Masuli:
I have also been part of the community for long time. I remember Dimensions weight room, weight gain stories & forum. Also I was using Dial up modem connection.

I don't really know where did this enjoying being heavier, rounder myself & liking bigger girls come from

I can remember being a young skinny child & spending a half an year with my grandma because family issues. During that time I become lazy, enjoyed my grandmas cooling + all the deserts & I gained so much WEIGHT. I did grow this big belly & moobs, started to enjoy playing with my belly. Also my grandma really loved to hug me & touch my belly while commentin that I looked much better with extra weight.

Maybe this was the start of the prefering female feeders & female fa's

There was also Fatnats, anime boards that had weight gain pictures, stories.

I also remember Fantasy Feeder inner clique mentality with moderators & certain users. Oh how we cannot forgot the controversial Real or Fake voting by the community that was used instantly against person that didn't belong to the inner clique or in other causes you were voted fake just by not living in England or America.

This fetish can be challenging if you live in a small country, less people so of course changes are smaller, especially if you are considering the rarest of them all: Female feeder.

I'm not giving up thought even if this will disappoint some users but keeping my eyes open & being open minded in the present + future.

Masuli:
I'm surprised that no one mentioned of bringing back the real or fake meter that was working really well when speaking about abusing it.

ChonkyBellyBhoy:
Been there. Had periods where it doesn't matter how much I eat my weight stays the same.

It's swings and roundabouts though cause I've had other periods where it's like I eat 1 cake and gain 5lbs.

Fattyyyyyyy34:
I have genetically high cholesterol and was wondering if there are any fatting foods that also contain HDL cholesterol.

ILuvChubbyChix:
I'm very sorry to hear that.

However, if you do come across scammers, please report them.

Munchies:
Also, fill your profile out. Women who are worth your time are super choosy. If you don't have much to work off of, they might not talk to you.

Good luck

SYxySt2aR:
That sounds horrible. I'm really sorry that you've been through these bad experiences. I hope that future exchanges you have a more authentic and heal your heart and mind from the previous bad experiences. I know there are authentic and great people on here to talk to but yeah everyone's different so it can be hard to find the connection you're specifically looking for.

I wish you the very best and hope you find the interactions and connections you've been hoping to find. 😊

H203:
TYSM, I’m very grateful of the kind words. I honestly think I just didn’t make enough of an effort to put myself out there on this site, in recent years - I’ve got to take responsibility for my part in this.

SumoSized:
People on here also seem to come and go a lot. I was chatting with a guy on here through dm's the last couple days and randomly he just deleted his account. I've also received several messages that get deleted before I even open them or see who they're from. People can just be so fickle sometimes

SadPinkFox:
I know you are mad at me. I am sorry for suddenly leaving. I was depressed because some people ganged up on me. I hate it here.

Munchies:
Dang, what happened?

SadPinkFox:
I got upset that someone used the b-word and surprisingly people didn't agree with me. Even one woman user. I started to have a mental breakdown and decided to delete my "Kitsune" account. I vented about this website on an Autism website.

Munchies:
I see.

Personally, when I talk about things that I see as offensive, I go into the conversation knowing that not everyone will agree with me. And it is what it is.

You gotta learn to be okay with people not agreeing with you. I'm not saying that to tell you to get over it. I'm saying that so it won't be a mentally devastating situation for you.

SadPinkFox:
Fair point. I don't have thick skin like you so I guess it's easier for some folks. I think it's best for me to say nothing at all and keep my thoughts to myself. Although at the same time it feels like I am censoring myself. I do think I should express how I feel to educate others. Unfortunately, not everyone will want to learn. As you can tell with the current situation of the US.

Munchies:
I mean, you're talking to someone who's been through shit and came out the other side. It took me years to get to this point. I'm telling you this in hopes to save you a few years of suffering.

SadPinkFox:
Hopefully I get to that point someday. Being trapped in a toxic job and family makes me pessimistic about the future. Being treated like chipped liver at work also makes me regressed and don't seem to be seen like a functioning adult.

I am not giving up though. I am doing my best to take care of myself. I just detangled my hair while taking bath. I have a hair knot due to being too depressed to take care of my hair. I'm trying to draw more often instead of doomscroll although I still have those tendencies. I won't listen to those naysayers that I can't have my dream job due to AI but of course I have to have a backup job first and good net security.

Pardon for the long ramble. I guess I should write a novel since I often write lengthy comments lol.

SumoSized:
People on here also seem to come and go a lot. I was chatting with a guy on here through dm's the last couple days and randomly he just deleted his account. I've also received several messages that get deleted before I even open them or see who they're from. People can just be so fickle sometimes

SadPinkFox:
I know you are mad at me. I am sorry for suddenly leaving. I was depressed because some people ganged up on me. I hate it here.

