It's possible it's coming from a place of concern from the rest of your family (if not respectfully communicated) or simply because of the cognitive dissonance this is causing. In their mind you are the skinny one in the family most likely, so to see that you're a bit curvier throws their perception of you completely out of whack. The best thing to do right now I think is to talk to them about it and make it known that while they might be trying to help you, their negative comments are hurtful. Kindly discuss with them that you like your body the way it is, your happier, and that the things they are saying are pushing you away from them, which you would hate to happen because you love all of them (a bit of an assumption their, but it sounds like you do care about them). Try all that and see how things go, communication is key in most problems.

She doesn't sound very attractive and I'm not even talking about her appearance, if you're not interested I'd say either ignore her or upfront tell her that no means no. An interesting situation to be in though, just take it as a sign of your devilish charm and move on with your head held high.

Pretty much this, people can joke all they want about anything and anyone, I don't see how this is different than a comedian saying saying a public figure is an idiot or some such thing. Though in truth they weren't that funny, and just felt mean spirited, I wouldn't expect someone to say something like that even at a roast.

Yeah, getting to very high weights comes with consequences which people need to be aware of before they decide to gain. Just because people wish that it were otherwise does not mean that the laws of physics no longer apply. I really don't see this as discrimination but as TheMarshmallow said, they really should have given her a refund.

They already do something similar to this in Japan: fatfightertv.com/2008/06/japan-fat-law/. It took me a bit of googling to find an article on it because it'd been a while since I had heard about it. In any case it seems the focus is always on fat and not on health. Weight gain and diseases like diabetes are a symptom of a poor diet, not of fat itself, so when people target fat as the problem it's like trying to stop a running nose to cure the flu.

Haha, this one made me laugh, tell him tough toenails

Internet high five, YEAAAAAAAAAAAH!

You're trying to generalize and label people which is just not okay. You're essentially saying that because of my sexuality (and that of other fetishists), that because I not only have a preference for curvy women, but also a fetish that involves them, that I'm incapable of treating them as human beings. Anyone can be a person who uses others for their own needs, people who simply have a preference for fat as well as fetishists, and anyone can treat other people with respect.

People are going to objectivise those they find sexually attractive, women do it, men do it, it's part of how we work as humans. I don't know, and would never be able to know, every single woman on this site on a personal level. So yes, if I see someone I think is attractive who I don't know, my mind treats them as a sexual object, I still understand they're real people and treat them as such in real life (as people not objects that is). On top of that, you can't be seriously telling me that you sit there jerking thinking: oh he/she was so kind to me the other day, or they like the same band as me, that's so swell. You're thinking about what makes them sexually attractive to you and everything else be damned. There is nothing wrong with that so long as that's not how you are actually treating people in real life.

Do some people on here treat others poorly? Yes, but it's not solely fetishists, and being a fetishist does not imply that you are instantly a bad person. It's a part of your sexuality that you don't have control over and does not define you as a person. The solution to the problem is to bring people up to your level, not point fingers and throw stones. And on one final note, this is a fetish website that allows none fetishists on it. They do this to increase awareness of it and promote acceptance and understanding. If you have a problem with fetishes nobody is forcing you to stay, but you shouldn't be shaming them in their own home.

So after talking to some people it looks like Saturday, June 1st is the date to go with. Unless enough people can't make it on that day, in that case we'll change it, so if that's a problem say so or forever hold your peace haha. We still need to decide on a place, however, preferably something that's 18+, we want anyone that wants to come to have the chance to if possible. As before, if people want to get drinks later that's fine. Write your suggestions here or send me a PM!

What? Seriously, what?