Struggling with the plus sized body image

ChubuffElly:
Hio, I'm very anxious to write about this but here we go.

For a very long time now I have had difficulty with my own body image. I love gaining, the lifestyle and I'm definitely happier but.

When browsing on here or whereever else I can't stop comparing, pinching and padding myself down. I know this might be a general problem but I was not sure if it fit there since it is very much fat related. Being trans might also add negatively to the issue. I'm worried that no matter how much or where I put on weight it's not going to be enough.

Has anyone else felt this way and has some advice on how to ameliorate this terrible mindset?

Munchies:
I'm not trans, but I have body dysmorphia. For those who don't know what that means, it's when you have a distorted view of what you look like. Mine isn't so bad right now, but it used to be terrible.

I used to be underweight due to having a health issue. I hated how I looked, so I started gaining. However, even when my scale and clothes told me I put on weight, I kept seeing my old underweight body. On top of all that, I was in an abusive situation and couldn't get therapy.

What worked for me was standing naked in front of a mirror and telling myself something I liked about my body. I kept it up until I liked what I saw most days.


Munchies i didnt know you suffer from it, im really sorry to hear that :c

I see that you have developed a coping mechanism to deal with it. I thought that perhaps i could help you with sharing some material relevant to it. I havent read them fully (looked the first pages of them) but i think they might prove helpfull because i saw they examine it from a psychoanalytic point. And psychoanalysis is what is needed here more than anything.
(i hope the Links work this time!)

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And here is some explenation of how psychoanalysis can help, in case youre not familiar with it:

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3 months

I’m the only one that can’t find a feedee?

Ex Jock:
It’s really hard to find a feedee. I think that’s why so many of us go from feeder to gainer; to become our own feedee out of lack of options, but still wanting to act out the kink


I doubt thats how it works. Speaking about me, i considered myself a feeder. It was (and still is somewhat) a big turn on to see really fat women's bellies so i was definetely one! But nontheless i kind of remember myself when i was even younger that i didnt care much about women but rather myself! I would stuff my bkanket in my clothes at night for example, but that was very early on! I dont know what made me turn into a feedee but during that period i never cared about getting fat myself! I even exercised a lot (because i like body contrast).

I think the situation is far more complex than this. I dont think we are feeders & feedees as clear roles etc, even if it appears as such. The situation seems far more chaotic. Its not like you will find what you really are if you "look deep inside". What you think you are is constantly fabricated, in a way, which is the only possible way this part of us can exist, i think.
3 months

I talked to an ai chat bot about "taking the plunge" into weight gain

Lbd4:
Someone recommended the character ai psychologist as an opportunity to clarify their own feeling about this fetish. I talked to it about my own kinks and it was trying to convince me to gain weight and eat a lot even though those aren’t solid goals I have for myself. It was pretty convincing. I think you have to want the thing that’s on offer.
There’s also enough of an uncanny valley that you never forget that there’s no body the words are being filtered through. I’m intrigued by AI. I think when we get scared by these things and retreat to our caves mumbling ‘fire bad’ we give up power to the curious and flexible. They are tools not overlords…don’t relinquish your brain to it.


Primitivism is obviously not the path forward, i agree with that. But at the same time, things like these: uniontrack.com/blog/union-busting are real. In fact i doubt it can get more dystopian than this. In these cases, fear is well justified.
3 months

Are there any dominant feedees/gainers?

Morbidly A Beast:
I’m not sure what any of this dom sub stuff is to be frank either way dom or sub for me would be for my partners enjoyment. If dom feedee means being kingly or something like that i could make it work

Munchies:
It's all about power play. A dom(me) is the dominant one, while the sub is the submissive one. Of course, there's no one way to be dominant or submissive. Being dominant can mean acting like royalty, but not necessarily

Sadistic doms get off on causing pain. Pleasure doms prefer to give their subs as much pleasure as possible. Daddy doms act more parental. There are scores more, but you get the idea.

Enas:
Pleasure doms... Ive never come across the term!

Im curious, if a pleasure dom is extreme enough, does it become at some point, practically sadistic?

