I can only offer some theories and educated guesses, as a former very long time Illinois resident, and one who likes to observe and ascertain trends.

The too long; didn't read answer - I think there just aren't going to be enough in general. Also, to eat to the degree necessary, depending on how big you're looking for, is not an inexpensive endeavor.

Really, you should just make plans to leave Illinois. Even if you want to stay in the Midwest, literally any other state is doing better. If you don't, I expect you to lead a life of poverty, forever. You'll never get a woman because even if they claim they don't care about money, no one wants a janitor or a fry cook.

You have also mentioned living in Chicago, but I have no idea how far you would be willing to travel. I'm going to guess you can't go more than 2 hours one way, on a semi-regular basis. That would include the entire Chicago metro, and probably Madison, WI.

There's also of course the simple fact that almost no one will actually admit to feederism, or even recognize it.

Sure, on one hand nationwide, and in Illinois as well, the overall obesity rate has increased.

I took a look at your profile. Based on your age, I'm going to make the reasonable assumption that you are probably looking for women in their early 20s, whether into feederism or not. I have bad news for you.

I'm going to assume you aren't ignorant of the economic woes of Illinois, or how long it has lasted. In essence, after the previous economic crisis in '08, the state has never really recovered. While the numerical jobs count as *finally* reached pre-crisis levels, the quality has gone down.

Chicago seems to have been less affected by it, but the effects are still felt. If you think the best job you're likely to get is gas station attendant, maybe bartender if you're really lucky, even if you have a master's degree, are you going to stay if you have the option to move away? Even if you don't find anything better, you aren't worse off than before.

Illinois continues to lose population where on a percentage basis, only West Virginia is losing population even more quickly. The age groups leading the charge is 25-34, to a lesser degree 35-44, and for 18-24, this rate has sped up. The only reason it was lower for awhile was because of attending college. Basically, it's because there's either no jobs or crap jobs. There's a town which offered a few dozen jobs at $10/hr. and requires a bachelor's degree for them. They received many hundreds of applicants.

A couple years ago I heard that 40% of Illinois high school seniors who want to attend college, will be doing so out of state, in spite of the higher expense involved.

In addition to what you learn in the classes, you may also get some networking opportunities. In essence, they believe the state is not going to turn around in time to provide decent enough opportunities. Possibly maybe even.. never? What good are networking opportunities when everyone is just going to say "sorry, there's no jobs" or "yeah all we have is this minimum wage position, but you better hurry up because 100 others want it."

There's also the fact Chicago is costly. Chicago has done a poor job managing previous growth. Traffic is heavy because there's not enough road capacity. Housing costs are either too high, or commutes take too long. Combine that with low job growth, and it's not hard to see why younger folks aren't really rushing in.

Even if a young woman manages to get one those $50-60K/yr. jobs and can pay for the $2K/mo. rents, fat or not, she'll probably think she's too good for you anyway.

No, I think you should just buckle down and just forget about it for now. You should get out of Illinois while you still can. Maybe you should move south.

I actually have a few more thoughts on this, and it's no wonder that you can expect obesity rates to continue to rise.

The average length of the full-time work week continues to rise. Last I heard, the average is around 47-48. Something like 20-30% report over 60 hours. Some occupations such as tax accountants will have peak seasons requiring longer work weeks at some times of the year.

Commute distances continue to rise. Averages around 30-45 minutes one way, which depends on metro area of course. Super commuting, or 1.5+ hours each way, is more common than it used to be. It's one of the major reasons folks are leaving NYC and San Francisco, the latter of which has become so toxic, few are willing to move and live there (but I digress).

Between work hours and commute time, it's not hard to see it adds up. Sleep hours don't have much more leeway to go down. However, there's still only 24 hours in a day. Vacation time is often limited, and there's often office political pressure not to use it. In light of all these time demands, physical activities typically take a back seat, as many are simply too tired or wish to make the most of any potential family time.

Certain other trends likely reflect this. The last few times I went to a gym, most patrons looked like they were either retired, or didn't go very often, perhaps once or twice a week. The treadmills (aerobic activity might help weight loss) were less popular than the weight machines, which actually cause most to bulk up.

Professional runway models and athletes may have the time to go to the gym 4 hours a day, or even more. Indeed, their jobs often depend on it. Whereas paid shoots are unlikely to take up 45 or more hours a week. Most jobs don't permit this. Part-time jobs would allow this, but typically don't provide anywhere near enough income.

Makeup and cosmetics also always have far more bang for the buck in terms of time and cost, when it comes to making oneself look better.

I've even heard that it's no longer uncommon for high school football players to weigh over 300 lbs.

Housing trends also reflect this. As the rural small towns continue to depopulate and the cities continue to grow, this creates housing demand. Analysts have determined customers most want interior floor space, but there's only so much land area to go around. Something has to give, so yards in new houses get smaller. This usually means no physical activities in the yard.

There's also financial considerations as well as time. Fresh fruits and vegetables tend to go bad quickly. So, you might be less inclined to purchase any, if much of it would go bad. Organic food is similarly costly, and may go bad too quickly. A problem when you may just want to stock up as much as you can in fewer grocery store trips. One can always get vitamins by popping a multivitamin pill, too. This also encourages more takeout food or microwaveable food that's easy and quick to to prepare.

