Stuffytummywriter:still, props for trying! it's important!
The way to go i feel, if you have the energy to try again, is a discord server or some such with the ability to moderate who joins and/or who stays.
Men, much like small children, have not yet learned to self-regulate, so they need strict and impermeable barriers. Some will eventually learn and won't need the barriers anymore. They'll realise they can play with the 1000000 other toys available to them instead of throwing a tantrum over the one that they can't have right now. Or make their own toy just for themselves if they are jealous, instead of destroying the one someone else made.
Really really tired of men not respecting my boundaries and then acting offended when i say sth
Munchies:The trans men tend to get it what with growing up as AFAB. Enbies tend to get it as well.
One thing that frustrates me is the whole "Boys will be boys" mindset. It absolves men of their agency to be better.
And they can be better. I've seen it. It makes the ones that choose not to be better look terrible.
Enas:Its not just the "boys will be boys" but the entier culture that just screams narcissism all the time. Even the women who themselves say "I want a bad boy" are helping perpertuate this
ArcticVixen:I think you are misinterpreting the expression. "Bad boy" is a Western (usually American) trope where a guy in a piece of media is rebellious and seems cool. Such as the characters in the musical Grease.
en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bad_boy_archetype No woman wants to be in a abusive relationship.
There is no problem in clasifying even the Nazis as "bad boys", based on what the archetype entails. The two are not contradictory in any way. They posed as rebelious (note the word posed) and, at least in their time, many people considered them as very cool.
And i dont think there is someone who wants to be in an abusive relationship, but it might be the case that people dont always recognize abusive behavior as such, at least not until its too late and they are already trapped.