Munchies:
It depends. A pleasure dom(me) is all about making their sub feel good. If the sub is into masochism, then they may inflict pain or torture their sub with pleasure (think forced orgasms). But if a sub isn't into that, then the pleasure dom(me) won't do it.

Think of it like the sub sinking into subspace while the pleasure dom(me) focuses on making them feel good.


Forced orgasms are super hot to me! 😆

Also, what is that subspace? Is it a trance?
3 months

Are there any dominant feedees/gainers?

Morbidly A Beast:
I’m not sure what any of this dom sub stuff is to be frank either way dom or sub for me would be for my partners enjoyment. If dom feedee means being kingly or something like that i could make it work

Munchies:
It's all about power play. A dom(me) is the dominant one, while the sub is the submissive one. Of course, there's no one way to be dominant or submissive. Being dominant can mean acting like royalty, but not necessarily

Sadistic doms get off on causing pain. Pleasure doms prefer to give their subs as much pleasure as possible. Daddy doms act more parental. There are scores more, but you get the idea.


Pleasure doms... Ive never come across the term!

Im curious, if a pleasure dom is extreme enough, does it become at some point, practically sadistic?
3 months

Are there any dominant feedees/gainers?

Enas:
Well, you pose a question that if taken litteraly, is not very helpfull. Odds are, with so many people, given that there is a variety of, there are definetely people who can be described, or at least are similar to the description you gave.

(Thats not a very helpfull question to ask, because its something that anyone can figure out on their own, no need to ask this specific question to other people, etc)

Im suspecting, however that youre trying to get to a different point however, like... How common are they, or how to uproach them maybe. Am i correct on this?

Femme Calories:
That would be correct.


I recomend you to search for feedee authors of stories that contain a dom feedee and maybe even a sub feeder!
3 months

Feeder girls?

Tomi20:
I have been looking for a while for a woman who wants a swallowing pig and who will witness a great physical change.

Munchies:
Unfortunately, we lost all the female feeders in the incident. It was very sad.

Tomi20:
In what incident?

Munchies:
The incident where all the female feeders just vanished. There haven't been any since. It's so sad.


I will understand one day what this incident was!!!11!!1111!111one!!!
3 months

Price of food gone up

The website seems to have a big problem with trying to at least show the link of the video (please search on Youtube for “David GRAEBER: We are already communists”). Which is unfortunate because it does kind of explain in directly what communism is about (in short, its not what you think)

Jonathan856:
... but the danger with that is communist control.


State power is not communism. In fact communism, as a theoretical concept, has nothing to do with goverment per se. This can be easily illustarted by the existence of anarchocommunism, again as a theoretical concept (which brings the question, if communism is about state ownership and anarchism is about abolishing permanent relationships of unequal power, the state being the biggest example of this, then what could an anarcho-communist system possibly be? A state, which has been abolished, to own the means of production? Of course thats not what it is!)

There is an understandable reason why people confuse communism to mean, favoring state power over private power, and that has mostly to do with the cold war. In the context of which, the 2 largest propaganda machines in the world (that of the United States and that of the Soviet Union) were trying to portray the USSR as a communist country for oposite reasons. And then, of course people would use that word in order to identify countries with similar countries. I think this meaning of the word should be discarded, since not only it is not particularly useful, but its actually discouraging people from exploring what this seemingly scary thing is about. In fact, there are videos on Youtube where some communists in discuise go around in a Trump rally and ask Trump supporters if they agree with a number of points, without telling them that these are communist points (which they were!). The irony is that most people there agreed with it! Thats to illustrate the confusion around this topic.

Mind you, im an anarcho-communist myself, im familiar with all that.

Anyways, i wanted to say a few things about your points which i find interesting.
You say you want to plant stuff. I assume you live in a house in the typical american suburbia, do correct me if im wrong. This means you propably have a fair amount of ground-room in your property. But furthermore, your Neighbors propably also do! I would encourage you then to try your best to organized them all in some sort of community and turn whoever-is-ins' gardens into farms of all short.

