thiccbell:
I'm not a gainer, don't have a goal, nor anything like that. I just find release in eating or watching others eat and stuff themselves that nothing else can compare. Literally nothing.
And yet I do have fantasies and tendencies of gaining incredibly large, by myself, fed by someone, or growing with someone. My mind can't just sit still on this. All I know is that I look at my own stomach and feel dejected that its "not like the others I see online". But recently I realized its even worse.
I just have come to hate every part of my body that isn't my belly.
I love how soft it is, how moldable and doughy and makes my stress fly away.
But when I look at the person attached to that body I can't love myself.
Wishing to be bigger, to eat more, or something seems very normal here, but few act on that impulse. The only reason I honestly dont do it myself its how expensive it can get, plus how many jobs and careers get cut off from growing that large.
But when I think that the lovely tummy thats growing in front of my eyes is still the same tummy of someone who hates everything else, makes me think.
Honestly, I never realized it before. When I joined the kink and this community I was all up for the body positivity messages and ambient, and even spread some of that myself. But I never felt comfortable wearing clothes that showed too much of my gain, and I always reflexively suck my stomach in without noticing.
I'm currently seeing psychological help, but as this is a weird case even for normal therapy, I was wondering about the experience of others who might know more about this kind of case.
Tbh, I think it's the nature of this site. Why else are there so my feeders turned feedees on this site?
You see post after post of people loving their fat bodies, craving more of it. You see them enjoy the process and start to think "That looks so nice. I want that for myself."
Low-key reminds me of the effect apps like TikTok have on teen girls and young women.
Why don't you take a break from FF? Not necessarily leave. But maybe take a week or two off. Perhaps more, if needed. See if that helps. You have a lot of conflicting feelings and need some time and space to figure yourself out.