Have you read "Deciding to Get Fat" on my site?

askdrfeeder.dyndns.org/htgf.html

Next time he says that say "Well, you'd better feed me some doughnuts then!"

Looks like quite a chore to eat!

Anyway, I really think you should have a heart-to-heart talk with him about this.

I've noticed that a lot of people go ahead gain without discussing it with their partner and just keep their fingers crossed and hope it works out. It's kind of a crap shoot. Possibilities:

1. The partner never says anything about it and is to be okay with it or even learns to like it.

2. The partner never says anything but is not okay with it. It becomes the elephant in the room.

3. The partner doesn't say anything until the feedee has gained way more than they're comfortable with. The partner demands that the feedee diet--of course that's not always possible or acceptable.


I would say that both people in these relationships are being remiss. Weight issues on are very often hard for people to discuss, regardless of which partner is doing the gaining.

So I understand that it's hard to talk about, but I still don't really get why people don't do it. Can you even enjoy gaining if you're so worried about the consequences?

Tough call.

If you love each other, and your gaining would kill your sex life*, and your sex life is crucial to your relationship, consider putting the gaining thing aside.

Feedism is great but love is better.



*some men have trouble getting it up for women who are too far from their ideal weight range. Of course he might not even know his own limits in this regard.

Requires a "standard poke" as mentioned previously.

I can only think of ways that are too complicated. Anyone?

Then what are people being nominated for?

I think many find ff to be a refuge from a world where their bodies are frequently judged and found wanting. So this might not be the best place for such a contest.

No doubt! I mainly wanted to do a reality check, and see if the consensus of opinion was with me.