How about "your belly is super sexy to me"?

But to address the question:

The main sign you may have overdone it is when you can't take care of yourself and need help to just take a shower or use the toilet or put on your clothes.

I admire people who love this so much they are willing to go to that extreme, but it's a huge step and definitely not for everybody!

I think people are drawn to the extremes but with this fetish there's a continuum of possibilities and the middle path will probably be best in most cases.

Thanks, though you may have killed the thread by answering it too well!

...help his/her feedee get as big as the feedee wants?

Or does he impose a limit to protect her health?

And if they agree on a limit before hand, but the feedee has a change of heart and wants to get bigger than that limit, what is the feeder's obligation?

See "How to Get Fat" on my site: askdrfeeder.dyndns.org

We can't help what we feel about things but we can control our actions. You should have said something like: "Dude, that's my wife. A little respect please."

And if they can't give her that respect and/or can't respect you wanting to be with her, they can't be your friends.

BTW, if you want to get on the mailing list for the SF meet-ups, email me at rfeeder@gmail.com'>drfeeder@gmail.com

SO many people have asked me or asked in various forums how to explain their feedist desires to their partner.

How many have been on the other side of that fence? Has your partner told you they want you to gain weight or want you to feed them? What was your reaction? Could they have phrased things better?

A milkshake is basically ice cream that's been thrown in a blender. Add chocolate sauce, fruit, candy, Kaluha, brandy, cream or practically any other goodies you can think of to taste. Don't worry, it'll be fattening. How much you'll gain is unpredictable because there's so much variation between individuals.