In itself it is not wrong to be turned by a very big SSBBW, as long as you can find someone like minded who is comfortable the way she is.

It is wrong though if you put your own sexual desires before the mental and physical well being of your partner, it is wrong to choose a partner only for her weight and not because you genuinely love her for the rest of her as well.

Of course it is difficult if you are only attracted to SSBBWs and they loose so much weight that the physical attraction is gone, but that is the reality of being an FA. You have to ask yourself if your love is strong enough to be with a partner if she lost a lot of weight and be open with her about that. If this is really important for you, you have to look for a likeminded partner.

I think by the time you get to the P stage, the belly would definitely be hanging

I would draw the "fat line" between h and i because the belly of i definitely seems to be bigger.

As to normal and chubby: for me that would depend on the "softness" of the figure: two people can have the same figure, but still one can look "softer" than and the other more toned and harder.

Some of my memories...
* Already at primary school, I lurked at my chubbier schoolmates. I was in a boys only school until university and didn't know any big girls, so at some point I thought was gay because I was more interested in looking at the fat boy in school than looking at the (skinny) girls.

* We had a video at home of a movie which featured a fragment of a big woman in underwear. The fragment only lasted a few seconds, but I have seen it hundreds of times until the tape started to degrade at that point.

* My parents had an encyclopedia with classic painters. I flipped through every page looking for those classic paintings with fleshy women

* In the travel brochures, I always looked very closely at the hotel pool pictures to see if there was a big woman in the background

* At school trips to museums, I wanted to, but barely dared to look at the larger ladies on the paintings, affraid that my classmates would catch me staring at those voluptuous bodies.

Of course they do! Cuddling with a BBW is one of the best parts of being an FA

This is so wrong... She should be gaining because it is what she wants and it makes her happy. Not because you are paying her...

Google "borderline". This and a lot of the other stuff you have written, reminds me of my borderline ex. I still can't understand how I managed to stay with her for several years...

I understand your dilemma and have asked myself the same question.

If you would not fancy them in a million years, then don't compromise. However, there can be situations where feelings need time to develop. There are some women that I have turned down previously, but now that I know them better, I certainly could fall in love with them. Unfortunately, they are taken now...

Love is a complicated thing...

Very few people are naturally out of the closet about liking their size or their preference. It is part of the growing up process. As long as they're not confident enough, FAs better stay in the closet instead of having a secret fat girl. As an FA, you should only date a big girl if you are confident enough to present her to your family and friends.

Italy is in the south of Europe, and especially the Italians have a reputation of being womanizers. Not sure whether you will find many open FAs though. For what it is worth, the Italian stereotype of beauty is a blond, small-waisted, big-busted bimbo. Their ex-prime minister was "leading" by example...

I have always wondered what it must be like living on the Pitcairn Islands. Must be the Robinson Crusoë in me...