you people need to change something about the block feature. People shouldn’t be able to see or interact with someone at all if they block them.
and stop deleting threads when someone gets utterly dejected for being a creep/weirdo.
This stuff isn’t acceptable and any social media company would do something about it we’re just locked here because we’re fat / love fat people, it doesn’t mean we should suffer abuse.
Please add a like feature to the forum posts.
2 months
when the roles and folds appear while you’re standing that always existed while bending or sitting and you develop new rolls and folds on top of the old ones
Buttoning pants isn’t an option bc your belly blocks your reach unless you wear your pants like a goober
2 months
Well you’ll be very happy if and when you decide to get big and fat because despite being a fat straight man most of my admirers are fit gay men so w you.
I’m not complaining mind you it’s just I’m not into guys
2 months
I don’t think someone needs justify themselves when they feel they are being discriminated against just like a woman feeling harassed doesn’t need to justify their belief it’s what they feel. Does that make sense?
2 months
So you accept that it’s unacceptable for women to be harassed, good. My contention is that it is different but not dissimilar to someone being discriminated against, thus it to being bigoted is an unacceptable behavior do you follow?
2 months
Enas:
This is a place for discussion, among other things, specialized for and friendly towards feedism. That does not exlude debating worldviews, since you put it like that.
Each person has a theory. And how they subjectivise (how they personally choose to "read".) and then describe their experiences matters a lot. Thats just to point out the relevance of what i like to talk about, with peoples' experiences. Im really interested in these theories / philosophies.
I dont know if you suffer from that, id need to have a conversation about controversial topics with you, to find out.
Do you think it’s okay to just let people be bigoted and spread hate? Or should anti-social behaviors like it be curtailed. Should women be allowed to be harassed and stalked? I don’t think any of these behaviors are acceptable and there’s no argument that will allow me to change that.
2 months
JN_TumLover56:
Mmm! I was actually going to say something like that. And yes you are not wrong that I may have made some bad posts in the past that I shouldn’t have, but I do learn from the criticism and do better if I have learned something from it. Assuming that it wasn’t just plain old white noise.
Meanwhile here’s you who likes to think that you’re untouchable like some Greek philosopher or Jordan Peterson that everyone thinks is right. But this is not the discussion for that anyways. 🤷♂️
However, I did in fact made some GOOD posts and take on certain topics. I even had people messaging me about how they appreciated me for having a solid point and being brave to discuss my opinion on the said-topic, so I am grateful to know that there are people who do appreciate me. Maybe you don’t see that in me, but I (and other people) have. It’s like that saying: “to each their own”.
Also perhaps that I am just some guy, but I am a guy who has been told that I may have a solid point. I can’t care if people don’t like me… I’m not seeking validation of any sorts, but it’s the message that I am trying to convey. That’s what’s most important to me.
Calling out bigots and hate, correcting people when they could be endangering themselves or others, and stressing on matters of consent are all good things and if you disagree with them that’s on you. To my understanding you’ve never done any of those things so I don’t understand where you’re coming from.
2 months
Enas:
Do i appreciate the community?
Yes, i do. But at the same time, i know this community doesnt exist in a vacuum. Its prone to most of the problems the larger society currently has. I would like to be able to debate, especially about so called sensitive topics, but people here (as people everywhere!!) seem to suffer from cognitive dishonesty. On top of that, if this place has an ideology its propably a liberal one and thats sometimes problematic in a bunch of technical ways (In moderation for example - the rules are too simplistic, etc).
What do you think?
Is this a place for people to defends one’s worldview or is it a place for fat people and their admirers share their experiences? You seem to want to defend some hard and ardent worldview and inject it when we’re just talking about our lives. Were as some people just want to exclude bigotry and hate from our space and aren’t interested in some intellectual defense of Hitler and the 3rd Reich because people don’t want to be harassed? Do you see the disconnect? Or am I just being “cognitively dishonest”?
2 months
I need to get back to some walking I haven’t taken much more than 500 steps a day since like December
2 months
C00kie:
Unfortunately, being fat is something visible to everyone you encounter, and you can’t control how they feel about it. Even if people aren’t romantically or sexually interested in you, many still have something to say about fat bodies and not all of it is positive.
The reality is - as a fat person you’re likely to get looks and comments, whether from strangers, friends, or even family. Some may express concern about health, while others use it as an easy way to make a joke at your expense. Sadly, fat people remain easy targets, and in many circles, commenting on larger bodies is still seen as acceptable.
The real question is... how much do you actually care about what random people say or do? Do you really want to let others dictate your existence or your happiness?
TheUltimate323:
Well, I don't really care much about the opinions of random people. I'm mainly referring to the opinions of people close to me, like family and friends.
You know, I've always been at a normal weight, but I have a desire to have a very obese body. Making that change makes me uncomfortable when my family makes comments like, "You need to lose weight," "That's not good," etc.
If a person who has always been overweight gains more weight, it is not surprising, however, if a person who has always been in a normal body weight gains a lot of weight, then yes.
I’m not sure how it is in Spain and the situation isn’t the same for everyone but generally assuming your family and friends aren’t evil people praying on your downfall they won’t say a thing and you’re overthinking it.
If you’re worried about it cross the bridge when you get there but for now you have a while until the concern comments come
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