Munchies:
Dang, what happened?

SadPinkFox:
I got upset that someone used the b-word and surprisingly people didn't agree with me. Even one woman user. I started to have a mental breakdown and decided to delete my "Kitsune" account. I vented about this website on an Autism website.

Munchies:
I see.

Personally, when I talk about things that I see as offensive, I go into the conversation knowing that not everyone will agree with me. And it is what it is.

You gotta learn to be okay with people not agreeing with you. I'm not saying that to tell you to get over it. I'm saying that so it won't be a mentally devastating situation for you.

SadPinkFox:
Fair point. I don't have thick skin like you so I guess it's easier for some folks. I think it's best for me to say nothing at all and keep my thoughts to myself. Although at the same time it feels like I am censoring myself. I do think I should express how I feel to educate others. Unfortunately, not everyone will want to learn. As you can tell with the current situation of the US.

H203:
I’ve been on this site for a very long time, using several now-deleted accounts, and honestly, I’m getting really tired of the lack of real connections. I’ve always enjoyed sharing updates, engaging, and being part of the community, but lately, it just feels like I’m wasting my time. There are so many fake accounts and people who just want to take without giving anything back, and it’s incredibly frustrating when you put yourself out there, share personal updates, and get nothing in return.

I’m not just here for shallow play – I’m looking for something real. For me, it’s not about a fetish or kink; it’s about a genuine connection - not even romantically necessarily, even companionship and friendship would be great. I’ve always loved bigger women, not because of some fantasy, but because I find them genuinely attractive. It’s really tiring being reduced to just a stereotype or a fantasy role.

I had a really crappy experience in the last 24 hours where someone pretended to be legit and I talked sincerely to them and was warm and interested but they gave nothing back. They asked me to post some new photos of myself so I did and they just seemed to be 100% fake.

In response to this, I’ve taken down all my photos and stopped sharing publicly. Now, I only share updates with people I’m sure are real and actually want something more meaningful. But it’s getting harder and harder to find those connections.

As a guy in this community, it’s hard enough to find female companionship just because of the ratio. But it’s just extra disappointing when you put yourself out there and then it’s just someone playing games.

If you’re actually interested in something deeper and more real, then I’m open to talking. If not, I’d rather not waste my time. At the end of the day, it’s about respect and honesty – if we can’t be real here, what’s the point?

I’m just disappointed.

Canuck:
i think we may all be a little biased towards ff i love the chat room here, i love the forum format, and i love the story library. for those three elements, i think it is the best. the pics and videos are just icing on the cake, for me.

i am also on feabie and grommr. it's a different format - they are like facebook without the algorithms. posts come and go, and only have a short half-life for comments. there is more shouting into the void (kind of like the shouts used to be here, but i see them less and less, which is fine). i don't find it as engaging because, unless you are keeping tabs on it every day, several times a day, things get stale and fall out of context, which is why i prefer the forum format where you can have an ongoing exchange over time. i use feabie a few times a week, and grommr only occasionally.

dimensions requires $ to join now? really? that will kill that site, i think. i don't even know if i have a login there anymore, i haven't used it in ages (well before the pandemic). but 10 years ago it was starting to get quieter and quieter as social media platforms made forums look old fashioned, and less phone-friendly. when the site became *just* a forum and got rid of the rest of the site, that killed a lot of the interest, i think.

i have made friends on ff, feabie, and dimensions that i have gotten to know over decades now, visited in person, and care about a great deal. i think each format has its weaknesses and strengths, and people will find their preferences. i see a lot of people here, and elsewhere, complain about "other users" and "everyone just wants..." [fill in the blank] - and when i look at the profiles, posts, interactions, etc. of the people complaining, it is obvious that they have made little effort to make meaningful connections. they either expect others to do all the work ("i am not going to fill out this profile, just ask me!" why would anyone bother???) or they only spend their effort projecting their own fantasies on everyone else.

i hope ff will run for decades to come!

Munchies:
I never understood the aversion to filling out your profile. Like, why look for connection if you are adverse to doing things to facilitate connection?

Makes no sense to me.

SumoSized:
People on here also seem to come and go a lot. I was chatting with a guy on here through dm's the last couple days and randomly he just deleted his account. I've also received several messages that get deleted before I even open them or see who they're from. People can just be so fickle sometimes

SadPinkFox:
I know you are mad at me. I am sorry for suddenly leaving. I was depressed because some people ganged up on me. I hate it here.

Munchies:
Dang, what happened?

SadPinkFox:
I got upset that someone used the b-word and surprisingly people didn't agree with me. Even one woman user. I started to have a mental breakdown and decided to delete my "Kitsune" account. I vented about this website on an Autism website.