Ladies safety (trans welcome)

Hi!! I have a bit of a complicated relationship with gender so I do fall under the trans umbrella technically. I saw this discussion and I think it’s potentially a good idea here— lots of opportunities for important conversations.

If a feeder fattens you up without your consent, this is abuse. I would consider it rape due to the sexual element.

Struka0918:
Seconded. Consent is incredibly important in all sexual (and others!) situations.
I should also bring up that consent can be revoked at any time! So, while, if someone said yes to something initially, they could say “no” later on, and the proper thing to do is to stop. If they continue, that counts as rape, since the act is no longer desired.

A lot of people unfortunately struggle with setting boundaries or saying no, myself included. I still struggle with it to this day. If you’re one of those people— it’s not your fault. There are just some nasty folks in this world who should know better, but alas…
The advice I can only give to that is self advocacy. Work on yourself, understand your emotions, your strengths and weaknesses. I’m a naturally shy, soft spoken person irl. I practically quadruple check everything I say (which is mentally exhausting) because I’m afraid of being “rude”, (I also have autism— likely alters my experiences as well). Improvement may be slow, but having confidence can go a long way. Easier said than done, but I’d be willing to go into a more in-depth discussion on this (based around my own personal experience).

Speaking of boundaries…

Having them in your bio (not just here but on different sites) can (sometimes) help. Of course the real creeps will look right past them, but I think they’re still important to have. Can work in a way that you quote a line in your bio to them, say “hey, my bio/page explicitly says not to do what you’re doing right now, stop it”. And just draw a line.

Then you can move on to informing others about potential creeps as well. Safety in numbers! You only know what you know, we’re not mindreaders here. So if someone is dangerous, don’t keep it to yourself. Keep records of someone’s weird behaviour. Don’t forget it (and you do not need to forgive it either, even if the person has claimed to change, that is up to you).

I’m not the greatest at giving tips, sorry. Most of this has just been from other people I’ve been around. Being so shy even on the internet, meant I managed to avoid a lot of the creeps, even when I was younger. But I am going to follow this discussion anyways, and contribute in the ways that I can.


I mean a lot of people need to hear things like this. These are novel concepts to some people.
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Transformation fetish

Stranger122:
from what she said her body has alot of trouble maintaining that higher weight so unless she was stuffing all the time she was going to end up losing some of the weight

Jigglephysicist:
I think people underestimate how hard it is to maintain a high weight for some people. You basically have to eat like it's your job, which can take the fun out of it.


This is one of the reasons why there aren't many SSBBWS and SSBHMS. You cannot maintain certain sizes naturally. What that looks like will vary from person to person.
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Ladies safety (trans welcome)

Morbidly A Beast:
a sausage party is when it’s a bunch of dudes and no women.

engaging in non-consensual predatory behavior is rapey, the rapist, murderer, etc doesn’t see the harm in what they are doing.


Yeah, rape is more than a depraved person pouncing on a poor, unsuspecting victim. To put it very simply, rape is an nonconsensual sexual act. And this spans a lot of things, including:

Non-penetrative assault
Non-traditional sex acts
Consent given through coercion
Consent given through manipulation
Consent given under false pretenses
Sabotaging birth control

This is by far not an all-inclusive list. But this does demonstrate how important it is to get enthusiastic informed consent. Failure to do so may lead to a bevvy of consequences.
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Ladies safety (trans welcome)

Enas, I am desperately begging you to learn how to streamline your thoughts. Your rambling paragraphs are a pain in the ass to read. I've gone through this 4 times, and I'm still not 100% sure as to what you are trying to say.

Let's get a couple things out the way. Rape is a form of abuse. OP has made no attempt in saying rape is worse than abuse. You are putting words in her mouth. She asked in you considered secret feedings as a form of rape due to the sexual nature.

No one is saying it isn't abuse. There's a reason why the community goes aggro when someone starts posting secret feeding advice.

The reason why OP mentioned women and trans people (not necessarily trans women - just trans people) is due to our unique marginalization. No one said that men can't be victims, too. But we were talking about people who are at a higher risk of abuse. These spaces are sausage parties for a reason.

And with the way you are babbling on about nothing, I'm not confident you fully understand what rape is.
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Ladies safety (trans welcome)

Enas:
Can i point a few things out?

I've read carefully the post, but some things trouble me a bit. I hope by pointing out i will get responses that will clear things up.

If i understand correctly, from your last paragraph, the point in the end is how to keep people safe from abuse/people who are abusive. I dont think it matters too much if its in the context of the kink or not, because there are mental tools and methods that are helpful in recognizing abusive behavior regardless of context. They work the same both in and out of kinks. Which also means this should concern everyone who due to their role, identity, or place (among other things) can be subject to abuse in the context of interpersonal relationships, which is also by definition [i]the[i] vunerable group in this regard. Not just feedees and not just women / trans women. So, i think the focus on that is unecessarily limiting. This [i]should[i] be a conversation for more kinds of folks, and it wouldn't hurt the utility that feedees / women (&trans) can get out of it.

