Keep plenty of fattening foods in your house pre-prepared or easy to prepare, because when you’re really high you won’t feel like cooking and might mess it up if you try. I like to use edibles because the high lasts longer and they have calories of their own in them. Being high makes the taste of heavy cream shakes a lot more tolerable too so if you’re gaining with weed it’s a good time to start trying those out.

I also want to say I think a good idea might be to require people to answer questions before joining the website and go through an approval process by a real person reading their answers - NO personally identifiable information or photos should be required because it’s not a safe space if people have to risk being outed if information leaks, but short-answer questions about appropriate conduct (e.g. “Why would it be inappropriate to send this message to someone?” or “Give an example of a respectful way to approach a person you’re interested in”). This would serve the dual purpose of weeding out creeps who are foolish enough to say things like “Actually, I think it’s fine to send unsolicited sexts,” and weeding out creeps who are lazy or impatient because it would take time and effort to fill out the questionnaire and then wait for it to be reviewed and approved. Of course, some would still get through, but they’d be in smaller numbers and therefore easier for users to block and moderators to ban before things got out of hand.

I don’t think a safe space for women, femmes, nonbinary and GNC people can reasonably exclude men because many people in those categories are also men or are targeted for harassment due to falsely perceived proximity to manhood. GNC and femme men and nonbinary people whose identities may partially or fully include manhood (bi-gender, gender-fluid, etc), as well as people who aren’t men at all but present masculine or don’t pass as cis women regardless of how they present are not safe in a space that bans men, if they can even access it at all. Furthermore, even just banning cis gender-conforming men specifically (how would this be verified?) still feeds into bioessentialist attitudes that are at the core of a lot of transphobic rhetoric and encourages a culture of paranoid transphobes always on the lookout for people who don’t pass well enough for their liking to harass off the platform.

Instead, a safe space should be created through strict moderation and a robust blocking system. Allegations of misconduct should be taken seriously and dealt with swiftly and harshly, and rules about appropriate conduct should be clearly outlined, banning all types of harassment and bigotry. That kind of robust moderation is of course not easy, but it’s still easier and more ethical than trying to come up with a threshold for who has too close of proximity to manhood to be allowed in the safe space without excluding vulnerable people who need the safe space.

I decided to try tracking calories to see if the difference was my metabolism or my habits, and after putting in my calories for today, I can safely say it’s that I am eating more! Since I have always struggled with that, I’m very happy.

Today I was busy and didn’t feel like I was able to eat much. Still, without trying to eat, just eating when I felt hungry and stopping when I didn’t feel hungry anymore, I had around 1500 calories. I know that’s still a really small amount, especially by most people’s standards on here, but last year if I went a day without using appetite stimulants and/or actively trying hard all day to eat more, I’d only get about 500 calories on average, and that would be including a high calorie protein shake that I haven’t been drinking as often lately which accounted for the majority of the calories. Looking at today’s calorie amount, my first thought was “Wow, how did I survive this long eating so much less than this?” but not in a “I’d be hungry eating like I used to” way so much as in a “God, how did I not experience multiple organ failure from malnourishment???” way, and my second thought was “I guess I’m actually recovering from my eating disorder now.” It’s a big milestone for me.

Thinking about it, I think it might’ve actually been catching COVID that made the difference. Major caveat here before I continue: I don’t recommend catching COVID because first of all it can kill you and second of all despite this one unanticipated benefit it has been a net negative for me - it’s also severely worsened my symptoms of 3 separate chronic illnesses. Besides, even my silver lining probably wouldn’t be a positive thing for most people. That being said, I think it damaged my sense of taste, but in a good way because I’ve always been hypersensitive and that’s the core of my eating disorder. When trying to evaluate why I was able to eat so much more than I used to without effort, the major factor that eventually stuck out to me was that it’s actually been a long time since a basic, normal meal felt like eating a bowl of spicy-sour-bitter broken glass. That used to be a regular experience for me, and I’d have to stick to eating only very bland, sweet, or salty food, and usually only in small amounts... and those small meals would sometimes take hours of misery to get through. Lately, though, flavor hasn’t bothered me very much, and I have even enjoyed food with complex flavors a few times. My diet is still heavily restricted because I can’t handle many textures, but now I can eat a normal amount of the foods I can handle at a normal speed instead of having to stop or trudge through it because they get overwhelming. My somewhat recent successful gaining cycle that finally stuck was right after I recovered from being sick, too, so it fits the timeline.

