We can't help what we feel about things but we can control our actions. You should have said something like: "Dude, that's my wife. A little respect please."

And if they can't give her that respect and/or can't respect you wanting to be with her, they can't be your friends.

BTW, if you want to get on the mailing list for the SF meet-ups, email me at rfeeder@gmail.com'>drfeeder@gmail.com

SO many people have asked me or asked in various forums how to explain their feedist desires to their partner.

How many have been on the other side of that fence? Has your partner told you they want you to gain weight or want you to feed them? What was your reaction? Could they have phrased things better?

A milkshake is basically ice cream that's been thrown in a blender. Add chocolate sauce, fruit, candy, Kaluha, brandy, cream or practically any other goodies you can think of to taste. Don't worry, it'll be fattening. How much you'll gain is unpredictable because there's so much variation between individuals.

Not you specifically, but if the shoe fits...

I do notice that a lot of feedee reach their goal and realize it's not enough.

So the reality is more challenging--that makes sense.

Is the reality BETTER in some ways though? Which?

It's a very sexual thing for many. So the support of whomever one has sex with can be critical, or at least preferable.

I'll be there!

So for those of you who have tried an experimental gained (gained a small amount of weight--10 or 20 lbs or so--to see if you might like gaining more):

1. How much did you weigh to start with?

2. How much did (do) you plan to gain experimentally?

3. Did you gain the experimental weight as planned?
a. Yes, but decided to lose it.
b. Yes, but decided to maintain right there.
c. Yes, and decided to gain more.
d. No, haven’t yet.
e. No, I decided not to.
f. No, gained some of it but then decided not to gain more.

4. How much do you weigh now?