Admiring vs fetish

lauraloz88UK wrote:
When a man fancies me thats great but only liking me because of my size is another matter.


If that's all he likes about you it's probably not enough for more than a one-night stand (if you like that kinda thing!).

But just because he likes that about you doesn't mean he CAN'T appreciate you for your other qualities. Give the guy a chance!
10 years

Fattening in films

billedmeup wrote:
The Terror at Red Wolf Inn. Start here it is posted in 10 minute segments:


I'm afraid I have to give it two thumbs down. Only a tiny bit of poorly-staged fattening, slow-moving, and not the least bit scary!
10 years

This is good-bye. :( - nether

Netherwulff wrote:
Hey all,

I deleted my profile already, but I forgot to say a proper good-bye. To anyone who wants this message to be kept here, please feel free to quote this post as I will be deleting this account in the next few hours. I was hoping this post could give some users insight as to why I'm leaving:

When I registered as a user for this site, I was at a confused point in my life.

I had recently learned about feedism through some extensive research into it I did the weeks prior to my registering here, and I ultimately decided it was time to make a change with my life as I was always constantly uncomfortable and felt myself undesirable as a human being with my body because of how I'd let others influence my decisions in life.

In my short time on this site that I've spent here since June, I came to know so many different people here, learn so much more about myself, and really felt like I got the type of encouragement I needed to continue gaining weight without feeling those moments of withdrawals any longer. Now, after getting better from being sick with gastritis, I'm back to gaining weight again, and it's something I've been able to get such joy out of in my life that photos, videos, posts, nothing I could write could even remotely explain the type of thrill I get in seeing myself get bigger each week or throughout a day. smiley

Please know that deleting my profile was no easy task. I lost hundreds of posts, comments, and even near $200 spent on subscription fees in the process of doing so. I wish I could say I was over-exaggerating that, but I'm not.

The reason for the deletion is because I have lately witnessed a bad side to gaining weight for myself while being active on this site--the way I continually challenge myself to continue stuffing beyond capacity because I feel as if I'm running some sort of competition with my body. While this site has helped me find out a lot about myself, this one facet of losing control of how much is 'too' much for me was something I just couldn't get behind. I will continue gaining weight as I always have, but I feel both comfortable and confident in just being myself now, and I feel best in taking comfort in the fact of knowing my limits here and accepting that fact that I am someone who does have that competitive nature and seeks to look for a method of gain that doesn't enact competition with my own body...my life.

I'm sitting at 152 lbs now, which marks a 32 lbs gain since I started on June 3rd, 2014 (it's August 2nd now). In two months, I quite literally gained a third of my starting weight. The type of encouragement I got in my gain was enough to not only get me started, but enough to boost my level of confidence in both myself and even maintain that hope that, someday, I might find someone who likes me for just who I am. It made me realize that I'm not alone on this road and that there are others in a similar situation to me; and it helped me become the comfortable, independent guy I ought to be in life, rather than this frail, continuously UNcomfortable guy that relied on what everyone thought of him to make decisions. And, I think you all can see where I'm going with this:

I want Fantasy Feeder to be that point in my life where I made a change for the greater good of myself, not for it to be that point in my life where I state that I become body-positive and independent in myself at one moment, and then the next I'm requesting for attention to see what others think about me as it feels like I'd just be taking a step back as to the reason for what I signed up here in the first place. Sometimes, changes like this are necessary to make in life in order to continue progressing.

I do believe that there are always reasons that we're drawn to places like this in life, and it is with that thought in mind that I think my reasons and purpose for being here have been already fulfilled. I feel that I got to not only seek encouragement in my gain, but also help many friends and others along the way.

Once again, I wanted to thank everyone on this site for all of your words of encouragement, the way you've all helped me and continue to help each other each passing day, and for being there in my dire time of need when I was at such a low point in my life back in late May. I can't express in words how much I am grateful for each day I got to spend with you all here, and I wish you all the best in your life as you all felt much like family to me.

Who knows? Maybe one day we will all cross paths again, whether back here on the site, or even in real life. Until then, I think it would be best to leave that as food for thought. Besides, they don't call this site 'Fantasy Feeder' for nothing! smiley

Good-bye everyone. I wish you all the best in life! :' )
~ Jonathan (aka Netherwulff)


Yeah, right. You'll be back! smiley
10 years

Rude comment made to fat girl.

