which traits best encourage reproduction. This isn't a static feature. The basic concept of evolution necessitates this fluidity.

In addition, human attractiveness is best understood through sociology and psychology rather than biology. Since humans are very good at transforming our environment to suit our needs, our drive to reproduce is based on other factors (e.g. culture and personal taste).

I find your so-called rant utterly fascinating. You claim that this is a critique of society, but you also clearly indicate a right way and a wrong way to be attractive as a woman. You say things like "A thin female body, on the other hand, has no biological reason to be attractive" and call the desire to be thin "neither natural nor healthy".

By your logic, thin women should either not exist or not be considered attractive by the larger society. This isn't a critique of social beauty so much as it is a long-winded way to body shame. It is both misogynistic and ablest.

2 years

Munchies