Another trend is that since the 50s, the amount of takeout or restaurant food for meals has only increased. It makes sense. Significantly more women are in the work force, and have professional career type jobs, which would be affected by the increasing length of the work weeks. Most will raise kids at some point. She wants to ensure her family gets dinner that night, but after a long day she may not feel like cooking and wants minimal cleanup. The answer? She might stop by McD's or some other fast food joint on the way back and just order multiple value meals. Or if not, there's probably frozen microwaveable food in the fridge. This is the kind of food that is more likely to add more pounds and inches.


While some of these trends are a little concerning, and you wonder what the breaking point is, I don't see them ending any time soon. I do however like one of the consequences of this; there will be more plus sized women in the future.

The horribly *failed* school lunch program that caused a lot of waste, encouraged the opposite effect. It still needs to end though, if it hasn't already. The food was often so bad, cold pizza brought from home would taste better.

I'm not sure about outside of the U.S., but in the U.S. I've heard that obesity rates are expected to reach 50% in '30, assuming current trends continue. There hasn't been any evidence to suggest this will change. This also assumes the obesity threshold continues to be a BMI score of at least 30.

There are significant differences by race and income group, so some demographic groups are already very close to 50% even now, and may surpass 50% well before '30.

Of course, there will probably be different responses.

If you ask me, I prefer independence. Otherwise, it would be unbalanced and is an extra bit of responsibility I don't want.

I really don't relish the idea of having to provide constant, 24/7 assistance that requires something every hour, or more often. That sounds like a nurse in a long-term care facility. If I wanted to work in healthcare, I would have went to medical school and got that M.D.

It would also significantly interfere with certain things I would like to do in life I consider important. I'd like to have kids, for one thing. This introduces a number of practical considerations. For one thing, I need to believe that if something bad were to happen to me, any children would be well taken care of, particularly if they're still little. I often consider reality, because this is something I actually want to see happen.

Other practical, realistic financial and time considerations are well, if I have any wish to achieve certain life goals, basically she needs to make a decent salary. That and there needs to be enough money so she can follow her hobbies and interests as well, since it's not all about me. Kids are costly.

I do expect her to be able to be independent, assuming access to typical modern technology in an urban environment. I also look for ambition, and don't find laziness attractive. I don't mean anything crazy like running an uphill marathon. But every year, there's fewer and fewer jobs that require a certain degree of physical fitness. More and more of them are the kind where you sit down on your widening butt all day.

There's all sorts of highly meaningful career options where she can be fat and still do them. Teacher, accountant, lawyer, and so on. Even nurses are sometimes obese.

So basically, I see no reason why I can't have both and have it all.

You may also wish to consider your audience. Are there any reasonable assumptions you can make about them? This would affect whether you can use certain acronyms, technical terms, and technical jargon.

I kind of wonder what you've been eating to gain the weight. I also wonder how quickly you gained the 50 lbs.

Hope it hasn't been exclusively through sweets. Straight sugar or drinking an entire liter of soda and all the HFCS isn't the best thing. I would probably actually suggest a lot less soda. Drink coffee for caffeine, and you can mix it with cream if you want.

I did find this thing on the Mayo Clinic web site. www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/prediabetes/symptoms-causes/syc-20355278

I can't help but wonder if you might be better off drink half and half, or eventually heavy cream before you go to sleep at night. It's calorie dense but digests slowly, and in some folks can make them drowsy so, best to do it before sleep for less effect on your daily life.

I do find it surprising you have this, at your age (if your profile is correct) and weight (170 doesn't seem that big).

There's probably someone else here who could give a much better answer to this than I could.

I rather enjoy, and look forward to it.

It depends on the country's standards, but in the U.S. the CDC standard of a BMI of 30+, and a score of 30 seems to be only sort of plump. The formula is also strictly based on height and weight so some bodybuilders could be "obese" despite having little fat, the opposite of obese.

I rather love that retail stores have to feature plus size mannequins. That some brands of clothes have no choice but to offer larger sizes, and I only see this becoming more common, not less.

I loved when the NYC MTA decided that seats on new subway cars have to be a few inches wider.

I even like the idea of providing more personal space even to someone underweight, granting the same right that someone plump should have. I never see anyone try to force 3 into a bench or booth seat anymore, regardless of weight.

My future wife will mostly likely be unaware of feederism, or that I will secretly wish she will go for that extra slice of cheesecake, but pregnancy and middle age spread does have a way of adding pounds and weight that may be difficult to lose even if she wants to (so it will be up to me to try to convince her that she doesn't have to lose it for me).

I'm not too worried about health implications yet. It's a long way off from the day where finding anyone under 300 lbs will be rare and difficult.

At Wal-Mart it's about $3.50 for a quart, or 3,200 calories. Hope the OP has a mini fridge or something. Would also probably want some sort of flavoring. Hot Chocolate mix works well.

Probably half and half at first if it seems too thick, rich, or heavy to drink at first. Your body also needs to get used to a very rich diet, but some here report actual cravings for cream after awhile.

Mine should be pretty obvious.