Just for the record. If we accept that the initial post is, vaguelly speaking, normal (vaguelly speaking because... what counts as "normal"?), then your reaction here is the first problem in this thread. You evaded the question and consequently left it unanswered.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Four-sides_model

Munchies asked the question you evaded in order to get a clear idea of the self-revealing part of what you communicate in the begining. Specifically, what is the motive for you to bring other people's exes (as oposed to, say for example, themselves)?

You should answer this question so people can better judge by themselves if they want to participate in the thread or not. (For most people that is a matter of if you come across as suspicious zto them, something reinforced by you evading to answer the question.)

Edit to include:
In public discource, which a thread is, it doesn’t matter so much if the person asking you a question is toxic or not. You generally should answer regardless, if you are able, for other people who might also follow the conversation you're participating in.

In Greek there is a word for describing this, its "κοιλόδουλος" and translates to belly slave (being a slave to your belly).

What do you mean?

Why are you telling us this, here in the forums?

What are you trying to acomplish? Do you want people to give you advice on if you should do it or not?

Pooling of knowledge, thats what you effectively try to do.

Anyways, litteraly nobody seems to be reasonable today, im tired of it, i will just link a few stuff i wanted to mention.

youtube.com/@doctorramani

youtube.com/@doctorramani

I hope these can be helpfull sources to the conversation.

Edit: The links dont display properly (bug?) but if you click they should work properly.

I think consent is one importand factor but as such, it has limits. For example in my decision to do write in here was informed by one other factor, in addittion to OP's request. I explained this above.

About my take on rape, i might be ignorant of things, but i haven’t actually seen my take criticised (and i mean that, merely starting that its a shitty take isn’t really productive criticism)



I need to understand how you made that judgement in order to consider it seriously, because right now this im suspicious you're arguing with this in bad faith.

So far, i've pointed/criticised 2 things about OP's articulation, and i also have the advice that one needs to be interogative in order to stay safe. I think those are positive contributions! And i hope to build upon them some more! O.o

Do you refer to the bellow?

I know that OP asked cis men to step back, and i did the oposite, i basically steped forward. I did it because i think i have valuable information to contribute to the conversation, and i generally choose to behave in ethical ways. I understand that doing that is better for the conversation than to respect what OP asked.

Can you explain more, if you'd like? For example, what makes you think that? How do you think that affects what i say (or how i act)?

What do you mean?