...eat so much you can't eat another bite and feel sad that you have to stop?

It's rough. You might have to give up some of your old life, I don't know. Or you might find that people value you for other things than your slenderness. You won't know until you try gaining and see how they react.

Also note that you can build a new life. A feeder or gaining buddy or gaining buddies can help enormously.

And of course you can also try the Glutton's Pledge...some people find that useful in developing the proper gaining mindset and learning to transcend fatphobia.

Intentional Gaining philosophies.

Can you think of any more? Which one are you?

1. Careful planner -- you decide on how much you want to gain, gain that much and stop.

2. Stage by stage -- you gain a certain amount and then re-evaluate, possibly stopping, possibly gaining more.

3. Letting go -- you focus on eating all you want and gaining all you want don't think much about weight limits unless it becomes an issue.

4. Max -- you try to get as big as possible.

5. Stuffer -- you're more into stuffing and getting really full. Gaining is just a side-effect.

6. Like #3, but with the additional goal of going out-of-control.

I doubt you can completely suppress it but you can just keep it as a fantasy and find happiness elsewhere. There's more to life than feedism.

[quote]Chloe24xx:there are times when the urge is stronger and it leads me to want to try it out but later I'm back to my normal self where I then feel weird and confused about it, because i have been ashamed about this side of me and struggled to accept it./quote]

You don't sound confused to me, just conflicted. Obviously there are upsides and downsides to gaining--only you can decide what's more important to you. And please don't feel ashamed. You can't help being into this...none of us can.

My advice is if you're not sure about gaining, don't--it's much easier to stay thinner and change your mind and get fat than vice versa. But if one day you decide you'd rather get fat, just accept it and enjoy it. No sense in gaining weight if you're going to guilt-trip yourself. Note that many a person will think about this for years, and then get to a place in life where they decide to let themselves go and get fat.

It's probably better not to tell people you're gaining intentionally, but you can tell people you've tried dieting and find that you're happier if you eat what you want.

I think the biggest problem is that most people don't want to be out about this stuff. It'd be hard to do that on a seriously interesting podcast.

There was one with two male feedees who would do interviews with guest male feedees. I'm not into men, but it was kind of interesting in a general way. Got repetitive though. They'd basically do feedee bios. When did you first think about gaining as a child? What got you started doing it? How has it been, etc. etc.

Here's the site on wayback machine: web.archive.org/web/20200903215135/https://thegaininglife.tumblr.com/
unfortunately the audio doesn't work.

A quibble: If you plan to stop at a certain weight I'd call that a limit. A goal is your minimum target weight, a limit is your maximum target weight.

Of course your goal could be your limit as well, but not necessarily. In fact if you want a goal AND a limit, I'd suggest the goal weight be smaller. That way you don't have to stop on a dime.

For example, if your goal weight is 200 pounds, your limit should be at least 220 pounds. Make sure you don't gain past your limit...that's likely to undermine your confidence. However, there is a loophole: if your limit is 220 pounds and you find yourself going past 215 and have no inclination to cut back on the milkshakes, INCREASE your limit before you get there.

You shouldn't go past your limit, but you can increase it as many times as you want.

I'm not sure exactly how common it is, but I've heard the story many times. Seems like as soon as they're on their own they start eating way more without even thinking much about it.