Ex Jock:
It’s really hard to find a feedee. I think that’s why so many of us go from feeder to gainer; to become our own feedee out of lack of options, but still wanting to act out the kink
Enas:
I doubt thats how it works. Speaking about me, i considered myself a feeder. It was (and still is somewhat) a big turn on to see really fat women's bellies so i was definetely one! But nontheless i kind of remember myself when i was even younger that i didnt care much about women but rather myself! I would stuff my bkanket in my clothes at night for example, but that was very early on! I dont know what made me turn into a feedee but during that period i never cared about getting fat myself! I even exercised a lot (because i like body contrast).
I think the situation is far more complex than this. I dont think we are feeders & feedees as clear roles etc, even if it appears as such. The situation seems far more chaotic. Its not like you will find what you really are if you "look deep inside". What you think you are is constantly fabricated, in a way, which is the only possible way this part of us can exist, i think.
I've met a number of men who start out as feeders before eventually becoming feedees - usually after they are unable to find a feedee of their own.
I think some of that is because they never considered getting fat as an option. Other times, it's nice to be the one doted on and catered to. Guys like princess treatment too.