Chubbywifewantadvice:
Coping and pasting my question from reddit.
AITA for thinking my husband was embarrassed by me when we ran into his old girlfriend while at his sister's wedding ?

Fake names. Me (33f) and my husband David (33m) recently attended my SIL's (36f) wedding. My husband and sister-in-law Emma had went to the same high school, and back then David had dated one of Emma's friends, Julia (37f).
During the reception, my husband ran into Julia. She was fit, and very young-looking. I on the other hand had gained a lot of weight. My fit and young-looking husband was very flustered talking to Julia. He told her that she looks "so good" and "so fit." He said she "only got better looking since high school." Julia smiled. When I walked over to them, my husband looked so uncomfortable. There was a weird delay before he introduce me to her.
When he introduced me, his voice was low and he held his head down. I felt fat. Long before, my husband would show me off when he introduced me. Years ago, he would introduced me as "my gorgeous wife" or "my beautiful wife." Now, it was like he was embarrassed.
Back at home, I confronted David. I asked him if he was embarrassed by me because I look fat and old. My husband said he wasn't embarrassed and he said "you're a mom." It feel like an insult because Julia is single and has no kids. It felt he's saying that it's okay that my body is ruined because I had his kids.
Later that night, we almost had sex but he kept getting soft on me. The man who always wakes up hard, and who gets hard if there are certain actresses on TV. I'm not crazing right ? Am I the asshole ?

Chubchubreturns:
grommr

Morbidly A Beast:
we just need to get everyone on one platform. One with social media aspects with a forum for more effort posting.

Fantasy Feeder with curvage UI but like social media instead of media/clip promotion is like the perfect idea. Problem with curvage is that it’s almost entirely female feedee/male feeder orientated.

Olga01:
Yes, you are quite right, Amos tells that Yahweh , because of lack of unconditional faith and love for Him from Israelites, sent to them draught, locusts, shortage of food and water, and some military losses. But, says Yahweh through Amos, these punishments didn't make Israelits to love Him as He wants, that's why He promises to punish them even more.

So Amos quite clearly says that the cause of shortage of food and water was not oppression of elites, but natural disasters sent by Yahweh.

Thus, these troubles couid not show fat women in elite or any other members of elite, fat or lean, in any compromising way. They didn't receive their plenty of food at the cost of hunger of common people. This hunger emerged by quite independent reasons, and according to Amos, because of behavior of this people itself. According to Amos, Yahweh punishes the people with hunger not because of sins of elite, but because this people's own independent and free way of thinking. So the picture of fat women in the beginning can't be tied with famine in the next verses.

It is true that Amos directly says (without relation to the famine) that these fat women oppress the poor people, but it is a striking feature in this passage that he speaks only about fat women, while in reality lean women of elite would be no less and no more oppressors, than fat ones, and providing food for overeating women of elite just couldn't be any real additional burden for common people. It is not any amount of food for elite that can be real burden for the common people. If any ancient or medieval people would have only to supply the elite with extra quantities of food, the people just wouldn't notice such expenses.

So these words about oppression are used here just as a standard rhetoric phrase, and real hatred of Amos is directed against hedonism of these women. Not against fatness "by itself", of course. Amos condemns these women for the fact that they unrestrictedly please themselves and fulfill their bodily desires, and desire for food is one of the most standard objects of such attacks, while fatness is taken as a natural expression of the sin of gluttony. Of course, Amos wouldn't say a word against fatness caused by heavy metabolic disease.

By the way, Islamic authors such as al Hajj, firmly distinguish obesity caused by overeating and fat acceptance and other sensual motives from obesity caused by illness of metabolism, and they condemn only the former but not the latter. Of course, Amos attacks fatness of these women not as merely feature of their physical appearance, but as embodiment of their drowning in sensual and bodily pleasures, in this case in food consuming.

