Chimneychonga:
Male attraction works a bit differently. Although I can appreciate someone with intellect and personality, sometimes that doesn't translate to the guy downstairs. Believe me, ED wouldn't be a problem if that's what all guys needed, much to women's chagrin.

Letters And Numbers:
I guess my thought is, if a fetish is interfering with your life to the point where you can’t have a normal relationship with a partner, and if that’s a problem (it might not be), sex therapy might be a solution. Maybe I’m wrong, but finding a partner who checks all the boxes (except physical looks) and who ALSO doesn’t want a sexual relationship might be a tall order. I mean, if someone told me they loved me and wanted an intimate relationship but they were unable to have sex with me because of how I look … idk. Not saying they don’t exist, but it’s an extra hurdle.

X_Larsson:
Yup! Thanks! But I have a couple of comments.
First. Feedism is not a fetish (which is more an object related deviation). I have read basically everything I have seen online (and in print) about the feedism thing, and it seems the authorities struggle to fit it into either the BDSM box (a big, fat no), or into more body transformation or parafilia related deviations (also a no go).
Feedism refuses to be put together with other deviations, is my view on this, just like homosexuality etc.
And feedism is not a "size" distinction. It is about the whole relation to appetite, food, consumption, gaining, AND size (and more?).

Secondly. (And I will be a bit tough here.)
What kind of attitude is it to say, that I cannot "have a normal relationship with a partner"?
Do you also tell straight people to enter relationships with homosexuals? Or tell 18 year old boys to marry 80 year old women?
If they objected, would you then send them to sex therapy?
Ok, on a lighter side. I have thought long and hard about sex therapy. It seems that the therapists generally want the client to explore and embrace their "natural" sexual preferences, unless they are illegal or revolting, like necrophilia or koprophilia.

That said, I also think it is a big spiritual defeat to resign any sexual aspirations in order to have at least a partial relation. Hmmm...

Chimneychonga:
Male attraction works a bit differently. Although I can appreciate someone with intellect and personality, sometimes that doesn't translate to the guy downstairs. Believe me, ED wouldn't be a problem if that's what all guys needed, much to women's chagrin.

X_Larsson:
Kind of a serious question...
In my daily life, I see virtually ZERO women I am attracted to, and it is primarily their looks/size/body type I am not appreciating, but often also their personality, morale or view on life.

However, occasionally I meet a woman with whom I share at least some intellectual and psycological common ground, and where things are fun and drama free.

Soooo.... If the first option is to NOT date at all (as in never finding a feedee of suitable age and personality), is it better to set upp some semi-platonic date with an otherwise suitable woman, even if she is not fat, feedee, foodie, or gainer?

I am not talking about some sort of fake sexual relationship (yuk), but about enjoying the romantic side of things, but with no assumption it will lead to sex.

Yeah, that was the odd scenario... Are there aspects of mental health, self preservation and sanity that can be so vital that they outweigh (I had to write it) the consequences around not being sexually compatible? At least not when entering into the dating phase?
Or is it even worse to actively setup a relation that is a fast track to some sort of "friend zone".

Eyez:
I'm 190 lbs and my appetite keeps growing the more it grows the more I eat and all I wanna do is stuff my face

And when in full I get hungry again an hour later

And when I have a bag of chips I just wanna sit down and eat all of them at once

Letters And Numbers:
Definitely not normal. And definitely don’t look at any of the other threads on here with people saying the exact same thing. All an illusion.

Eyez:
Too late

LydiaFatOttter:

We already have a verification system why is the verification logo not more visible around the site

Stevita:
Probably my biggest comfy fantasy is having a feeder/feedee picnic outdoors, with a basket full of all their favorites, maybe some wine, compete with talking, joking and cuddling on the blanket out in the outdoors.

For solo ideas: I'm a feeder not a feedee, but even I like this: pamper yourself with snacks in the bath. I used to do this when I worked mornings, I'd just grab my breakfast and eat it in the bathtub, and it was usually something basic like a poptart or a toaster waffle, and I'd do it for time economy rather than enjoyment, but I did enjoy it. I would imagine myself somewhere fancier, with waitstaff or something to bring me my breakfast in the bath instead of the run-down apartment I actually live in, and sometimes...sometimes that got me through the fkin day.

Eyez:
I'm 190 lbs and my appetite keeps growing the more it grows the more I eat and all I wanna do is stuff my face

And when in full I get hungry again an hour later

And when I have a bag of chips I just wanna sit down and eat all of them at once