Myusername4fantasyfeeder:
Quick check: have you ever actually fed anybody ever? And not just like somebody who was ill, but somebody in an explicit "I am a feeder and I am going to feed you" way.
PolyPinoyPuppy:
No. You?
EDIT: I visited your profile and maybe the better question is if you have insight to share from a feeder/feedee relationship, regardless of which side of that you fell on, which you believe needs practical experience to truly understand. I'll readily admit that I have gaps in my knowledge and shortcomings of experience. Part of why I'm here is to learn.
I've read a lot of your posts. You seem like a really sweet guy. Just focus on what works for you. Feedism looks different for everyone. And it's really dumb to say someone isn't a feeder if they've never fed anyone. It's like saying you can't be "insert sexuality here" if you're a virgin.
3 years
So, I was chatting with someone just now, and then FF glitched. Next thing I know, I'm looking at someone else's private conversation. I back out as soon as I saw it, but dear lord.
I shouldn't be able to see other people's conversations. And I pray to God they are not seeing mine. This is a *huge* privacy violation that MUST be fixed.
3 years
Dynamo:
Hi gang. I'll try to make a looong story short so I can get to my concerns.
This year I got wholloped with depression, and that caused me to lose some weight and hit the couch, too bummed to eat. I finally got back to the gym (because I love feeling strong and muscle/chub combo) but then in another unrelated activity, tore an elbow tendon. I'm slowly back into gentle workouts now. So this year I've been sedentary more than usual, and losing weight.
I wanna put it back on *and more.* However... My blood pressure is high (131/85). I also have a scale that reports visceral fat, and although I know it's not totally accurate, I watch the trend, and that's going up which I'm sure means blood sugars are up as well. (I'm predisposed to Diabetes.)
I saw the other thread about blood sugar and will be following that advice. I'm kind of bummed that I can't just "pack it on" and I'm not even "that big" yet.
I guess getting a lot of cardio in will help fix high bp? Clearly less sugar. AND still put some pounds on?? Has anyone been in this kind of position? Tips or advice?
If your blood pressure is too high, you need to cut your salt intake. Are you eating a lot of processed or pre-prepared foods? Do you cook with seasoning mixes? If you are, you're probably consuming a lot more sodium and you realize.
Also, cut back on caffeine. It constricts your blood vessels, which makes high blood pressure worse. Switch to tea if you need something to get you out of bed in the morning.
3 years
Myusername4fantasyfeeder:
Stop talking. Start doing. You are a feeder. Feed somebody.
Munchies:
This is terrible advice. I talk to too many feeders who have this mentality. They are honestly the worst part of the site. They do not care about you as a person and want to get their rocks off.
They don't listen. You are nothing to them.
The other day, I got a message from a feeder who only wanted to feed someone. I told him I was a muscular domme feeder and wasn't interested. Still, he persisted.
I did scare him off by telling him he was cute and would look even cuter on my strap. So there's that.
Feeding - especially online feeding - is an art. And if you want to do it well, you have to get to know the other person on some level.
Myusername4fantasyfeeder:
I take your point, but the point of being a feeder is to feed. Things like "online" or "encouraging" or "talking about it" are marginalia, and I get the impression for people on FF that the marginalia has taken over to the detriment of actual feeding
Soldiers fight. Pilots fly. Jugglers juggle. Runners run. Somebody calling themselves a feeder has to feed.
Again, it's an art. If you go at it ham-fisted, you'll scare off the feedee.
Every feedee is different. Some like things more forceful and degrading. Others like it more soft and sweet. But either way, there has to be clear communication and mutual respect.
You're right that it's easy to get lost in the minutiae. But it's still an essential part of the process. It's a balancing act that varies from person to person. And you won't know what ratio you need until you get to know the person on some level.
I promise you it works. That's how I snagged my feedee.
3 years
bcain:
As of late I’ve been digging the concept of a fat person coaching a skinny person into their true fat potential. Teaching them their fattening habits and watching them blow up in the process.
This reminds me of an RP I'm going with a friend of mine on here. It's a fun scenario.
3 years
Myusername4fantasyfeeder:
Stop talking. Start doing. You are a feeder. Feed somebody.
This is terrible advice. I talk to too many feeders who have this mentality. They are honestly the worst part of the site. They do not care about you as a person and want to get their rocks off.
They don't listen. You are nothing to them.
The other day, I got a message from a feeder who only wanted to feed someone. I told him I was a muscular domme feeder and wasn't interested. Still, he persisted.
I did scare him off by telling him he was cute and would look even cuter on my strap. So there's that.
Feeding - especially online feeding - is an art. And if you want to do it well, you have to get to know the other person on some level.
3 years
I would like more non-predatory feedism please. I get people like it, but most of the stories on here feature predatory feedism, and I can't read that kind of stuff. I usually wind up on AO3 to get my fix because there's more variety.
On a happier note, I'm very fond of stories where the feedee/gainer's belly is a project of some kind. Say, a bonding activity between partners, a challege for the feedee/gainer, or the feedee/gainer is part of something where they have to get fat or est a lot which leads to them getting fat.
Here's a free idea. Person A wants to be a cooking YouTuber. Person B offers to taste test or eat the food Person A makes. The channel does well, and Person B gets fat. Their belly and weight gain become integral to the channel.
3 years
I'm an unmedicated diabetic and an ex-gainer. My diabetes is diet controlled.
It is entirely possible to gain without making yourself sick. You just have switch up your diet.
For example, avocados, nuts, high-fat fish, and milk are all good ways to gain weight without spiking your a1c. It's just that it won't be as fast eating donuts and cakes.
3 years
It would be nice if DMs functioned the same way as chat.
3 years
WhiskeyMickey:
I find it hard to find a person to chat with that I feel very comfortable with. I'm not looking for a relationship, I really just want one consistent lady to share my thoughts and ideas about the lifestyle. I find most women either like me for my weight, want money for food, or just want to chat and run never to be heard from again. It's hard for me to talk to people, so finding someone I feel comfortable with is very hard. Does anyone have the same issue?
Yo~
I'm not looking for a feedee or anything like that. But if you just wanna chit chat, I'm always game.
3 years
