Interesting that there's going to be an academic book on feederism. I suspect we won't like it, but I'm keeping my fingers crossed!

Maybe you should focus your blame less on her and more on a judgey society.

Those people at the windows never judge.

I gave some advice on this question that worked for one person anyway:

askdrfeeder.dyndns.org/letters.html#Amanda

Some people have had luck with #21 from "How to get fat":

21. If you hit a plateau--that is, if you reach a certain weight and don't seem to be able to gain anymore--try losing weight and then gaining it back. Usually the re-gain is faster and more intense than the original gain and you'll end up gaining more than you lost.

1. For general gaining advice, see "How to Get Fat" on my site.

2. There's also an interesting blog by a vegetarian gainer: growingcurves.blogspot.com/

Or maybe he genuinely believed them.

It only turns me on if she's eating something that will likely lead to weight gain.

If she works out a lot and can eat a lot without gaining it doesn't do anything for me, even if she has something fattening.

One of the San Francisco ff meet-ups was pretty jovial.

"Wow," I said. "We sure are perpetuating the myth that fat people are jolly!"

As everyone laughed, one woman said: "We are!"

I try not to use euphemisms myself but here you go.

Euphemisms for weight-gain:

1. filling out
2. putting on some pounds
3. rounding out
4. getting chunky
5. looking well-fed