Early on I was totally fixated on girls I dated weighing themselves. Granted none of them were really that big or heavy but definitely chunky and plump. The fact that they gained even if it were 10 or so Lbs was pretty arousing when they would step on the scale in front of me and complain how Fat they were getting.

Over the years, and being married my wife, early on would amuse me by stepping on the scale in front of me. But for many years now we don't own a scale and my wife really doesn't weigh herself which is probably a good thing because no need for a diet.

I do think that if I had a wife that was into gaining or liked weighing herself in front of me I would still find it as arousing as ever.

Definitely got lazier! I analyzed this with both myself and my wife.

When I accidentally gained and then Intentionally kept going...it was almost like one fed off the other (no Pun intended)....while I ate so much I just to full and was very lazy. I put things off and basically gave up the gym for several 3-4 months. As i was always so stuffed after eating I did more TV watching and actually planned out my next meal. This is very obvious with my wife when she starts to gain weight she really starts allowing herself more sweets and junk food which she tries to stay away from and never would she eat fast food and many times a week after she has gained a good amount of weight she asks to go to In n out or etc. for burgers and fries and even throws in a shake once and a while.

I have witnessed first hand with both of us that gaining weight leads to eating more junk food and fatty food in general....until it gets to the point of a way bigger appetite and then we almost crave all those fattening things...Fat leads to more Fat...and more and more eating.

I have been there with my wife many times even when she was my girlfriend way back when.

It sucks....but I have come to realize that the older I have become ....even though they complain about the weight (in my wive's case) that they have gained ...that sometimes that maybe a just a frustrating moment or them venting. For example they just tried on some clothes that they can't fit into anymore or they just happened to weigh themselves and were shocked or even just had a bad day feeling extra Fat.

If there is a way to turn it into a warm moment and let them know that you care and love them more than anything....not only in a sexual way (Like I tend to do when she starts looking nice and fat and is so irresistable to me) but just soft and tender (should be easier for you). I know you don't want him to feel bad about himself but still I have learned that they seem to get over it fairly fast. In the past when my wife complained about her getting Fat I would stop our eating patterns together and try and help her in her frustrating rant of gaining weight.....she would lose weight and seem even unhappier and I certainly was unhappier and even slightly less atracted to her physically (sorry....just telling the truth). In the last several years when she complains about how Fat she has gotten.... I comfort her and assure her she is not Fat (because she isn't even close to Fat to me) and that I love her and make sure she has plenty of things she loves to eat. She generally forgets about this and after one of these episodes has actually thanked me for picking up at the store an obscene amount of all her fattening treats she loves. I mean if she were mad that I was making it hard for her if she was actually trying to diet she would say something I would think....not Thank me. So they vent for a bit and then with your love figure they will just take the easy road and enjoy themselves.

Also, it could be the initial shock for your boyfriend of how he has changed. Someday you will look back and think to yourself ....wow, he was so concerned about weighing 170/180 Lbs. and now he doesn't even complain and he is 220 Lbs with a huge Fat gut.

Let me know if this helps your thought process any....and keep us posted how it goes.

Yea...it's crazy I never thought I would be like this because I only liked my women getting fat and thought I would be embarrassed of this. In fact when I first gained weight after being skinny my whole life.....I was kind of in denial and it wasn't till I saw a couple of friends that I hadn't seen for a few years....who were in slight shock by my filling out. It made me feel kind of embarrassed with all that attention even though I just kind of filled out from being so thin and I wasn't what you would call fat....a little bulkier muscle with a slight belly.

