There are many factors, so I don't know what you should do.
But note: 1.) the older you get, the less anyone gives a damn about what you do; 2. middle-aged people tend to be fatter than young ones anyway.
So there will be less societal pushback than there would have been if you'd gotten fat young.
1 year
To all who object to the word "coax" above:
I see your point, but I certainly oppose forcing, tricking, pressuring, manipulating anyone into gaining weight (or losing weight, for that matter!) and did not expect "coax" to imply any of that. But fine, let's get rid of "coax". What term would you use?
1 year
For those of you whose partner was initially not interested in gaining weight and who eventually came around and started eating more and gaining:
How did you do it?
Or if you were someone initially not into gaining and was coaxed into it:
How did they do it?
1 year
Is it anyone's goal to get as fat as possible without getting too fat for bariatric surgery?
Is it it anyone's goal to get TOO fat for bariatric surgery?
Has anyone had either goal and reached it? What happened then?
1 year
Measure yourself as you gain, see where the weight is going.
1 year
...eat so much you can't eat another bite and feel sad that you have to stop?
1 year
AskDrFeeder:
In a fatphobic society it is assumed that no one wants to be fat--if you are fat you must be weak and undisciplined. So you feel guilty when you eat a lot because you've been taught that it's a sign of weakness, of failure.
If you can transcend these social taboos and accept that you love overeating and getting fat you'll be able to get fat without guilt. But that is not always easy.
Eveline Evergreen:
I’m scared cause I have this believe all my worth is at being skinny
It’s like my only quality and the reason people are nice to me
So getting fat is just me giving up my life
But I want to be fat so bad
It's rough. You might have to give up some of your old life, I don't know. Or you might find that people value you for other things than your slenderness. You won't know until you try gaining and see how they react.
Also note that you can build a new life. A feeder or gaining buddy or gaining buddies can help enormously.
And of course you can also try the Glutton's Pledge...some people find that useful in developing the proper gaining mindset and learning to transcend fatphobia.
1 year
Intentional Gaining philosophies.
Can you think of any more? Which one are you?
1. Careful planner -- you decide on how much you want to gain, gain that much and stop.
2. Stage by stage -- you gain a certain amount and then re-evaluate, possibly stopping, possibly gaining more.
3. Letting go -- you focus on eating all you want and gaining all you want don't think much about weight limits unless it becomes an issue.
4. Max -- you try to get as big as possible.
5. Stuffer -- you're more into stuffing and getting really full. Gaining is just a side-effect.
6. Like #3, but with the additional goal of going out-of-control.
1 year
MountainChub:
Can you suppress the fetish and find happyness trough other aspects in life?
I doubt you can completely suppress it but you can just keep it as a fantasy and find happiness elsewhere. There's more to life than feedism.
1 year
