When I stuff, I like to spread it out, not a massive amount all at once. More like a smaller meal every couple of hours, until by evening I can't believe how huge my gut is, I can't breathe deeply, I can't bend over, lie on my front, etc.

I also don't like to over do the salt or sweet, except right at the end of the day where I may eat a pound of cheesecake or have a creamy shake, to sort of put an exclamation point on things and make sure I'm stuffed to the edge of pain.

A few quick thoughts.

- You're 19 ( according to your profile). Overall weight tends to go on easy and come off hard. So really rushing gain now may not make a lot of sense anyway. You and your bc can each savour the memory of the fast twenty....because overall in life, you can't spend much of it gaining quickly.

- Along those lines....19 & 190 pounds. If you gained even ten a year going forward.....imagine 25, 30, 40.....

- Get your family off your back some by adopting healthier habits (more walking, less fast food, whatever) without making weight loss your goal. Will help you be healthy and plump going forward.

- You could perhaps plan short gaining intervals with your bc, something for you both to look forward too. ( "in the Christmas holidays I'm going to eat to gain. What can we plan to help pack on the pounds then?)

- At your weight and height I'd say you are hitting the upper limits of "normal" size. If/when you gain more you'llprobably start noticing differences in how you get treated. So maybe enjoy this soft and curvy but not blatantly far size for a bit?

1. You like fattening food.
2. You like to overeat.
3. You're tired of feeling guilty about your weight or appetite.
4. You hate dieting.
6. You find it erotic.


Well, I'm trying not to give in to my gaining desires, in part because 5 is not true for me. Were it true, it would be near the top of my list. My drives to gain probably would be something like.
6
8
Some combo of 1,2,3,4. I'd call it more like "You want to enjoy food without restraint"

Also 8: you like the way it feels.

ETA I'd also add 9: it is a joy to do something that you are talented at.

If either of you wouldn't do it with his gf present..... Then obviously there is something to hide, and whatever you call it, it isn't good.

You know how people put on weight in all different ways? Health issues from fat vary at least that much. So there is no "safe" size.....but also no fixed "do not get bigger than this" point either.

Huge blood sugar rushes can wear down your body, so learn about the glycemic index and how to identify the simple carbs that cause issues and to know what has more fibre that can balance things.

Stay active! Walking or swimming or the like will help keep your heart strong. Strength is important, both for carrying your weight and because working muscles is good for you. Don't be sedentary for hours at a time...get up and move around occasionally.

And the usual rules of good diet still apply. Eat your veggies, watch your salt, minimize trans fats, etc.

None of this is any guarantee of health, but it helps stack the odds your way.

I was about 170 lbs at the end of highschool, a bit over 220 now. Wife was around 140 at the end of highschool, was almost 240 seven years later, now 220 ish too.

I do really like the skipping idea, it is a great one! The only issue I could see is that many indoor spaces have ceilings that are too low for adults to skip comfortably, while many outdoor spaces could invite gawkers So while you are waiting to get that rope, figure out where you can comfortably do that one. For the stairs, if you have access to a building with a lot of stairs that don’t get much traffic, I’d make that how many stairs you can climb in one minute—going down stairs gets harder on the knees as you get fatter, so I wouldn’t suggest doing that in a rush.

A few more ideas (these are inspired by the Canada Fitness tests my age group had to do in grade school, but I replaced the tests with things that you could more realistically do--given that you are already fat and probably not in great shape--but which measure the same basic things)

- Wall push ups. Choose a distance from the wall to put your feet, such that with straight arms you are still leaned in toward the wall a bit. The do ‘push-ups’ against the wall. Best measure is probably how many good ones you can do without stopping, but could also see how many you can do in a minute. Just need to make sure that each time you do it the distance from feet to wall, and between your hands, is the same.
- Shuttle ‘run’ (walk, waddle….). You need a room or hallways with some length to it for this one (say at least 8-10 long steps for you). Measure a distance about six long steps for you (so that the distance will be the same each time you do this). Have three small objects (bean bags, cans of soup, whatever you can easily grab and carry in one hand), and put one of them on the floor at one end and the other two on the floor at the other end. Start behind the one object, lying on the ground in a push up position. At the start signal get up and hurry to the other end and grab one of the objects off the floor, then return it to the starting end, put it down and pick up the object that was there. Take it back to the far end, get the last object and bring it back past your start point. See how long the whole thing takes. There is getting up, accelerating, decelerating, bending down…all things that will get harder as you get fatter. Bonus for your guy if you do this in very little clothes.
- Time how long you can stand on one foot, then the other foot. Add these up, and see how this changes over time. Balancing on one foot works the core muscles, so the more out of shape you are and the more weight you have to balance, the shorter the time will get.
- (this one will leave some pencil marks on your wall). With a dull pencil held in your hand (so that it is not sticking out much) stand next to a wall, jump, and see how high you can leave a mark. Do it five times and see how high you can get. Obviously both losing fitness and getting heavier will limit how high you can jump.
- For this one you need a step or low (solid!) bench. Step up with one foot, step up with your second foot, step down with your first foot, step down with your second foot—that is one ‘step.’ Do as many of them as you can in 20 seconds (this checks your anaerobic capacity mostly, as well as strength in your legs versus weight)
- Choose some place where you can walk freely, like around a park or something, and figure out a fixed route around it. Walking as briskly as you can (even jogging, if you are up to it for short stretches) so how far you can get in fifteen minutes. This is more a test of longer-term endurance and wind.

Whatever you do, I hope you both have fun with it! (and if we are really lucky, maybe you'll tell us about it too?)

To the original poster.....one way to think is to think of the advice for losing weight and adjusting it to your needs. Like planning, many reducing diets have you plan your food for the day so you don't have too many calories. You may need to plan to make sure you have enough.

See, if your appetite works properly you will not be hungry after 'enough' food, so you might forget to snack. But if you plan your eating you will never be without food, and will eat even when not hungry :

Good luck!

I love reading about this stuff--vicarious stuffing beats no stuffing, lol. Sounds like you are having fun with it . Anyway, I hope you will continue to share!

I've been waiting to see you results-- congrats on the awesome combo of healthy and bigger!

Also congrats on the soon to be 2-0-0.