Fast forward to just several years ago and I didn't feel weird about it...in fact whe I was intentionally gaining and put on 40+ Lbs of big Fat belly I almost got a thrill to show it off and have someone comment. I would wear dress shirts that clearly were looking obnoxious many times to get comments from some work employees not to mention my wife. A couple places I frequented such as restaurants or grocery store where I knew the workers for many years I would come in and somewhat flaunt my new huge gut. I never really got any comments but I could only imagine the minute I left and all the talk behind my back about how Fat I got. At my heaviest I met my wife for some wine at our mutual friends house when I got there it was just four women sitting around drinking some wine. Soon after I got there and settled down my wife said she had to pick up one of our kids and I decided to stay. Upon leaving our close friend and I came together for a good bye hug and she pulled me in close and squeezed in tight for a long hug with my huge gut pushing her back....it seemed like she held the embrace for many minutes fighting my huge belly pushing she back and as she let go her hand gently rubbed around the the side of my huge gut at my love handle. All I could think about was she must have been impressed with my new size and there was some definite talk about how Fat I have become.

Yea....I guess those are the moments that make you want to keep pushing to get bigger and bigger with this fetish.

I think the stereotype that fat women only have more sex because we're desperate and will abandon our standards is a load of crap. I have very high standards, thank you very much [/quote]



^^^^^^^ I totally agree with this. This is what someone says when they are either jealous or don't really know. I for one...obviously like heavier women but I believe there is a large group that don't have as strong of feeling's towards heavier women that have actually grown to like them because they had an encounter with a chubbier or heavier girl romantically or sexually. I remembered the first time I ever felt the extra softness and fat and I was unbelievable hooked....and couldn't ever imagine having a girlfriend that wasn't chubby, fat or overweight.

Has anyone gone on Hypertension/Blood pressure medication and gained a lot of weight?

Has anyone lost weight?

Something so damn sexy about ^^^^

I have noticed when my wife has gained a good amount of weight that she struggles to reach down there as well.....and it just sends me through the roof.

All of the above information is dead on and exactly what I have read before and or experienced myself.

Age definitely plays a big role with weight and metabolism....that said it happens at different times for different people. Also genetics is another big one as was mentioned.

I can tell you from my personal experience that after I have gained and intentionally gained in the past three years or so....by getting to my all time highest weight I have certainly changed my set point of where my weight stays. I used to not get below 210 Lbs. with normal eating but now I can't get below 250 Lbs. only slightly down from a high of 260 Lbs. So I figure the next time I gain and my appetite really increases I could possibly hit 280 Lbs. or more. I guess what I am saying is I have naturally just kept holding on to more weight each time I have gained a bunch. I think that you are probably like myself and most here....in that when you are trying to gain and gaining you want more Lbs. and faster and want to maintain it better if you slightly decrease your eating at times. I think it is just a roller coaster effect and over time you will keep getting bigger and bigger and maintaining more weight each time.

I can relate to this as well. Probably 2 or 3 times a year I get these intense feelings for myself to gain weight and usually really act on it just once a year. It usually happens when my appetite increases naturally and I notice how much I have been eating initially and then I realize I have gained a bit of weight.

During that intense time....I feel exactly like this, the more I eat and see myself getting bigger and more bloated it drives the passion to eat more. I then intentionally stuff myself at every meal and have the need to eat more fattening things. All of a sudden without really trying I need a desert or fattening snack following every massive meal. Where as before I never had a sweet tooth not to mention would I eat that much fattening things....but at this point I crave fattening everything and I continue to eat all of it. The bigger I get the more I want to eat and vice versa.....and after a while my appetite is out of control and I am eating nearly 3-4 times what I used to eat on a daily basis.

During these times ..the craziest thing....and it maybe because I am so full from my last meal always....that when the next meal comes around I don't really feel totally hungry but the minute I start eating I just keep going and I can't stop...almost like their is no shut off valve. Anyone else experience this?

Another thing I have noticed over the last three years from doing this....my set point weight has really increased. I can't get below 250 Lbs. even when it feels I am not eating that much where as it used to be 210 Lbs. judt 3 years ago was more my set point.

Oddly enough I didn't...it wasn't until years later!

I do know a lot of husbands that gained as much or more than their wive's while they were pregnant. It always seem's like the skinnier women like their men Fat with big bellies.

Not related to your post but after my wive's third pregnancy her appetite was so ravenous she ended up gaining more weight 1 year after delivery which was extremely sexy to me......I heard this is very rare but it was so damn sexy to me.