Here are some comebacks to fat-haters. Might help, idk:

fantasyfeeder.com/cms/infusions/forum/view-thread.php

...is it to have a spouse who supports your gaining...

1. ...as opposed to no spouse or partner at all?

2. ...as opposed to having a spouse who doesn't care whether you gain or not?

3. ...as opposed to having a spouse who is anti-fat?

You can go out with a random woman and hope she's a feedee (or that she can be converted) but that's a long shot.

I think ff is your best bet. Pony up the extra $ to get a dating profile. If you're too poor or too cheap to pay for a dating profile, you're too poor or too cheap to be a good feeder.

Also, have a good profile that says what you're looking for. Include some good photos. Belly photos are okay but definitely have a couple of photos that include your face and what you look like dressed up and ready to go out.

And of course there's Winnie the Pooh after having too much honey at Rabbit's:

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Interesting that there's going to be an academic book on feederism. I suspect we won't like it, but I'm keeping my fingers crossed!

Maybe you should focus your blame less on her and more on a judgey society.

Those people at the windows never judge.

I gave some advice on this question that worked for one person anyway:

askdrfeeder.dyndns.org/letters.html#Amanda

Some people have had luck with #21 from "How to get fat":

21. If you hit a plateau--that is, if you reach a certain weight and don't seem to be able to gain anymore--try losing weight and then gaining it back. Usually the re-gain is faster and more intense than the original gain and you'll end up gaining more than you lost.

1. For general gaining advice, see "How to Get Fat" on my site.

2. There's also an interesting blog by a vegetarian gainer: growingcurves.blogspot.com/