I like my stuffings to be a long slow build. Start by eating steadily but not crazy amounts for hours if not a day or two, so feel quite full and almost bloated for some time. That part is fun to do in public, but broken up enough that it is not obvious.

Then I like to finish with some crazier eating and drinking (a while cheesecake, bottle of pop, type thing), at home, in loose clothes (like pajamas)

Of course you can. In particular lots of people have the desire for both, although in some cases they'd still prefer to focus on just one side at a time, while others would rather be mutually gaining. To make a ridiculously broad generalization, if you like power transfer associated with the gaining process, you probably want to focus on one side at a time, while if you just like fat and getting fatter then mutual gaining is more apt to what you want (but like all generalizations, there will be exceptions)

Between one thing and another, I put on ten pounds between early December and early February. I tend to have a ball belly ('vascular fat', i.e. fat in the abdominal cavity, rather than just under the skin), and the weight mostly seemed to go there--the 'ball' part of my belly was really popped out.

I spend a lot of time in front of computers, so am often a bit slouched. Last week I was trying to get more active again, and went for a long walk, and tried to have good walking posture: head up, shoulders back, chest up. But my body seemed to resist. I really forced it and managed to get my chest up, but then it was hard to breath.

Finally I realized what had happened--with all the fat in my abdomen, my abdominal muscles were stretched out over that larger lump. Trying to straighten up wanted them to stretch out more than they could, until I really pulled, at which point they just squished stuff up, squeezing my lungs.

I'd never though of gain having an impact on posture before!

Pretty much where I've lived for years. After all, we all need to stop sooner or later, so it is good that you find an internal resistance point, before external factors make you stop

Do you only like it with watching two guys you aren't involved with, or would you want to see your guy getting it on with another guy? (just curious)

1) 215-ish

2) Probably 190-200. I doubt I could be manage to be less than that.

I agree with Maximum. So, why not explore your various desires through fantasy and fiction? Give yourself full permission to let your fantasies go everywhere, and even try to push them one way or another and see how they work for you. Also read stories here, and idea.ly try writing your own stories (even if you never post them). As you work with the ideas and feelings more, you'll come to know them better :-)

On Christmas eve my wife made what was in essence a full Christmas dinner. Then Christmas Day we had Christmas dinner with extended family. Then boxing day we were at my parents annual boxing day brunch for neighbors and family, which is basically just three hours of eating.

By the end of all of that, my weight was up 8 pounds from all the food stuffed into me. Needless to say I was also riding a wave of endorphins, it felt amazing.

I was thinking "wow, I'm really not going to want to eat much for the next couple of days." But the complete opposite happened. Even after eating more than normal I was completely ravenous, like almost all I could think about was eating. My stomach had quickly gotten used to be so stretched out, I think, and anything less seemed like it was being starved.

I tried to resist, but I did keep eating more than normal for a while....all the while craving to just get totally stuffed again. I've not cut loose like that in years, and I'd forgotten just how mentally and physically addictive it can be *whistful sigh*

Everyone reacts to birth control differently....my wife (girl friend at the time) went on the pill at 19, fairly thin, then gained an average of 15 pounds a year for half a dozen years, before going off the pill. (She dropped some then, and has been roughly stable since then)

At least in theory, the point where they go "Wow, I really am fat now, enough to really notice it, be slowed down and inconvenienced by it, fat enough that really I could stop gaining now and just enjoy being fat enough.....but I think I want more than being fat enough, I'm going to keep going."