Sex work

I get that. But then you should talk about both. It makes no sense to ignore a commonly used community term. That's not in service to the community or people looking to join it.

Munchies:
I mean, becoming financially stable is important, but that's not nearly enough.

AskDrFeeder:
Never said it was. And I agree that people often place too much importance to money.

My point is that in the absence of a feedee or feedee candidate, one thing a feeder can do is get their financial house in order, to facilitate a feedist relationship should one come along.

Money can't buy happiness, but poverty can't buy anything.[/quote]

All I'm saying is that while fixing your finances is good general advice, it's incomplete advice for novice feeders that can lead to them forming incorrect conclusions.

I see it happen all the time. Someone (usually a guy, but not always) will lament how hard it is to find a romantic and/or sexual partner. Then someone will give them advice that's not bad but is more general stuff they should be doing anyway. Common examples include saving/investing money or having basic hygiene.

This leads to the original person interpreting the advice in one of two ways. Either they see it as a way to get what they want or that they should abandon their original goal in favor of following the advice. Often, the advice giver doesn't mean it this way. But since they inadvertently framed this advice as the solution to the problem, it's understandable how someone might think this way.

I do love me a big man.

However, that's not why it's so hard for a lot of male feeders to find a female feedee. In fact, female feedees tell people why it's hard for them to find someone all the time.

It's because so many of them suck as people. I'm not even a feedee and I regularly encounter male feeders who clearly are typing with their left hand, are pushy, mean, objectifying, or have serial killer vibes. It's genuinely terrifying sometimes.

So if you are a genuinely good person, understand it's going to be hard no matter what you do. There are so many guarded, jaded female feedees out there who will keep you at arm's length for a while for safety reasons alone.

Fair. Still, your personality doesn't determine if you are a dom(me) or sub. I know some firecrackers who are subs and some wallflowers who are dom(me)s. Remember that there's no one way to engage in power play.

As for guys not necessarily being into power play (I assume you meant ambivalent instead of agnostic?), it's complicated.

A lot of guys want to be as masculine as possible in the bedroom. For many of those guys, that means they want to be in charge. They'll either identify as doms or express dom-like behavior. However, a good chunk of those guys are only doing it be because that's what they think they should do.

This doesn't necessarily mean they are subs. They just have a narrow idea of how they should express their gender.

Is that the case? In my experience, most feeders want someone who is at least chubby.

Have you considered that you just aren't into BDSM? Because that's a viable option. It sounds like you are trying to put on a shoe that doesn't fit

If I've said it once, I've said it a thousand times. The issue is the practical application of AI. The technology in and of itself is neutral, but the way it's being trained and implemented is causing tangible harm.

Now, if you have had a positive experience with AI, I will never deny you that. But it's ignorant to say the concerns are overblown.

For example, training datasets heavily impact the user experience. In the case of chatbots, there's an initial data set that's heavily influenced by data scraping user conversation. This is why some (but not all) chatbots are heavily censored in certain areas. I've heard many a tale of chatbots suddenly becoming abusive and inappropriate because of their userbase's antics.

On top of all that, there's a privacy concern. Remember, the chatbots are constantly scraping your data. How much do you trust these companies to protect you from data breaches? How much do you trust them not to sell your data to the highest bidder?

If you wanna use these programs, I can't stop you. I ain't your mamma. But understand that those who do not trust or like AI chatbots have very valid reasons for doing so.

It can be, but not necessarily. It's a headspace where a sub feels safe enough to let go and submit to their dom(me)'s will. You can google for more details

It depends. A pleasure dom(me) is all about making their sub feel good. If the sub is into masochism, then they may inflict pain or torture their sub with pleasure (think forced orgasms). But if a sub isn't into that, then the pleasure dom(me) won't do it.

Think of it like the sub sinking into subspace while the pleasure dom(me) focuses on making them feel good.