It seems like things get worse as fast as they get better. Do you even have dedicated SQA? Version control? Regression testing? With this complex a system you need to be organized.

Isn't it any easier to eat after two years of gaining?

One suggestion I've made: make it so you can't request a chat with someone who's already in 4 (or so) private rooms. This would keep people from being inundated. It would also sometimes save requesters from rejection.

Some say 10%, others say enough that other people will notice. Which is probably close to 10%.

See fantasyfeeder.com/forum/posts

I had the opposite issue, actually...I went so long before I met anyone into this that I automatically self-censored.

When I finally went out on a date with a feedee, saying the words "feeder" and "feedee" out loud felt really weird!

Have you read "How to Get Fat" on my site?

Here are some comebacks to fat-haters. Might help, idk:

fantasyfeeder.com/cms/infusions/forum/view-thread.php

...is it to have a spouse who supports your gaining...

1. ...as opposed to no spouse or partner at all?

2. ...as opposed to having a spouse who doesn't care whether you gain or not?

3. ...as opposed to having a spouse who is anti-fat?

You can go out with a random woman and hope she's a feedee (or that she can be converted) but that's a long shot.

I think ff is your best bet. Pony up the extra $ to get a dating profile. If you're too poor or too cheap to pay for a dating profile, you're too poor or too cheap to be a good feeder.

Also, have a good profile that says what you're looking for. Include some good photos. Belly photos are okay but definitely have a couple of photos that include your face and what you look like dressed up and ready to go out.

And of course there's Winnie the Pooh after having too much honey at Rabbit's:

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