Well then, what have you talked about with her? I mean, is she thinking erotic feeding like in "9 and a half weeks"? Or more of sub/dom thing of giving up control so she gets to pig out but without guilt because it isn't in her control? Or even a humiliation thing? Or is she doing it because she really wants to turn you on and knows that this is a fantasy of yours?

Figure that sort of thing out, talk with her of her expectations, she what thoughts and concerns and suggestions she may have....and keep a sense of humour about the whole thing.

Well, it is entirely possible that she doesn’t know, which would make it pretty hard for you to figure out. People often have a really mixed up bundle of motivations. I mean, it wouldn’t be that unusual to love food, to associate good food with special occasions and good things, to like the feeling you get after eating rich food, to enjoy the ritual and socialization that often comes with food, to find food sensuous, to enjoy rebelling against the idea that women should be eating diet food all the time, to take some pride in her body and that she can comfortably eat more than can skinny women (both in terms of comfort and without affecting her weight), to enjoy the positive feedback she probably gets from you for enjoying her food, and to enjoy flirting with the taboo doing things that could cause her to gain weight.

Is that a foodee or a feedee? Lol. Throw in fresh romance, and it is even harder to tell, probably (people will often deviate from their long-term normal while enjoying a new relationship).

Anyway, outside of this community ‘foodee’ is more often ‘foodie’ and implies someone who is more of a gourmet, who really does almost live for food, but for the tastes and experience, not necessarily a big eater of ordinary food. So unless she’s hung around places like this, she probably doesn’t even have the vocabulary to start classifying what she likes (if she cared to classify it, many people don’t). So I’d think the only way to find out would be to ask her a lot of questions, and I’m guessing you are reluctant to do that or you wouldn’t be trying to guess.

I suppose the safe thing is to assume for now that she is more of a foodee?

One thing that is not clear in your post....has she already agreed to a feeding, or do you need to convince her first?

I've only occasionally shopped in men's big & tall stores (I can buy clothes there, but also regular stores that have more seleciton and are usually cheaper. 've just never quite let myself indulge my desires far enough to where I have to shop there....). When I have, large clerks have been in the minority. Often a tall guy, occasionally a somewhat heavy guy, often some women whom are at most a little bit chubby. I've always been disapointed by that, but whether that is just that I wanted some inspiration or if I feel that they'd be better at the job, I'm not really sure.

I like shopping for my wife, who mostly needs plus sizes stores, and it is pretty rare to see non-fat clerks in those. I've occasionally seen ones who are not skinny but who probably don't have to shop in the store where they work, and that doesn't bother me much so long as they are good at their job.

I did it a couple of times, or more precisely a couple of times I let my eating desires out from their usual restraint, gained ten pounds in about six weeks, and realized that I wasn't ready for the consequences of totally cutting loose.

I went from 170 - 180 when first in university, and I did manage to lose it again....but that six week gain took me two years to get rid of.

Nearly a decade later, I'd gotten up to 200 a year after getting married, and while my wife was away on a work placement I cut loose, and hit 210 in (at most) six weeks. I never really lost that weight (did get down a few pounds below it a couple of time, but have mostly been over it by 5-15 pounds).

Both times I was happy with the gain, just not willing to make the associated life changes required to really indulge my gaining side. I know that those experiments didn't help in everyday life, but really no regrets. I need those occasional indulgences to keep myself sane-ish

Pretty much everything Moonchild wrote!

My extreme fantasies tend to run to fat communities, where being incredibly huge is made easier by being in a community of similarly fat and fat loving folks.

Fantasies run from the plausible (condos custom designed to deal with those who are huge, with lots of folks living there and growing, knowing that they will be comfortable there), to the fantastic (a sci-fi space station catering to the very large, with rings at varying fractions of earth gravity, where you have to be rather large just to get admitted, and as you keep getting fatter you move to lower and lower gravity, with the fattest floating in zero-g, able to plump up to impossible sizes.) The common thread being not just the couple involved being into the massive size, but also encouraging others and being encouraged by others.

Another taboo-ish fantasy is a couple both getting very fat, to the point that they can't manage intercourse any more, then hiring thinner people to be their sexual proxy...but then fattening up that third until they are also too fat to serve, and having to bring in a new relatively thin person...

Just like Moonchild said, accepting that this is a fantasy doesn't mean having to pursue it. Rather, I actually find it easer to ward myself agaisnt sliding bits of this into my real life when I'm well aware and aquainted with these desires, so I can recognize them when they crop up, and make a conscious decision on whether or not to indulge in them.

From a few cases I've heard of, I suspect that most often immobility happens after an accident of some sort. As mentioned, you can build the strength to carry a lot of weight, although it will get more and more tiring and painful. But one fall where you twist and ankle and mess up your knee, and you could have a hard time recovering (really can't put a massive weight on the injury, so can't keep up that strength, and if you were marginal in the first place you might fall below any sort of functional mobility)

What I was always told, for men's belts, was that the belt size should be one bigger than the size of the pants (so 56" waist pants, 58" belt).

Good luck!

Aside from the 'can you' issues that everyone else mentioned....there is 'should you.'

At the very least, you should be very careful with what food you were stuffing with. Giving yourself crazy blood sugar spikes is rough on your body, and when you are pregnant it is rough on the baby as well. Nobody is perfect and babies are pretty resilient, but probably best not to partake in most extreme types of behavior while pregnant.

LOL--So true