Fantasy Feeder

My girlfriend doesn't know she is a feeder.

Munchies:
Noticed you live in Texas. Lotta Southern women are like that. Not even as a kink. We get a man we love, and it's almost a compulsion to keep his belly full and happy.

fatrnfatr:
Food = love in many cultures. Is it about doing something nice for the family, a tradition centered around holidays, or just about making traditional southern foods which are by nature fattening?

Munchies:
All of the above. In some parts of the South, a well-loved man is a fat man. Especially if you've been together for a while. There are definitely women around here that fatten up their men to show he's taken. Strangely, it's not even a kink for most of them.

GrowingLoveHandles:
Munchies, how right you are. These women kind of “mark” their man with a belly created by their fabulous cooking.

And the men are more than happy to fatten for them. They dream of finding someone to grow old and fat with.

3 years

Munchies

Plus size women, but overweight men? what's the deal?

Miachu:
The same can be the same in the media, with plus size women being called empowering

But larger men, don't get anything like that also

What's the deal with this?

Thaynor:
"Plus size" women are being called empowering because they are kinda conveying the notion larger women can just exist and be happy irrespective of what others think of their appearance. Larger men can already do this, guys being overweight is more normalised than it is for women where for them they kinda deal with a lot of ugly stuff for even being 10lb or 20lb heavier.

Like, I really kinda don't mean to be a total bummer about weight on a fat appreciation website, but, it's so strange to hear a guy envy how overweight women are treated by a society rigged with male gaze in mind. Especially as not every overweight person likes to be reminded they are overweight or finds their weight attractive, which is totally really each their own. Genuinely not really an attack, but just, odd to hear it even here.

It's the equity vs equality debate. A lot of people say they want equality, but what they really want it equity.

Equity takes into consideration people's differences and acts accordingly.

For example, equality is giving people the same bike regardless of the rider's size, shape, or phyical ability. Equity is giving everyone a bike, but adjusting the bike to their needs.

There's a lot of intersectionality you need to take into account when it comes to being fat in public. Age, gender, disability status, sexuality, race, income levels, and other variables impact how people treat you in public. Calling fat women "plus-sized" is an attempt to reclaim dignity that the world at large wants to strip away.

3 years

Munchies

My girlfriend doesn't know she is a feeder.

Munchies:
Noticed you live in Texas. Lotta Southern women are like that. Not even as a kink. We get a man we love, and it's almost a compulsion to keep his belly full and happy.

fatrnfatr:
Food = love in many cultures. Is it about doing something nice for the family, a tradition centered around holidays, or just about making traditional southern foods which are by nature fattening?

All of the above. In some parts of the South, a well-loved man is a fat man. Especially if you've been together for a while. There are definitely women around here that fatten up their men to show he's taken. Strangely, it's not even a kink for most of them.

3 years

Munchies

Told my partner about this fetish and now idk how open i can be about it

Milhause:
Sorry for the long post but I felt context was necessary.

TLDR: Wife knows about my fetish and turn ons but idk how to live my truth while not causing her negative emotions.

Back in March, I (34M) opened up to my wife (34F) of seven years about being a FA with some feeder kinks. I explained what a FA was and told her I was sharing all this info with no expectations.

Since we met she’s always been overweight (5’5”, 190-200lbs) and she has done weight watchers on and off to little success. She did lose weight for our wedding and I cheered her on while doing so. I just want her to be happy in her skin regardless.

I finished talking and bottom line, she listened without interrupting, didn’t respond with judgment and thanked me for sharing. She didn’t run for the hills and the convo kind of died there. Since it was a lot of info, I didn’t press the issue.

Around early May, I decided to do a soft check-in to ask how that info was received and if she had any questions or googled anything afterwards. She said from what I told her that it all seemed self-explanatory so she didn’t look anything up. She didn’t seem interested in talking more so I dropped it.

Last week the topic of turn ons came up organically. I asked if she’d feel comfortable with me sending her some of mine and she agreed so I gave her a list of vanilla ones and soft kink-related ones. She said she’d keep them in mind. I reiterated that I never want her to be in an uncomfortable space just for my benefit so this was more info for her to do or do nothing with as she saw fit.

One of my turn ons that I listed was tight jeans or leggings that emphasize one’s round figure (I’m thinking specifically of her cute belly but I didn’t say that) and/or wearing clothes a size too small to really get flirty.

This morning she came out into the living room to the laundry pile to look for a top. I noticed that her work pants were zipped but she couldn’t do the top button. Ive suspected she’s gained some weight recently but had no way of knowing. The waistband she used to wear over her belly button now sits below her navel and the hasp can’t close!

