Punkviper:
Hockey is probably the only major sport I've not seen live, might have to get myself up to see Nottingham Panthers

Modulo9:
I like short and plump.

My wife is 5'1" maybe 5"2" and pear shaped.

She's ridiculously hot at 190+. I believe she's in about 220 now and I love it! She's the type that wears the weight well. I'm always tempted to get her fatter.

InfamyUnderdog:
I apologize in advance if this post is a mess

For some background: I dated my girlfriend for almost a year and she put on roughly 30 pounds passively during that time (from 180 to 220), but she has always struggled with her self confidence and got better with appreciating how she looked over that period of time along with my help reassuring her that she is beautiful and attractive no matter her size. she knows that I'm a feeder and how I enjoy indulging in feederism, but never wanted to gain intentionally. we broke up for roughly 6 months which was my fault, and which I regret because I do love her and care for her. Come to now, are we are trying to get back together because we both still have very strong feelings for one another but she is taking things slow to build before we start dating again to trust in me just incase if I will leave again (which I do not plan to do).

She is aware that I find fat women attractive and beautiful, including herself, and my desire to want to be her feeder, but she doesn't want to gain more and now wants to start losing weight because she claims that it will make her happy. However she claims that she always want to make me happy, knowing that a feeder/feedee relationship will make me overjoyed, but still doesn't want to practice it. It seems like she has tendencies that made me initially question if she was a closeted feedee when we first started dating and still do such as: belly rubs, eating lots of food at once, and feeling full. Just recently she has agreed that I can do a small feeding/stuffing with her in order to satisfy my fetish and when we are intimant she likes to let me verbally indulge in the kink such as talking about the fetish and how I want to feed her because it turns her on if I'm turned on. I get upset afterwards because I know the talk is just for show and she doesn't want to act on it and she is aware of this as well.

I do want her to be happy and I will do my best to make her happy because I love her, but I have no idea if she will ever want to try gaining in the future if she feels more comfortable and safe with me. I'm not sure if I'm looking for advice or affirmation, but I guess I'm looking for other peoples opinion on my situation. Feel free to ask questions if you have them or if I need to clarify anything.

MartinChap:
Hi everyone,
I just got out of a session with my therapist. I've been talking to her about a fat fetish and trying to get a grip on it. I've always felt extremely conflicted with this fetish, never certain what to do about it - do I gain or lose or try to be muscular?
She was asking me about my confusions, and after some questions, she told me I probably have body dysmorphia.
I was a bit surprised, but I think it makes sense. I've always felt very unhappy with myself. I've known since about the age of 2 I want to be fat, but also felt extremely worried by people's opinions and judgments, notably those of my parents.
When watching films and television, I feel jealous of the men who are fit, tall, and gorgeous. I consider myself good-looking, but I also feel like I'm not good enough. Like I can do better and should feel bad for not being better.
My parents are very mean to fat people. I have some friends who have made it their business to tell me I should work out more so I can be more muscular. Being a very sensitive person, it really is no surprise I've developed this anxiety around my appearance.
My therapist is great and encouraged me to be kind to myself, something I don't tend to do! I'm hoping I can work through this situation and learn to feel more confident.

Animus:
I am so glad this worked itself out for you. I know I have been in a similar situation before too and made it clear to my wife about what I like and that it is not my expectation to be appeased/engaged in if it is not for her.

Needless to say, like Female day admirer mentioned, she has put on weight unintentionally with the passing of time, but I feel has become more comfortable snacking around me now despite she doesn’t want to gain any more weight.

AlphaTitan1235:
Hey man that's awesome! Lol and yeah man I was just worried for my wife. I don't want her to change herself for me. And I'm glad it turned out great for you and your wife as well!

Ffancy:
Fattening a thin guy? Yessssss. It's exciting when 10 pounds leads to a visible change.