LadyEjkua wrote:
If you were called names by people, what would you want passers by to do?


Tough one! Expressing disapproval to the name-caller is good and not too hard. If they're on the job, you might even be able to report them to their superior.

Better would be to do it in a way that would make the insulted person feel better. But it could easily backfire and make them feel worse.
10 years

Fattening in films

billedmeup wrote:
Eat, Pray, Love has a scene where Julia Roberts and her friend go for pizza and the friend complains that she has gained 10 pounds and can't button her jeans. There follows a montage of them eating and trying on too tight jeans, etc.


This was disappointing...the actress doesn't gain at all, just tries on tighter jeans!
10 years

"why get fat" - the statistics

Thanks ltb! Very interesting. It is hard to compare rankings mathematically but your method is probably as good as any and better than many.

> Both men and women give around 10% of their votes to number 3, the one about being tired of feeling guilty.

Actually the reason I got this thread going in the first place was that one woman told me that was her main reason for gaining, which surprised me. I reckon it applies to women more because women are more commonly guilt-tripped about their weight.

> 1) 46 men and 72 women have so far answered. That means that for each 2 men answering, roughly 3 women will do. How come? Any guesses?

Many women replied to the thread because I directly asked them. I'm pretty sure that's the reason the numbers are different.
10 years

Are there any christians here?

Elanor wrote:
I think it has been pretty much scientfically proven that the person Jesus existed. You know, historically and all that.


I thought so too, but apparently it's a hotly debated topic, e.g.: . I'm no expert, and am not going to weigh in on whether he existed or not; but I'd say the jury is out.
10 years

Are there any christians here?

Murphy wrote:
AskDrFeeder wrote:
TheNiceGuy wrote:
To dr feeder,
I wanna say that verse specifically is meant as an insult to Jesus.


Yes, no doubt, but some of their statements may have been true, right? It's not solid evidence that Jesus was a glutton, but who knows?


I mean, if you wish to discard context and subvert biblical passages to suit your own twisted interpretations of them, I guess you might be somewhat right.

Or perhaps your theological credentials are as legitimate as your medical ones.


I don't claim to have theological credentials; if that's your criterion for listening to my argument, please ignore what I have to say.

Honestly, I have grave doubts whether Jesus existed at all. But if he did, and the bible is correct:

Just because Jesus's enemies said something doesn't mean it's false. And it IS true that Jesus was a friend of publicans and sinners, right? Or sinners, at least. So perhaps they were telling the truth about the gluttony. That's all I'm trying to say.

I'm not twisting any words or taking anything out of context.
10 years

Gainer appetite changes

Seph wrote:
Normal portions aren't enough any more, and that's REALLY annoying actually - because it means that if I eat lunch out with friends or grab a quick ready meal for dinner or whatever, it's nowhere near enough and I'm problematically hungry again real quick. I wish I could keep the fun bits and lose that!


Are you too embarrassed to eat as much as you need to in front of your friends?
10 years

San francisco meet-up aug. 10

pudgeman21 wrote:
mels on geary street?!...


No...there was a hyperlink in my initial post, but I guess it wasn't obvious! Here you go:

Mel's

4th & Mission
OPEN SINCE: NOVEMBER 20, 2000
The Mission Street Mel's is situated in the heart of SoMa, one of San Francisco's most exciting neighborhoods. We are right across the street from the Sony Metreon, a 250,000 square-foot complex filled with shopping and entertainment destinations including a 15-screen cinema and the West Coast's largest IMAX theatre. Also nearby is the Moscone Center, a conference center and major trade show host that occupies three city blocks. Those wishing to tap into San Francisco's rich cultural offerings won't be disappointed either, as Mel's makes a perfect stop-off after an afternoon spent exploring the Museum of Modern Art or the Yerba Buena Center for the Arts. The kids can pick up one of our children's meals served in a Mel's classic car before heading off to Zeum or the ice-skating rink at the nearby children's park.

Phone Numbers Restaurant: (415) 227 - 0793
To-Go: (415) 227 - 4477
For Delivery Waiters on Wheels
Hours Sunday - Thursday: 6 AM - Midnight
Friday - Saturday: 6 AM - 3 AM
Parking and Public Transport Public Transport: Muni lines 9X, 14, 14L, 14X, 30, 45;
GG transit 10, 70, 80, 72, 73, 76
Parking: 5th & Mission parking garage
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10 years