If you already talk about the kinds of things that turn each other on--be it sexy celebrities, NSFW Twitter accounts, or each others' kinks besides feederism--then all that's left really is to talk about feederism itself.
The way I approached it with my new partner was to let them know I had a kink I was embarrassed and anxious to talk about. I also told them that I didn't expect them to indulge my kink at all, and that there were already so many other reasons I was into them that it wouldn't matter if they couldn't participate in it.
It seems you feel similarly, so I'd suggest communicating those feelings to her as you have to us.
Remember that as weird as you think you are, it's possible your girlfriend thinks she's weird in her own ways too. And if any of the weirdness you each have is already out in the open and you both accept or even cherish each other for it, then one more kink isn't going to ruin your dynamic, especially if you're respectful and earnest about it.
Good luck!
2 years
Disclaimer up front: I'm inexperienced in in-person relationships, and your relationship might be different, having developed for two years. I'm mostly giving this advice as a way to process my own meager experience so that I can act on my own advice in the future.
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I'm currently going through something similar to you. I am a feeder in a relationship with someone who is trying to lose weight and isn't a feedee.
It took a lot of courage and build-up to disclose feederism to them. However, this was accelerated by the fact that we spoke quite a lot about their kinks. During that conversation, I told them I had a kink I was uncomfortable talking about early into the relationship, but invited them to guess and talk about kinks in general.
That conversation told me a lot about how open, accepting, and non-judgmental they were, and a couple weeks later I told them about my kink. Since then, I try to remember their non-judgemental attitude every time I feel self-conscious about talking feederism.
Additionally, I make sure to stress how much I value the goals they have which are contrary to my kink, as well as to insist that they tell me of any boundaries, reservations, or anxieties my interest causes.
All that done, I finally feel mostly comfortable just asking them when there's something I would enjoy. A lot of that comes from this being early in our relationship, as we're learning a lot about each other anyway.
If you already talk about sex regularly--right after sex is a great time for this, I would think--talk about what you enjoyed and what you would enjoy more of, escalating bit by bit. Of course, do the same for her; note what she seemed to react to most, ask how you can make it better.
Like others in this thread, I'm fortunate enough to have found someone who's accepting of my weirdness, and I hope that the same is true of you.
2 years
DollyXXDimples:
Try unplugging it, then plugging it back in.
Boomerang:
What do you mean with that?
They are being funny. It is a joke based on a tech support solution so common as to become cliche.
2 years
Oh for sure, but there's a very very thin line between accidents and intent, once you're aware of those hidden effects.
2 years
Thanks for your reply as always, and thanks for pointing out that setting!
2 years
I think it would be nice to have the ability to follow forum threads and topics, among other things, so that they show up in your feed. Having updates to those be sent to our emails (if we've opted into such notifications) would be nice as well.
One specific use case for this would be automatically following threads you created, which could be helpful to those who start threads asking for advice.
2 years
Can we follow forum topics?
EDIT: It would be nice to have those direct to our emails as well, if so.
Edit edit: I'll make a new thread about this as I've thought on this more.
2 years
Just to add for anyone who's interested, I'm not just looking for a belly to fill; I'd like to be able to hang out and chill over a shared interest, like playing some co-op games or watching shows together!
This is especially important to me for potential online relationships. I value connection, whether that connection is my hand on your belly as I coax you to eat just *one* more eclair or discovering a new hobby/obsession with each other--but preferably both, maybe even at the same time!
If that sounds like something you're looking for, send me a DM!
2 years
I'm gynesexual and polyamorous with two partners, dating for myself.
I recently got a taste of what it's like to feed a partner, and I'm eager to do it again with someone who's ready to be pushed to their limits and who shares some of my interests-- anime, games, and other nerdy stuff. If you have a Discord, you're probably my type!
And while I'm primarily a feeder, if mutual stuffing is your thing, I certainly think we could get along! I also have a bunch of other kinks I'd love to explore, so if that sounds fun at all, shoot me a DM and we'll see if we vibe~
2 years
Frankly there are a lot of "healthy" products that seem to me to be likely to cause weight gain.
Smoothies and the like always seem like a trap. Processing food like that so they're easier to digest sounds like a recipe for a soon-to-be empty stomach and increased cravings later on.
Then, artificial sweeteners have been shown to trick brains into increasing caloric intake through increased sugar cravings as brains decide they need to increase our desire for sweetness to make the calorie intake match the perceived sweetness. When actual sugar is encountered, the result is eating way more sugar than one would before an extended diet including "diet" sodas.
On the flip side, despite its reputation of giving people munchies and causing them to laze about, marijuana consumption is linked to lower BMIs when comparing non-consumers with consumers and when comparing those who have only started weed to those who have been using weed for a long time. This is despite the increased caloric intake of people who consume weed:
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6340377/Biology is weird, man.
2 years