ForeverFFA:
I'm not a gainer, so this isn't as devastating as it might be for some people, but I was curious to hear the opinions of others like me. Does anyone else who experiences episodic or chronic conditions that result in low appetite/nausea feel that this impacts the experience of their fetish/kink?
Right now I'm going through a particularly bad spell, and even the sight of rich foods can turn my stomach. But even in general I have difficulty comprehending the gluttony-related element of this kink, because overeating seems like so much tedious work, rather than a temptation to give into!
Morbidly A Beast:
Gluttony isn’t the right word it’s voraciousness, it’s the compulsion to eat and eat a lot of food, and if you don’t have much of a appetite it might seem like a lot of work but to me it just seems like I’m eating a meal. If that makes sense. It’s not like I’m eating with an intent to stuff I am eating with an intent to get my fill.
ForeverFFA:
Fair point, and it made me realize what I wrote was a bit unclear: I wasn't saying that having a large appetite is inherently gluttonous, but that I don't get the specific appeal of gluttony as a concept. And I think it's precisely because of my own lived experience.
Morbidly A Beast:
Imagine having a hunger that persists even after a large meal or while eating. Imagine there never being quite enough.
Some people will never understand it, and that’s okay, not everyone is a glutton
ForeverFFA:
I think we're talking at cross purposes because I meant that I don't understand it in the kink way, not that I don't understand people who actually feel ravenous. Hope that clarifies?
Munchies:
Being gluttonous is all about eating in excess. Whether it's eating a lot in a sitting or eating smaller meals throughout the day, it's still gluttony. I've met feedees and gainers in this community who cannot stand being overly full but are still pretty gluttonous. So being a glutton isn't the same thing as having a big appetite.
Anywho ~
I'm an ex-gainer who's always had periods of low/no appetite. It certainly slows down the gain and can be very demoralizing. However, it gives you a chance to get used to the weight and stop whenever you want. You also get to keep your clothes and other things for longer.
I think this topic is well worth exploring. I want to write a lot about this, but I need to get my thoughts together on this. There is so much emphasis on bodies, but gluttony and appetite and fullness are definitely part of the kink for me.
There are many stories here which extoll the pleasures of this kind of gluttony, over-fullness, voracious appetites, etc.
I would look to the stories by Shores. She does a lot to explain what this is about, and how it fits into kink from the feeder point of view.
I’ll try write about it from the feedee or gainer pov later.
1 year
I messed that up somehow. I will fix it later. When I have some patience.
1 year
If your gf wants to shave her head and you know you'll find this totally unattractive, you'll try to stop her and you won't be judged for that. It's absolutely normal to try to prevent a change you know will affect your attraction to your partener as long as at the end of the day you let her decide and you don't manipulate her.
MalyPrinc:
I agree. Let them decide. Don’t manipulate.
All kinds of things are acceptable in fiction and Fantasy, but irl, your partner is not your puppet.
Some individuals don't understand that bodies of their partners are not their business. And it's not ok to try to prevent a change you know will affect your attraction to your partner.
The best partner is the one who will always support your decisions about your body. Period.
We are all going to change. We will age. We will wrinkle. We will grow fatter or skinnier. We will lose hair and then grow hair in new and unusual places. We will have scars and wounds.
There are changes you can’t control or decide. If you’re in it for the long haul, you know:
Love is more than just attraction.
And if your partner wants to experiment with changes, unless you find them so odious they make you I’ll, then give them their space.
My body. My life.
I think I heard that one somewhere.
1 year
Bellyblubber:
I remember the exact moment that it felt like something really changed about my brain chemistry.
I was in kindergarten and I was out to eat with my friend and her mom, and her mom said about her, “Wow, Abigail’s already eaten so much I bet her belly’s grown three times it’s size!”
I laughed, but then I thought about it. I just remember feeling really funny inside and kinda warm and confused. Even that young I started doing a little experimentation to try to find out why I felt that way, but I didn’t know why. However, I gradually learned what stimulated that feeling the best. By the time I learned what sex and sexuality were I was already head over heels for weight gain, stuffing, and bellies, exploring myself to them before I knew that’s what I was doing.
When I found out that what I’d been doing with myself to thoughts about my friends was inherently sexual, I was terrified. That led to me feeling guilty for having any sexual feeling about anything or anyone at all. After that it took me a while to think about sexuality again at all, but mental images of full bellies and cartoons with exaggerated stuffings and weight gain haunted me and occasionally broke me. It was years before I let myself feel this way again and started working on a healthier relationship with my desires.
This fetish is even the reason I realized my bisexuality. Eventually I had to start wondering why I never stopped imagining other women getting stuffed and gaining. At first I just assumed it was a representation of me, but when I started to realize how I felt seeing other girls in my class in those situations, had to admit that maybe I was different than a lot of other people in my southern community.
Nowadays I’m pretty comfortable with what I like, I just don’t feel comfortable letting people irl know about it. I’ve come to terms with my sexuality including these BIG parts of it, and I’m pretty happy and I don’t feel guilty for being the way I am anymore. More recently (a couple years ago), I even started embricing the part of me that always wanted to gain weight for myself. I never could because of life circumstances, fear of judgement, etc., but now I’m really enjoying it.
I think you raise a couple of notions that seems common for many of us.
First, for many of us, this thing occurs before puberty and often before we really understand sex or sexuality.
And second, as we move into puberty our thoughts and feelings about weight gain and fat and big bellies is often not merely confusing. It’s downright damaging. You feel shame and aloneness. You dare not mention your “perverted” thoughts to anyone.