And yes, patriarchy exists which means it skews people so that men are more abusive and entitled than women (and in fact i think that patriarchy is why men tend towards being feeders), but thats not the only factor for what groups can be abusive! Narcissism is an other very strong one. And because anyone can be a narcissist and abuse others, anyone in any kind of interpersonal relationship can potentially be subject to that abuse!

Im a bit frustrated, because shouldn't that be blantantly obvious?

Having said that, im thinking that while you were writting your post, the idea of what the topic is in your mind, crystalized a lot (=from vague/burry it became clear) which means it gradually changed, so maybe thats why you wrote it like that?



The other thing i wanna point out has to do with how abuse and rape is percieved by people in general. Im not entierly sure about what i will say now. I dont have stronger evidence than my personal observations, but i also have nothing against this. This is potentially true, and if so, i think its importand to talk about that. But if anyone has evidence against this, i wanna hear it!

So, because of all the feminist strugles and the #MeToo movement, we (well... some of us at least) now have a significantly raised awareness about rape and how bad it is. This, as with every other kind of widespread awareness among a populus, in our current society, creates kind of 2 relevant groups of people, aside from the ones who remain ignorant. Those who actually [i]sufficiently[i] understand it, and can therefore use arguments for upholding it are the one group. The other one, is people who dont understand it sufficiently, and at the same time want to uphold it, which then forces them to hide behind morals because they dont have the arguments they need at hand. Statistically, most people fall into the second group (because of the differences between passive and active learning for example), which means that in general, people in our society tend to obscure their ignorance behind the blanket of morality. So, consequently, "rape" i think is like that. Its morally unacceptable. Which i agree with! I dont think that its something other than very bad. But, if im correct on this, because a lot of people uphold it as such with the blanket of morality, they fail to notice that things very relevant to rape, can also be quite destructive, for example abuse, which rape is basically a form of. And so, i think we tend a bit exessively to frame things as rape, and maybe that deteorates its utility because it makes it more vague and less clear, but thats not my point here. Im not trying to My point is that, i notice how a lot of people act as if abuse is somehow not as bad! And i think that's a bit hypocrytical to the expense of any productive conversation, which doesn't have room for people obscuring their ignorance behind morality.

I basically get the sense that people who try exessively to frame something as rape implicitly believe that, relative to rape, abuse is almost morally okay!

Exxesive here means that, in the context of arguments, those people will stick to the argument that "x" thing is rape, and with that will assert, only implicitly, that "x" thing is bad. And that is something that really frustrates me, not only because that means the assertion that "x" thing is bad is not being delivered *explicitly*, but it also gives an easy exit to rapists (who can argue "well.. Technically this was not a rape, so am i free to go?", usually towards a judge that is too eager to aknowledge that, only because the rapists is a "fellow male"smiley.


And those are my two points. What do you think? Are my points fair? Did i do a mistake?

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Seeking bdsm + feederism stories

Gushloader:
Oh, seems very interesting. Could you please tell me where I can read it?


It's on here.
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Seeking bdsm + feederism stories

Gushloader:
Hi,
I'm looking for stories about dominant fat women. I'm trying to find something nice to read in that genre.
Any recommendations?


I have one called The Queen Mother. It's about an Amazonian-like queen who gets very fat and pregnant to repopulate her dying queendom.
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Ladies safety (trans welcome)

Morbidly A Beast:
I might not be a woman nor am I trans but I have experienced unwanted advances from aggressive gay men. My advice is to just ignore completely all unwanted advances, chances are they’ll just delete their accounts a day or two later.

I don’t dm very often on here everything I have to say can be seen by the public, and my DMs are a graveyard of deactivated accounts


This is not great advice.

They come back. They always come back because they feel like there are no consequences. You don't gotta engage with them, but you need to report harassment.
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Weight gain help with pills

Wannabe_tubby:
hi everyone, i’ve decided i want to start taking appetite enhancer pills to help get my hunger up to eat more. anyone on here try any? and if so what do you recommend? i live in the US but can get ones from out of the country if able

Munchies:
Keep away from those. The side effects are not worth it.

You are better off systematically stretching out your stomach via bloats and/or stuffings.

Enas:
What are the details of streching one's stomach?

Like, how much can it strech in the long term? Does that have dangers? Etc.


I have explained this to you multiple times in other threads.
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Ladies safety (trans welcome)

Urchie:
There's a lot of men here will just dm me about my "princess wand" and it disgusts me. If people make sexual moves on you without consent, even online, I would definitely recommend staying away from them.


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