Needless to say I was in awe but I still don’t know if saying something like “The way those jeans hug your figure really drives me crazy” would elicit a positive/negative reaction. Since telling her some of my turn ons I feel like she’s *maybe* doing a few on purpose but I can’t 100% tell. I don’t want to say something dumb like “Are you wearing those tight jeans for my benefit” if that’s not the case and then cause her to feel self-conscious.

I’m struggling to figure out how openly I can live with this while being respectful that she might not and might never see her body the way I do so I don’t want to be a source of body issues.

I guess I can always keep my compliments vague but then it feels like I’m going back to hiding a part of myself.

You are too wrapped up in your own head. This low key reminds me of those dramas where the two protagonists monologue in their heads while the audience screams "talk to each other".

She knows you like tight pants. Either she did this to turn you on or she didn't but she knows you are into it either way. If you are worried about offending her, say something like "I really liked the way you looked in your work pants the other day. Would you mind wearing them for me?"

This way you state your interests plainly without making her feel self-conscious.

Don't be coy. Don't be vague. She's your wife, not a mind reader. Be clear, but make sure she knows she has the final say.

3 years

Munchies

Thinking of doing my first stuffing soon

Ditzy:
Why people think it has to be fast food or sweets just eat what you normally like just more of it.
Go slow for your first time and don't over do it.
If at all possible choose good food not junk food.
I made that mistake and had some awful indigestion and heart burn.

They go for the junk food because they want to get fat fast. Why else? Plus it's the ultimate sign of gluttony.

Shame that most people don't understand what happens when you overload yourself with unhealthy foods. Good way of getting sick.

3 years

Munchies

My girlfriend doesn't know she is a feeder.

Belly Getting Bigger:
I've been around 315 pounds for about the last 6 or 7 years.
Got together with my wonderful girlfriend about 4 years ago and now I'm teetering in single digits under 350.

She always feeds me too much saying how. She is going to fatten me up so I can't run away. ( Such a turn on ).

Love my life.

Noticed you live in Texss. Lotta Southern women are like that. Not even as a kink. We get a man we love, and it's almost a compulsion to keep his belly full and happy.

3 years

Munchies

Does anyone else have trouble stopping?

I stopped, but I'm much lighter than most of y'all on here. I moves my goal weight I think 8 times. I loved getting bigger and seeing the number climb. However, I did not love the mounting inconviences that came with it.

Mind you I was never truly fat. I gain 50 lbs in about 3 ish years, but that is primarily muscle with a small layer of fat. You can still see my abs and such. But after a certain point, it just stopped being fun for me.

I'm maintaining now. Transitioning from active gain wasn't the easiest thing, but I was determined. I suppose it helped I was finally happy with my body.

3 years

Munchies

Non sexual feeders

HappyMe:
Are there any feeders here that want to help me gain weight without sexually messaging? I am asexual and would like support in getting fat. I am 5'2, 255lbs and have a waist circumference of 54.5 inches. I would like a 62 inch belly, because then I am as fat as I am tall

I'm a cishet woman, but I've been wanting some female friends. I wouldn't mind helping you gain if you're interested.

3 years

Munchies

Thinking of doing my first stuffing soon

NotAnotherFA:
Like the title says, I’m thinking of trying a stuffing soon. Any recommendations on what I should get? I’m thinking of fast food and cakes/other sweets from the grocery store.

Mix savory with sweet.

Don't fill up on soda (for best results, don't drink it at all for first stuffing unless you need it to burp).

Don't over do it with the salt and sugar lest you deal with the after effects (sugar crash and water retention)

Get a mix of food so you don't get sick of the taste.

Protien is very filling, so don't over do it.

Lay of anything that makes you gassy as it may lead to stomach cramps.

Mix in some fiber in your stuffing session to help move things along.

Don't feel bad if you can fit a lot inside for your first stuffing. You'll be able to fit more with practice. If your prepare well, you should be able to sit there and lose yourself to your gluttony.

3 years

Munchies

Fakes

Cinnamonfantasy:
Exactly. If I hold conversations w time wasters all day I will literally get nothing done. The people who actually want to feed you will & quickly. It doesn't take hours of chatting to see if you like someone's personality.

Most of them just want free sexting

Had a guy like that last night. He was searching for a thin woman who liked fat guys and had only joined the site a few hours ago.

I was in a "mess around and find out" kinda mood, so I told him to dazzle me. Completely through off his groove now that he had to really work for it. He deleted his account not long after. Never got dazzled.

Even if you're here for the free sexting, you gotta put in some effort. I am not a vessel for someone else's pleasure.

3 years

Munchies