Again, if you tend to put on muscle over fat, this may not have the intended effect.

What are you already doing?

Or a mess of unsexy pain.

Except, there is a catch. Hard gainers (people who put on muscle mass) already use heavy cream to help them put on more muscle mass.

So, if he does that without controlling for anything else, he may just get more muscular.

I mean, if you think about it, just about every fandom is centered around OCs. Star Trek, Star Wars, Avatar: The Last Airbender ... all OCs.

I've got a friend who makes comics. His OCs get fan art all the time.

So, if you own the character and commision someone to draw fat art, it isn't fan art. But if someone is a fan of your work, and draws fat art of them or commissions someone to do it for them, then it is fan art.

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Ex-hard gainer here. I am curious to find out what you are already doing. It sounds like you are working against your body, not with it. But I want to be sure.

And this is why I say communicate

Yes I am from America. However, despite our sexualized media, we tend to be a bunch of prudes. The average American often will not have an open and honest conversation with their partner about their needs, wants, and fears in the bedroom.

I see it all the time. It becomes a comedy of errors that strains the relationship. And from the outside looking in, it could be so easily resolved if they just talked. I promise you, we are not as ahead of Russia as you might think.

Still, relationships where you can have open and honest conversations about anything and everything tend to last longer than the ones that don't. And that is because it's so much easier to strengthen the relationship and head off potential problems that way.

I know you say you can't talk about these things because of your culture. Frankly, that's not true. And I know this becuase your boyfriend shows all the signs of being willing to talk.

You are just scared. Plain and simple. Every single time you mention a desire of yours and how you can't tell your boyfriend about it "because we don't do that here" he always turns out to be okay with it. Even excited to do it.

I say communicate because it works. I do it with my feedee all the time. Even though I am his domme, I am not afraid to be vulnerable with him and tell him what's going on. He does the same thing with me as well. We comfort each other and figure out how to navigate our concerns.

I suppose you should first find out her views on fatness. Especially the two of you being fat.

Sometimes you gotta be in the moment. Enjoy the here and now. Otherwise, what's the point of doing anything?

Hey, love! Welcome to the community!

I'm an ex-gainer turned domme feeder, so I have a unique insight on some things.

Most importantly, your feedee is a person before anything else. A lot of feeders forget this and the feedee becomes a fetish object in their eyes.

Communication is key. If you cannot be open and honest with each other, it will not work out.

As for financial expectations, it varies from person to person. I will say be careful with paying for online feeding as scammers exist. I personally don't pay for my feedee's food, but I make up for it by wringing his balls dry. I also don't expect him to give me any money either.