emily's definitely the cute one! (and i'm not just saying that hoping that she will read this and i will score points!)

munchies' advice is right on. you two obviously have a solid, strong relationship, being together that long. just keep the conversation going on what you are feeling, and what you are both finding attractive, and see where it goes.

my partner was into fat guys, we met thru wooplus. after we got to know each other well enough, i shared my interest in feedism with her. i made sure she knew it wasn't that important, there was no pressure for her. it took a bit, but she started to see the aspects of it that she thought were interesting, and we went from there. i don't think she'd describe herself as a feeder or feedist, but we've worked it into our lives and play over the 4 years we've been together.

best of luck!

have a great canada day - and remember, #elbowsup

this is a really interesting topic, i think!

technology is huge - i was a fat admirer (or chubby chaser) before i'd discovered the internet, but i don't know if i even had that terminology to apply to it... it wasn't until i got online that i discovered, holy cow, there are other people interested in this kind of thing! and back then (late 1990s) it was still a very closeted thing. so the interent and communication via social media did a *lot* to connect me to "my people," but it also ramped up the size acceptance movement. now all kinds of people of size are flaunting what they got on tiktok!

i don't think deliveries are a huge factor. i think the change in the content of food has made a much larger impact. not just delivery, but the proliferations of pre-packaged, prepared foods. even when i think back to college, the cafeteria made real food. now those places are just performing an elaborate re-heating exercise in many cases. so i think this change in the actual material of what we're eating has had a very large impact, and why obesity has been on the rise (amongst non-feedists as well!).

geekymngirl's note about information & data is really interesting. a couple of years ago i got an app to track my calories to see how much i was eating, and how it related to my weight. it was a really interesting experience, because it was allowing me to turn my habits into data - something that wasn't really possible before with such precision, before the existence of online databases with all of this info, and a way to conveniently track it. i was surprised to find i was eating over 6,000 calories a day even without stuffing myself at that time!

the tech we need in the near future is one of those hover-belt things that baron harkonnen from the dune books uses, to increase our mobility and allow us to grow even larger.

um, i think the original poster is gone... either deleted their account the same day they posted this, or removed by admins?

it seems to be pretty common that people wish their weight distributed differently. not just among feedists, but just in general.

a couple of years ago my partner and i attended a local meet-up with a bunch of other ff members. there was another couple there that was similar to us (thin gal, very fat guy). he was a bigger than me, but our weight was distributed quite differently. whereas i carry my weight mostly around my middle (belly, hips, fupa), his weight was more evenly distributed. he has a big gut, but also really big moobs, thick arms and legs.

he, like you, wished his fat was more belly-centric, whereas i was jealous of his moobs!

damn genetics!

well that lasted 12 hours!

a couple of years ago i spent several months making an effort to really explore hypnosis. my primary interest was achieving multiple, hands-free orgasms, but i also explored a bunch of feedism files to see if they had an effect. i also listened to a bunch of other erotic hypnosis material.

hypnosis in general: i found the material geared toward relaxation was very helpful. the app called "mindgasm" was perhaps the best in terms of training for building arousal (and eventually hfo - hands free orgasm).

i found that well-produced hypnosis material are very effective in terms of general eroticism. i find i am very tuned-into many of shibby's common triggers after listening to many of her time. as you listen to them, it becomes like training, the conditioning, so it becomes more effective.

as for feedism, i don't think the hypnosis really changed my habits in a meaningful way. it maybe attuned me to the eroticism of feeding a little more. but i can't say that it put 25 lbs on me that otherwise wouldn't have been there.

partly this may be due to the quality of the material. i don't know if there are any really high-calibre feeding hypnosis practitioners out there, like there are in other areas. it's a shame, there used to be a very skilled erotic hypnotist called isabella valentine who was herself a really beautiful bbw. i think she was a bit conflicted about embracing her size, although sometimes she did "play up" her curvy dominant persona. but it would have been great to see if she could have made a truly effective dom feeding experience. but i understand she had some personal issues and has dropped off the radar, abandoning her previous life in erotic hypnosis.

i would love to know if anyone has better examples or experiences than what i have.