If i were in your position i would love to do this kind of thing. Unfortunately though i live with my parents, and although we have a balcony, they refuse to do anything good with it. Its just emtpy..

If you can do this, it might be a good idea to get a bicycle (and modify it so it can carry some stuff, a basket on the front, maybe two baskets left and right of the back weel). If the roads are safe enough, and the distances you usually go, within reach, you will save, possibly a thousand dolars a year! The negative side of this is that in order for it to work, it requires a level of fitness that might make you struggle at first, but with exercise you will overcome it fairly quickly!

And i mostly agree with you, that the goverment isnt really the answer. Although for seperate reasons, propably.

I think the causes you listed in your reply do boil down to the corporations' profit motif and the general dependence on markets to which the population is subject.

I would like to drive one of your points further too! We all have some power. And if this power is combined into collective power, miracles can happen! A lot of grassroots organizations exist already, although it might be extremely hard to find them if you start from skratch. Usually they can be found through ansrchist cycles. If you connect with some local ones, they will definetely be a great boost to your efforts.

Lastly i want to mention permaculture. It is extremely useful when it comes to anything like farming and gardening, and everything in between! There is a large Youtube channel about permaculture called “Andrew Millison”, i strongly recomend to you, and anyone else who is interested in gardening and/or self-sufficiency! 🙂
3 months

Price of food gone up

Nofbar:
A key takeaway of this is while prices might be fixed to deal with high prices, supply will necessarily go down. Why produce a good if you're not going to be paid for doing so?


The supply will go down if the cost of production goes up, while prices remain fixed. If the cost of production (what needs to be done for one unit of out put) remains more or less the same, then the supply of food will remain more or less the same. A solution for this, is a price & wage freeze will stop any inflation the moment it is implemented. Nixon did this and it was sucesfull! It did have side-effects but it immedientaly stopped the inflation, and economic activity remained pretty stable.

But your point is of concern only in a market economy. If the production and distribution of food were to be planned by the state, based on the total needs for food of the population that it governs (plus some extra to be safe) meaning, state enterprises that have the priority of output (and not profits from sales) then the issue youre proposing simply does not exist.
There are other issues in that case, notably that the state will have a lot of power in its hands and may decide to use it to coerse people to do all short of things, but thats a completely seperate issue.

To deal with it, nontheless, i want to begin by saying that there is no easy solution for this. All solutions are beyond the comfort zone of the people, so they will simply not vote for them. They are more likely to even self destruct that way. Either they will have to be brave and at least try to learn what theory is beyond neoliberalism (and i dont care if it carries the tag "progressive" or "concervative" because either of them is neoliberalism) or the solution will have to be enacted without popular consent (which limits how much they can be scaled up).

The solution i would prefer requires basically a complete overhall of the political economy (which is what makes it hard). I think that the production of goods and services should happen within worker cooperatives (that is to abolish the dychotomy of employers vs employees) and those cooperatives should operate in the context of a bottom-up planned economy. Decision making should happen through debates that will follow the Hegelian dialectic, not majority voting. And the primary principle should be the "From each according to his ability, to each according to his needs".

This is possible and we know because it is already done! Here is a good video that explains this: [img]https://i1.ytimg.com/vi/IcK7rkajHKE/default.jpg' alt='' oncontextmenu='alert("This image is copyright © protected"); return false;'>[/img]

There are lots of false arguments against it, but i want you to understand that all the people who say "this is impossible" or "it can never be done in a large scale" are people who also think that free will is a reality. And our entier political system has been based on this hypothesis, which has never been proved to be true. In fact psychology exists because the oposite is true. Peoples' wills are explainable, to some heavy degree, therefore deterministic. If someone chooses to believe whatever is more comfortable to accept, rather than first analyze whats actually going and then conclude, then that person is delusional.

To conclude, most people who would opose the proposal i made, not on the basis that its difficult but on the basis that its impossible, that we should not even attempt to get to it, are either delusional or try to delude you.


Sorry if i sound harsh but this topic is handled by people based on what they believe, which are fantasies and lies, not reality. And we need, as in any other science, to examine reality. Not to decide based on a fantasy.
3 months