Tritta93:
Everyone on this forum is open about weight and weight issues, but at least for me not so much in real life. I wonder how usual this is.

When my husband and I started dating 10 years ago he had put on a belly - maybe 240 at 6’0”. I had known him a little bit before he went to college - he was friends with my older sister - and he was in good shape then but put on some weight in college. I thought he looked handsome (obviously or I wouldn’t have kept dating him) and he must have known that but we never talked about his weight.

We dated for a couple years and I knew he was putting on weight - nothing crazy but it was noticeable. I don’t know how many pounds but he wore 46 pants when we got married. We’d talk about food and how much he loved this or that or practical things like a bigger shirt but never about the fact that he was gaining weight. (I don’t think he intentionally gains weight I think he sees it as part of life).

Since we’ve gotten married (and he’s gotten bigger) we still don’t talk about it. Is this normal? I’m not sure what I’d want to say if we did talk.

WhiskeyMickey:
Someday I want to make the ultimate feedee experience for someone. What would be someone's dream stuffing? Would it be for multiple days? Certain things or places? I'm curious what I can provide to my feedee for the ultimate experience.

Munchies:
It honestly depends on the feedee.

For example, my feedee loves it when I stuff him to the brim - to the point of passing out. He's even happier if I keep him like that all day.

Other feeders won't enjoy this. You just have to ask.

WhiskeyMickey:
I love the idea of doing that for someone. But like you said it's up to them really v

WhiskeyMickey:
Someday I want to make the ultimate feedee experience for someone. What would be someone's dream stuffing? Would it be for multiple days? Certain things or places? I'm curious what I can provide to my feedee for the ultimate experience.

stevita:
What's she gonna do, roll up to the 99 cent store right now and shank me in the back in front of all these witnesses while I shop for a goddamn soup ladle? Sneak up on me tomorrow in the bathroom at the downtown Marriot and chloroform me on the way to my job interview? Contact my boss and tell him I'm a psychopath and I'm trying to destroy her reputation in the feedism community? (Pro-tip: don't drop the F-word with someone's employer. It'll only invite questions you don't want to answer.)

She can't call the cops on me for defamation because I already called the cops on her for the food tampering and I told social media about it. There's also the abandonment of marriage (she's still married on paper to a woman in Pittsburgh PA), the grand theft auto, the missing person report, and at this point, I think technically kidnapping, hostage-taking, and blackmail. Not to mention physical assault. I talked to the wife she abandoned and she fled Pittsburgh and drove to Houston in a shitty Chevy Spark because there's a police report in Pittsburgh that states she attempted to throw someone down a flight of stairs.

I'm not really worried about my abuser coming back to hurt me. As far as I'm concerned, she's immobilized herself with her own recklessness.

Don't drink the coffee at Nordstrom.

stevita:
Food tampering behind your feedee's back.

Munchies:
Breech of trust aside, food tampering can straight up kill a person. And if caught, you may face jail time depending on local laws. Do not do the thing.

stevita:
Thank you!

I am strictly a feeder and NOT a feedee, but earlier in the year I caught my supposed "feedee", who also identifies as a mutual gainer, in the act of slipping chemicals into food meant for me, after this individual promised me that my smaller stature didn't make me less attractive to them despite their publicly advertised preference for heavier partners on social media. As a general rule, I don't "doxx" in public, but if you or anyone want to message me in private, either on here or on Tumblr, I can give you the name, phone number, tumblr url, residential address, vehicle make and model (although I don't know the license plate or VIN number), and workplace of someone to avoid at all costs.

Really, though, I'm most interested to share the workplace, because this person works in foodservice. So here it goes.

If you find yourself in Houston, TX, don't drink coffee at the e-bar on the ground level at Nordstrom.

stevita:
Food tampering behind your feedee's back.

Reflection of Perfection:
When a feedee says "hey I'm X weight now" saying "you need to be bigger" is such a d*ck thing to say unless theyve mentioned they like hearing it. It makes it sound like they're not good enough or you're never satisfied.

Most importantly no means no. Unless someone's into force feeding and pushing their limits, if someone says "stop" when they're stuffed, listen.

Also let them decide what they want to eat. I see all these dudes go "imma feed dese here weight gain shakes and they gonna get fatttt" and it's like, what if they don't want them? What if they don't want McDonald's, heavy cream, etc. Let them decide what they want.

Lastly, have some personality. Coming off as a creepy fetishist just looking for one thing is going to turn everyone off. At least pretend there's more to you than "how mush do u weigh can I feed u why u no answer"

English feeder:
I have often thought it would be great to create a CO OP and buy some land and and sell off plots for prefabricated dwellings purpose built for super sized people. To create a fat positive community. Including feeder, feedee relationships. With rental units for people who cannot afford to buy in to the CO OP.
In my vision or dream there would be people of all sizes living in a fat harmonious community.
All residents are fat or have a fat partner.
With amenities such as swimming pool. A non profit shop run by the residents. With communal areas and events.