Olga01:
Yes, you are quite right, Amos tells that Yahweh , because of lack of unconditional faith and love for Him from Israelites, sent to them draught, locusts, shortage of food and water, and some military losses. But, says Yahweh through Amos, these punishments didn't make Israelits to love Him as He wants, that's why He promises to punish them even more.

So Amos quite clearly says that the cause of shortage of food and water was not oppression of elites, but natural disasters sent by Yahweh. Thus, these troubles couid not show fat women in elite or any other members of elite, fat or lean, in any compromising way. They didn't receive their plenty of food at the cost of hunger of common people. This hunger emerged by quite independent reasons, and according to Amos, because of behavior of this people itself. According to Amos, Yahweh punishes the people with hunger not because of sins of elite, but because this people's own independent and free way of thinking. So the picture of fat women in the beginning can't be tied with famine in the next verses. It is true that Amos directly says (without relation to the famine) that these fat women oppress the poor people, but it is a striking feature in this passage that he speaks only about fat women, while in reality lean women of elite would be no less and no more oppressors, than fat ones, and providing food for overeating women of elite just couldn't be any real additional burden for common people. It is not any amount of food for elite that can be real burden for the common people. If any ancient or medieval people would have only to supply the elite with extra quantities of food, the people just wouldn't notice such expenses. So these words about oppression are used here just as a standard rhetoric phrase, and real hatred of Amos is directed against hedonism of these women. Not against fatness "by itself", of course. Amos condemns these women for the fact that they unrestrictedly please themselves and fulfill their bodily desires, and desire for food is one of the most standard objects of such attacks, while fatness is taken as a natural expression of the sin of gluttony. Of course, Amos wouldn't say a word against fatness caused by heavy metabolic distress. By the way, Islamic authors such as al Hajj, firmly distinguish obesity caused by overeating and fat acceptance and other sensual motives from obesity caused by illness of metabolism, and they condemn only the former but not the latter. Of course, Amos attacks fatness of these women not as merely feature of their physical appearance, but as embodiment of their drowning in sensual and bodily pleasures, in this case in food consuming.

Beachside Farmer:
There is nothing like this site left around. Curvage is the only site left with a forum.

BigOke02:
Oh? Anything like Feabie then?

Munchies:
Sadly no. There used to be more feedist sites, but they all crashed and burned over time. Now, if you wanna check out a site that welcomes feedists but isn't strictly a feedist site, you might want to check out Fetlife.

BigOke02:
Thx I'll look into that 👍

Beachside Farmer:
There is nothing like this site left around. Curvage is the only site left with a forum.

BigOke02:
Oh? Anything like Feabie then?

SquishMaster:
Hey all,

ChatGPT has this feature now called "Deep Research", where it tries to use online sources to research your Q's and give you accurate info. So naturally, I asked it how to gain subcutaneous fat over visceral fat lol.

My prompt:
"I know that gaining weight has its issues. But I've heard that subcutaneous fat is actually not that bad compared to visceral fat.

How can I ensure that I only gain subcutaneous fat, if I were to try and gain weight?"


There was a little back and forth about what my goals were exactly, but it ended up providing a pretty comprehensive answer. It's too long to post here, but here's the summary:

"Bottom Line: Gaining weight primarily as subcutaneous fat involves eating more calories (focus on fats and carbs), minimizing stress and sleep loss, and keeping some muscle-building exercise in your routine. This favors a softer, “plusher” physique while helping to guard against dangerous belly fat. Even with this goal, remember that very high body fat carries health risks; regular checkups and healthy habits (sleep, stress management, no smoking) are important as you go about gaining weight safely"

I mean, who knows how accurate it really is, but it's neat that it'll tell you things like this!

Faaaat:
The packaging says glutamate but it might be the translation, so I guess MSG. Also not eating it by itself but putting it in food.

Faaaat:
Hey, I was wondering if anyone has any experience with glutamate? like how much can you consume safely at one time or in a day?