I always have bowls of nibbles around--nuts, dried fruit, sometimes candy, bombay mix--and no one can resist them. So yeah, everyone eats more around me, and I like it.

Let's just let the thread die, please? It's not like there's an issue to discuss, or a decision to be debated. This is a lot of posting for what looks to me like unanimity

*hums a dirge solemnly* RIP, poor thread.

From a gainer's perspective? I would never, ever talk like that unless I was trying to suss out if my bf would be psyched by my gaining, or at least ok with it. For me, this point generally comes after dating a while and thinking that it might be true from the way the guy handles my rounder, softer parts, how he behaves with me around food, and so on.

In the long run, Stefany's advice is right. You can't come out and tell her you're a feeder (presuming you are). But you can, and imho should, tell her you prefer rounder, curvier women, and that you find it delightful that she enjoys her food.

Another explanation I've heard is that size preference maps to when women are asserting themselves (ourselves?) socially. So you have suffrage in the 20s, and the demand for thin women. 2nd wave feminism in the late 60s-70s? Twiggy. And so on.

No one explanation is going to be sufficient, because we're too complicated for simple cause and effect, but this is one of the ones I find interesting...