So, I guess I definitely won’t lose this weight except for maybe very slowly, but as sad as it is that I won’t get to experience gaining it all back again, for my health it’s a very good thing! I’ll just have to be patient and save up for a bigger wardrobe.

I’ve heard of this happening to people, and I do kind of wish it would happen, although it doesn’t seem to be happening. I thought about intentionally trying to trigger that outcome with a crash diet rather than a gentle one, since they’re infamous for causing further gain instead of weight loss, but with my history of disordered eating I decided heavy restriction was too likely to backfire in the other, not sexy direction.

Of course, if it did happen that I couldn’t stop gaining even on a diet, the problem is I wouldn’t be able to enjoy it for long because I think I’d get so excited (and so resigned to having to buy new pants anyway) that I’d surely launch right back into actively gaining! I could live with that problem, though 😋

I decided to put my plans for further weight gain on hold a while ago after looking at the prices of new pants (someday I still want to get really fat, but not until I am financially stable enough to buy a new wardrobe), and I expected that the weight would come off quickly when I stopped trying to gain, like it has in the past. I was ambivalent about that possibility - on one hand, I really liked my new higher weight, but on the other hand, if I lost a significant amount of weight it would give me the opportunity to do some more gaining again without outgrowing all my clothes.

Much to my shock, though, the weight mostly stayed, even over months! Out of curiosity, I decided to see if I even could lose it, and went on an informal diet - still eating if I felt hungry, so not a super restrictive diet, but trying to minimize how much I eat. The weight has still, for the most part, stayed, and this experience has been nearly as exciting and hot as the actual gaining was! I think it would take months of actual serious effort to drop an amount of weight I used to lose accidentally within weeks, and it might even be hard not to gain it back again. I always wished I could break my metabolism, but I never truly believed it was possible until recently. It’s like a dream come true. The out of control feeling is something I've wanted for so long and it’s just as wonderful as I’d hoped it would be.

I think my new plan is to stay with the casual diet until either it’s not fun any more or I lose enough weight that I have room to gain again without outgrowing all my clothes. Then, when I have more money, I’ll go for the bigger gains.

Not for me. I think I would feel differently if I had ever been in shape. I do find it hot when other people go from fit to fat, but personally, I have been out of shape my whole life, despite being rail thin for most of it, so there’s no novelty to it. Gaining weight has actually made me feel a little more in shape despite not really exercising because I’m not starving anymore, but physical activity is still a real challenge for me. Really, I would like to be buff as well as fat, but I have accepted that it is not a real option for me due to lifelong health problems that make weight training dangerous and painful for me even at very low weights.

CBD (a non-psychoactive compound sourced from weed) has sometimes been reported to increase appetite, but I’ve also seen reports that it decreases appetite, so I would not bet on it working.

If you want the munchies, I think chances are you’ll need to get at least a little high. I have found from personal experience that very weak edibles that only cause a mild buzz are still able to produce a notable appetite increase, but a stronger high also comes with a stronger appetite increase.

Around 2 weeks of, on average, 1 cup of cream every night, plus eating as much as I could each day, brought me a roughly 10 lb gain has stuck to me very well, even though I used to always struggle to keep weight on. If the 12 weeks some other people are recommending is too scary for you, 2 weeks could be a good minimum. Of course, 12 weeks would DEFINITELY stick, so if you have the money, persistence, and guts to do it then 12 weeks would surely solve your problem while 2 weeks still has a bit of a luck element involved. I’ll second that you are unlikely to get any meaningful gain from 4 days, no matter what you were doing in those 4 days.

To get real weight to come on in the first place and not just water weight, track your calories and make sure you are eating at LEAST enough to maintain your weight each day before drinking the cream. Cream can kill your appetite if you’re not careful, and that can sabotage your gain.

This is very common, I’ve experienced it too. Just take a shower, that usually makes it go away for me and also helps with any pain from bloating.