SSBBW's and USSBBW's can live with a lot of pain, just existing in their bodies. My ex was no exception. Many nights in a LTR with her, she was in too much pain to have sex. Which was never a problem. She would lay face down on her belly and stick her butt out for me to hide my head in. Just breathing in her buttcrack like this was enough to get both of us off. Her butt was big enough to not only envelop my entire face, but my ENTIRE HEAD.
literally heaven on earth, that place
4 years
There's something to this. Things have gotten a lot better in the past 10 years, but growing up it was a lot different. Back then, even having a slightly fat butt (like a Kim K butt) was grotesque and obscene. There have been a non 0 number of fat women I've had a crush back then who are 10/10 knockouts who rejected me, only to then settle down with someone WELL below their league, sometimes 10 or 20 years older than them, who also happen to have colorful histories with abuse and manipulation. The only girls I could pull in were twigs on the cheer leading team. Maybe being told you'll be unlovable and forever alone if you're fat all your life has it's consequences....
Bless the body positivity movement and it's progress in the culture.
4 years
Is there a pill I can take to have no bones?
4 years
phatkat:
The main reason I see for including transgender as a gender option is so people can choose to exclude transgender profiles from their searches. "I want to date males, but only if they are cisgender" for example.
Baba Yaga:
Thats exactly why we need that option. I'm uncomfortable with someone with male parts hitting on me the same way a gay woman would be uncomfortable with a cis-man hitting on them. If someone "indentifies" as a woman but walks the street a man, Id like to know that in a profile search.
The transgender option is a way for people to know what they're getting into and less people get hurt or insulted.
By this same "logic", you would benefit from a female to male transgender search option
4 years
Seems like Heavy Whipping Cream is the talk of the town these days. Avoid sugars. Embrace fats.
4 years
Just wanna take a minute to point out how much of a chiller WideJuan76 is. It's users like this that keep the community alive.
4 years
Masuli, that's very true. It's a frustrating divide to see. Female feedee's (in general) expect to be paid for fat chat by male feeders, and to be given paypal for food. But this does not go both ways. Because the same is true for female feeders! It's not uncommon when you find a FFA on feabie to see them link their paypal account and be expected to be paid first to interact with you (you, aka the elusive precious dedicated feedee who apparently only has value when you were born with a vagina). Why are men, and those who present as men, or even gender neutral people with male bodies, completely unable to monetize their fetish like women are able to without catering to the gay community? Hansi's superchubs, and other USSBHM marketplaces seem to be only patronized by men. I''d love to study the history of this. Sex work is almost exclusively purchased by men. That's really interesting to me and I'd love to get closer to an answer that goes beyond our western puritan roots. Is it something deeper? How we are wired? Or is it just a cultural holdover from our more sexist past?
4 years
I second what BreadZeppelin said. I feel like I am so sensitive to communicate that I'm not a creep, that I don't even know how to talk about feedee/feeder stuff in conversation when I meet that 'one every 5-10 years feedee connection'. It's like this bubble that lands in my hand, and there's nothing in the universe that can stop it from popping in a split second. It's a lot easier to break the ice in person, like at dances. But you see these feedee's with feeders they met online and I just don't know how they do it. How are they talking about how huge and fat they want them to be, how they want to encourage them to never get out of bed and become lazy fat whales, while still letting them know you are interested in them as a person and partner? It's feels like trying to hold your breath and breath at the same time.
4 years
Never mind the fact that I'm fairly certain that there's only about 5 or 6 people who are legit feedee's on the entire planet and not just selling a fantasy as sex workers (nothing wrong with that line of work, just saying), I'm real tired of making seemingly legit connections with these one in a billion needle in a haystack feedee's and engaging in these multi thousand word emails with them while knowing that there's a 99.99999% they're gonna delete their profile soon and go missing. When I get the rare message from someone in this community, I'm pretty apathetic right off the bat. It's like I can see a month into the future and I just can't keep doing it to myself. It's at this point where I'm just as guilty of disappearing because I'm unable to keep having that happen over and over and over again
4 years
As someone who has been full body paralyzed for 8 months, I'm a lot more willing to gain to immobility these days. Just for the simple fact that I've already been immobilized, and it could happen again with or without me getting fat. And that's terrible!
4 years
