Depends on the beard. My partner rocks a French beard, and that does nothing to hide his double chin.

Nah, you gotta keep the religious element to it, or it doesn't work.

See, your conscience is a reflection of your ethics and morals. Religion takes that and adds supernatural consequences. So, even if you don't have an issue with it, your religion supersedes your personal beliefs on things. So you gotta navigate the two.

You won't get it if you aren't religious or have never been religious. And even then, different faiths or expressions of faith yield different complexities.

OP and I are both Christian, but we are very different flavors of Christian. My Protestant ass has an easier time navigating these feelings because, for my flavor of Christianity, I'm straight so long as I accept Jesus as my Lord and Saviour.

Meanwhile, that Catholic guilt is the stuff of legends. OP grew up experiencing things that I will never fully understand because that's how the Catholic Church rolls.

And don't do your usual "people are stupid" song and dance. That won't fly in this specific situation, and if you try it, I am not protecting you from the angry people that will come your way.

You misunderstand.

This has nothing to do with being a people pleaser. As a general rule of thumb, women do not participate with men in publically having sexual fantasies about their exes. I'm assuming you are also a woman. Notice that you did not engage with him in this regard either.

You know who loves talking to men about their sexual fantasies with their exes? Other men. Every single time.

With that in mind, we return to Bobo. Bobo got pissy when another man engaged with him regarding his sexual fantasy about his ex. Bobo wants women to engage in his public sexual fantasies, but his public sexual fantasies are about things women do not care about.

Either he can suck it up, stop posting publically, or talk about things that women care about.

As a side note, if you do not like how the internet isn't friendly towards women, why are you making excuses to promote the status quo?

Religious trauma is a bitch, but I'm healed enough that it has made me a force of nature. Lemme tell ya, the Christian Nationalists hate to see me coming. I have yet to see one that knows the Bible better than I do.

It's also really funny to lay hands on them and pray the "demon of bigotry" out of them. They do not like it when I do that, but I'm not stopping.

But yeah, I've never felt conflict between my love of feedism and my religion. I used to feel conflicted with my sadism kink, but once I figured out my ethics and well as exploring it with my first feedee, I am no longer conflicted.

Yeah, they are different because they are used for different things. So, depending on what you are going for, you may want to use cold foam over whipped cream and vice versa.

I'm Christian. Raised Baptist but identify as nondenominational. I have have red the Bible cover to cover at least 200 times. However, I am disillusioned with the Church due to the rise of Christian Nationalism and being a cult survivor. As such, I practice my faith by doing what I can to leave the world better than I found it as best I can.

In the context of this community, this translates to doing my part to make this community safer. You'll see me explaining medical studies, misinformation, and encouraging safe, ethical feedism. You'll also see me encouraging, uplifting, and getting into it with bigots and creeps.

In the context of my personal life, I put my feedee's health an comfort above everything else. Ironically, after being with me for 3 years, my partner is healthier now than before we met.

We switched from making the body of our desires to enjoying it. It's hard to appreciate such things properly when your main focus is growth. And it's nice to go from a manic intensity to something more sedate and cozy.

Munchies:[quote/]

orderofthegooddeath.com/death-positive-movement/

End of life care is very cold, and how we treat the elderly and infirm is appalling. It's no wonder that most people want nothing to do with it.

We all want a good life, but it shouldn't be lived in fear of death. For death comes for us all.

Sterlingdf:
***** Thanks for the link to Order of the Good Death. I enjoyed the sentiments there.

I am older than most here so I might have a different perspective. The way things are set up, it is difficult to retire and I was so relieved to get past that hurdle, BUT, having accomplished that, I turned around and saw that there was this giant cliff I still had to climb and that is taking care of yourself after you retire.

The cost of Elder Care is astronomical - thousands of dollars a month and completely beyond most people's capabilities. It appears you have to sell everything you have to pay for it and get down to assets less than 2000 a month and then become a ward of the state in whatever facility they throw you into. All privacy is revoked.

So in terms of wanting longevity, I would not want that type of longevity wasting away in a bed in an elder ward. It would be nice if one could bow out medically (assisted suicide or euthanasia) when that time comes. But the health care system is very greedy and wants you to transfer all your wealth to them in the last stages of your life.

For me, even though it might be crazy, having fun and enjoying life and putting on pounds and having a friends around me who enjoy food is a good option. With continually gaining weight there is bound to be a tipping point eventually where something goes wrong and I keel over, (hopefully with a quick heart attack or stroke) but isn't that a better end than being propped up medically while they literally suck the life out of you SLOWLY and fill their pocketbooks?[/quote]

Welcome, welcome.

Aging and gaining is a big gamble. Speaking as someone who has been in the medical industry for about a decade - mostly with the 65+ crowd - I know it's a gamble to let go like that. Sometimes you're fine. Sometimes, you're not. And when you are older, that tipping point is often a slow, painful process.

This is often complicated when the patient goes against medical directives and/or the family refuses to accept the end is near. Both make the end-of-life experience exceedingly more miserable than it needs to be.

I hope that everyone gets to have the life they want. And I hope that when the end comes, it comes the way you desire. But make sure you aren't moving with false conceptions of reality. Because sometimes, when you get what you asked for, it's not what you wanted.

Act like you are grown enough to be on this website.

Sorta. We got weird about death because Capitalism.

Back in the day, death was a very intimate affair. When you died, your family, friends, and community cared for you. They'd wash you, dress you, propped you up to take one last group photo, and your wake was in the living room.

But then the funeral industry realized they could make more money by offering to do those things for the family for a fee. Pair this with them lobbying the government to push laws that lined their pockets and propaganda about the newly dead being filled with icky corpse germs that make you sick and die. Now you have a society so removed from death that they will spend oodles of money to avoid it.