DanielD:
Should I feel bad that I have been with my gf for 8 years and over that time have gained hundreds of lbs and she seems to accept that it's happened but not want me to gain anymore if that makes sense, yet I really badly want to keep gaining.

Munchies:
Have y'all talked about the situation?

DanielD:
So I had a chat with her and basically said how do you feel that I’ve gained so much weight and she said she loves me whatever size etc but when I kinda hinted to the fact I liked it she was almost shocked and has made a lot of comments since about being healthy and that she is concerned about the things that I have become unable to do.

Delta9:
If you tell a fat woman you like her because she's fat, it usually doesn't go well. They tend to ignore the "I like you" part and focus on the "you're fat" part. Only the very special and rare people of this community can accept something like that.

ILuvChubbyChix:
It's been years but I recall once reading an article that said that in the U.S., the average amount of weight gained for a traditional freshman (that is, 18 years old, just out of high school, enrolled full-time) was 6 lbs, and I think around an additional 3-4 lbs for sophomore year.

So, sorry to burst some bubbles.

Of course, that's an average. Some, lose weight.

Others, there's no statistically significant change.

And yeah, there's some who pack on a little, or even a lot.

What happens, and whether it does, likely depends on a great many things. The only constant is that transition from high school to college is a major one, where almost everything changes and disrupted.

Your day to day schedule changes dramatically. The town and where you live might have changed dramatically. Even the courses are different. If you have a job, that too is likely to be different. Even if you work at the same chain business, the layout of the store will be different as would be most if not all of your coworkers.

While there are other possible life events that might be comparable in terms of sheer disruption, these other events are not as likely to be experienced by most.

Shades:
I'm sure this will be familiar to many here and many will have similar experiences: you tell someone you like you're an FA and they don't take it well. It's happened to me quite a few times and I'm wondering if it happened again today... Sucks, doesn't it?

BBWBecky:
Looking for ideas on what to mix with it also has it worked for

BellyWeight:
My dreaded enemy is right upon my doorsteps.
Summertime.... We meet again.

I usually lose weight during the summer, I work outside all day.

If I can manage to not lose any this summer that would be awesome in my life's journey.

Morbidly A Beast:
Hey no worries I know you probably didn’t think that we have ruined bodies/faces it’s just important to check these ideas/feelings because they are indeed fatphobic even if self inflicted.

I’d just ask what your relationship with food and eating for myself, to deny my appetite had become completely unbearable but id also feel subconscious about how much I was eating - once I embraced it these negative feelings dissipated and I was much happier following what I wanted. Some people aren’t big eaters yet want to be fat and those kind of people I genuinely don’t understand. Being fat involves a lot of eating, if you don’t love eating I don’t really recommend being fat.

Bovine Princess:
I do have a complicated relationship with food, I both hate and like eating. For me, what appeals to me about becoming fat isn’t the eating, but being soft and big and cuddly.

James718:
Lol
God bless America.

So jealous!

I hope shes still gaining

Morbidly A Beast:
props to you for getting a choice in the matter I was already pretty fat when I decided to really give in to my appetite.

You should check your fatphobia tbh a lot of us fat people don’t have ruined faces.

Kitsune2:
I'm genuinely curious what do you two mean by "ruined?" I assume one of you is referring to a double chin which I will be honest I have mixed feelings with mine. OP might've worded their comment poorly but understandably they might have some self-esteem issues.

As a plus size woman myself I sometimes don't love my body thanks to my fataphobic family and how society pressures women to be skinny.

Bovine Princess:
Again, I’m sorry, I don’t mean all fat people have ruined faces. I was careless with my words. And I’m sorry your family is crappy to you for it. I specifically meant that I’m worried about not liking my face in particular with weight gain since I already have a pretty wide face