Is it my imagination (or my wishful thinking) or are feedees less conflicted than they used to be? It seems more and more of them jump right into gaining and don't look back.
10 years
fanedfox wrote:
I recently saw "Gone Girl" with Ben Affleck and Rosamond Pike. Later in the film, Rosamond Pike's character is pounding down junk food in nearly every scene. Her character is wearing baggy clothes, so she looks bigger, but no detail. I did enjoy the eating scenes.
SPOILER ALERT!
I didn't get that part of the movie, couldn't figure out why she was gaining.
So I read the book.
The conceit of the book is that while the main couple hate each other and make each other miserable, they are each at their best when they're together...a weird sort of competitive blame game is going on.
When she leaves the guy, she is NOT at her best...her overeating and gaining dramatize what a useless slob she turns into when her husband isn't around to spur her to great heights of imitation saintliness.
In short, not a fat positive movie at all. And the weight gain is the cheapest kind of Hollywood pretend weight gain: she starts wearing baggy sweatshirts and sweatpants that suggest she's got something to hide.
10 years
Smallgrowingbelly wrote:
Hello Fantasy Feeder Community,
I have a problem I need help with. so I have a job lined up for this summer and I need to become a lifeguard by then. I worked there last summer, I loved it, and I really want to work there again even if it means losing what little weight I have now... but I hope it doesn't come to that. I need advice on balancing exercise and weight gain so that I will still be strong enough to pass the lifeguard tests but still soft enough so that I can play with my belly when I feel like it. Advice on gym frequency or food habits or anything else would be a great help. Or if you think this just isn't possible and if I really want to work there I should just lose the weight don't be afraid to say that to. Thanks for any help you can give me.
-smallgrowingbelly
Figure out the fitness requirements of the job and make sure you can pass them. Any weight you lose will come back quickly once you stop exercising.
10 years
I'd say it's when they don't let you in because you ate too much last time.
10 years
thisbshawn wrote:
If you like buffets then eventually you'll meet someone at the buffet, if you like books then you'll meet someone at the library. Just live and let be then you'll find exactly what you need
Good post. Now if there were only combination library/buffets...
10 years
Of course it's common for people to feel guilty for overeating or for gaining weight.
Does anyone ever feel guilty for NOT overeating? Or NOT gaining?
10 years
ineffablecraving wrote:
How often do you guys do this meetup? I'm not in the Bay Area but I'm in Sacramento so I'm close enough. Would love to attend the next one if I'm able. Sometimes the online community isn't enough, it would be nice to get together with other feedists in person.
We've been having them every three months or so but we're going to start having them more often. You should email me at
rfeeder@gmail.com'>drfeeder@gmail.com and get on the mailing list if you're interested.
10 years
adreamforthedead wrote:
I'd do it but it would take too much prep, and I don't like banana splits.
Have your feeder do the prep! And you may substitute some other 600-calorie item for the banana split.
10 years
Meet-up was very nice. Five men, two women, all-you-can-eat Asian food. Hard to top!
10 years
diggers1917 wrote:
Out of interest, what are your opinions when it comes to men identifying as feminists (not just as sympathisers/allies etc)? I remember being involved in a conversation with a few feminist and otherwise sympathetic friends on facebook and the conclusion seemed to be that it could be a bit problematic. As a man, calling myself a feminist is a bit like calling myself a great lover or talented composer: it's not for me to say, it's for others to decide or recognise. As it is, I am very sympathetic to feminism and my opinion of people generally increases when they express feminist sentiment.
Feminism is not a talent--it's just belief in a certain principle. It can be a hard principle to fight for or live by but simply believing in it is pretty easy.
10 years