Thank goodness for this site and others like it. For me, I realized there were many others like me when I read an excerpt from Dimensions Magazine in Harpers Monthly. From there, the internet opened up a lot of this for me. Thank goodness.
1 year
Hopefedee:
It’s allowing me to ignore what’s social acceptable and feel truly myself. It’s liberating to let myself go and grow and become soft and sexy. The Greeks painted big soft curvy women and I aspire to look like the women in this classical art that western society loves so much.
And don’t forget the artist Rubens. His depiction of voluptuous women created a new word for their appearance— rubenesque.
I’m so happy for you.
I think our society is sick to worship thinness. Beauty is too big a concept to be contained by a single size or shape.
What is socially acceptable is not what’s always good. It’s just “normal” propped up by “customs” and “just the way things are” thinking.
Look at all the horrible things that are “socially acceptable” — racism, misogyny, love of money, greed, violence, war, death of innocent people, hunger, want, homelessness, theft and deceit by corporations, structural inequity and inequality, bigotry.
I apologize for getting a bit off topic.
Gaining means happiness and freedom to be who you were always meant to be.
1 year
Angy523:
Sooo...we were happy and everything was really good. He gained more weight and I felt like he is the sexiest in the world and the sex was awesome. Also, I asked him many times if he feels good about his gaining and he told me yes.
But yesterday he wore his uniform after 1 month and he felt his belt was hurting him. And today his annoying mother told him he got too fat. A few hours after that he told me he wants to lose weight until his uniform will fit well again. I tried to tell him to adjust the belt, but he told me it's the right size, but it hurts when he sits and the belly hangs over it...or when he bends. So I had to accept this argument. Ofc I don't want him to feel pain.
Before judging me again, I want to tell you that I LOVE HIM no matter what. And I will love him even if he'll ever be skinny. But I was sad all day because I just know I won't see him as attractive as I see him now. And we had many problems with our sex life because he thought I'm not as attracted to him as I should...it wasn't true, I was either stressed with some exams or having other problems and I explained to him. But he always doubted that.
Idk what I'll do when this would be actually true. I know I won't be attracted as I am now. Ofc I'll still like him, but it will be a difference for sure.
Usually the best solution is to talk to him. But how should I tell him something like this? I would be selfish af. And I love him and I want to support his decision. But this just makes me sad...he also saw I was sad today and asked me to explain it and I tried to find an excuse.
ForeverFFA:
It's okay to feel disappointment about those kinds of things, and I disagree with other people saying that makes you somehow a bad person for having those feelings. It's important to respect his wishes, obviously, but it sounds like you already know that. Have you thought about asking him if his sudden desire to lose weight is just about the uniform fitting, or if it's something deeper that's concerning him right now? That might be a place to start.
Feelings are just that, feelings.
I don’t know anyone who can totally control their feelings. It’s what you do with those feelings that matters.
You’re not a bad person. I’m not one to judge anyway. You never asked to be judged in any of this forum. You asked some advice.
I’m not one to give advice on this, but I think you are pretty wise in your approach and your thinking. You can listen to what others suggest, but it’s your future and his future. You all get to work it out and decide what to do with your love.
And it sounds like you both have great love and respect for each other. Best to you both through all these difficult times.
1 year
I was 132 just before the pandemic.
About a month ago, I weighed innat 226.
I’ve gone from normal weight to obesity class 2.
Morbid obesity is not far away.
I really should stop or at least slow things down. But it’s the holidays, so I feel I don’t want to deprive myself of so many of pleasures — stuffing myself, feeling that full full belly feeling as my stomach and skin stretch to their limits to accommodate my gluttony. Also, that sweet feeling of a thickening waistline as you outgrow your clothes. And finally, it’s arpusing at every step of the way.
Before the holidays, I was gaining about 3 pounds a month. I’m sure I’ll be up another 3 or 4 pounds — probably more — in New Years Day when I will weigh and measure myself again.
I plan to lose some weight in 2024. I have a few pals online and in real life who plan to lose with me. We decided the holidays were not a good time to start, but January 1 may work.
Who knows what will happen?
1 year
What are the limits on the number of people you can follow? Mine never seems to get past 94. And sometimes, when I hit follow on someone I’ve already followed, it gives the message that I am just “now” following them.
Please let me know.
Also, I would love to know who all is following me, not just the ones I can view on my profile. I’m sure others have suggested this.
I love this site and I appreciate all your hard work. I don’t have premium but I hope to keep contributing stories and comments and discussion.
Thank you all for all you do.
1 year
Here in Appalachia America, it’s pies of all kinds, and biscuits and sausage gravy and buttery cornbread, corn pudding, green bean cassarole, buttery mashed potatoes, bourbon balls, ham roasted with pineapple, cloves and cherries.
Butter has been on sale since before Thanksgiving and we make abundant use of it in everything. It’s the Season of Pies here.
I could just eat it all up.
And I do.
1 year
Or over abundance, some might say.
But I’m not just talking about pies, and stuffing, and feasts ad treats.
There is an overabundance of great stories in this season — including a delicious non-premium tale from the genius of Stevita. Folks are writing and updating more than I can enjoy.
I’m a regular glutton for well-written feedism tales, and I’m stuffing myself nonstop this time around.
Thank you, ff authors! You fill this season with good cheer and tasty visions of sugarplum fattening.
The only bad thing is I’m trying to write my own Christmas story and finding myself unable to finish due to these delightful reads.
If you haven’t done so, get into the story section. You won’t be disappointed.
Zonker
aka growinglovehandles
1 year
