I know of one SSBBW who had her ice cream cone taken from her and thrown on the ground by a stranger telling her she did not need it.

Here is someone who really had their life ruined. She met a feeder and went from 200 something to 600 something. Her parents did not approve and let her know that, Her feeder left her when she couldn't gain anymore to find another feedee. She was unable to care for herself and had to move back with her parents who kept up with the "I told you so." She decided to have weight loss surgery, which is very risky. She died from it.

for women, it is a size 14

Actually, you can probably make up phrases, and people would understand. Things like "a growing friendship," or "someone who likes gain a fun time." Just use words such as grow or gain. It gets past the censors.

Sounds like another "I'm taking my marbles and going home" post.

There is another problem too. I remember when KellyGirl was popular in the feeding community, no matter what weight she was, everyone commented on how she will look so much better when she gains more. That must be frustrating to always be under a "perfect" weight.

Those terms are used more in certain areas. In Baltimore MD, they are used a lot. I noticed here in Southern NJ, they are used in Gloucester County, but not the other ones.

Anything new happening? Still seeing her?

Saying that someone is too thin, and saying they are too thin for their preferences, are two different things. It is rude to say that someone is too anything. However, people are allowed to have their preferences. But people should be civil about stating their preferences.

I don't see why everyone is so pessimistic about this. Finding someone with a very strong physical attraction can lead to something serious. And even if it doesn't, it can be a lot of fun. People are more willing to bend if they really want the relationship to work.