Usually the re-gain is faster and more intense than the initial gain.

I don't know. I remember at one point I was worried it would cause me problems, being a feeder. And I remember at another point, maybe fifteen years later, realizing I was happy being the way I was and wouldn't want to be any different.

But I don't remember how or why I made that transition. Maybe it just take time.

You sound awfully tentative about it! I'd say don't gain until you make up your mind. A feeder or gaining buddy might help, but you're the one who has to live with your decision.

It's pretty common for people to feel different about getting fat or being fat from one day to the next. I believe that's one of the reasons people are always leaving the site and coming back again.

No.

A lot of people initially gain by accident and then realize they like the extra pounds and continue on purpose.

Works for me!

I play fiddle in a bluegrass band. They let me sing and write songs occasionally.

That would give you a BMI of 27.4, or "overweight".

You need to weigh 164 to be "obese", at least according your your BMI.

But who cares? You look great now and my guess is you would look even better at 164.

Sit with your belly resting on your thighs. Now spread your legs. Does your belly stay where it was or does it ease down some?

You'll probably always be able to do it, but as you get bigger it will make less and less of a visible difference.

Dancers do it constantly and find it difficult to stop doing it if they get fat or become pregnant. I suppose they do it because they are trying to conform to some slim dance ideal.

I suppose others do it to look as slim and conventionally attractive as possible.