I know! It just feels so bad to love something the other doesn't like so much.

I thought it was going to be easier recently because a close work friend that she has known forever ....she has re-connected with has gained a bunch of weight since they worked together years ago and thought that would make it much more relaxed that my wife had gained also. In fact for a while she was relaxed and was actually relieved that her close friend had gained so much more than her.

I am hoping she was just feeling bad this morning because of starting her menstral cycle and feeling a bit bloated perhaps.

My wife was getting dressed for work today and came out of the closet and looked great.

She was squeezed into her work outfit which was straining and looking really tight....She looked amazingly sexy. I softly grabbed her by the hips and pulled her in for a kiss and a close hug as I released my hands from her hips which she felt slightly uncomfortable with because of the extra softness and fat on her figure....she said "i'm a big ***". I said "you look great"....she then said "I am getting disgustingly Fat again."

She did look absolutely beautiful but I couldn't help but feel a bit concerned she will try aggressively to lose weight. It seems with her when she gains some weight she will start wearing less of her wardrobe that she likes the fit....but the minute she tries on something...usually work attire that she has not worn for a while and it fits really tight and different...she gets totally disgusted and frustrated and Fat shames herself. The crazy thing is... after her slowly gaining for a long time now....I want her to get way heavier than she is currently but I am excited about the extra weight as it is .....but I surely don't want her to lose any weight she has gained recently. I have noticed a change in her in the last month or so with an extra effort not to eat and snack as much not to mention trying to work out more....but I am hoping it back fires and she relaxes and just gains more weight and is fine with it.

If she were to buy bigger or new work outfits..skirts. slacks etc. to replace the ones that are getting really tight would that be a win for the direction I want this to go?

First off....Great story...these real life stories are the best!

Isn't it amazing what a new office job or desk job can do..coupled with less workouts. I totally agree with you that when women gain weight and enjoy their eating and have fattening snacks they become more relaxed and less up tight and more affectionate.....they seem in a better mood most of the time for not denying themselves.

I have noticed the same thing as you with in the last few years with regard to my wife liking the "Fatter Me". Early on she complained about guy's that were over weight....and said she would get my butt in shape if I ever got out of shape and Fat like that....and it has been many, many , many years since that talk..... and the main difference back then was she was younger, naive and mostly was a work out queen and always at the gym... before I cured her of that habit. Fast forward many years and she is more Beautiful than ever and there is much more of her to Love...I to have gained a lot from my once thinner/leaner muscular self....to looking more beefy and muscular like a muscle chub with a nice big Gut. I have found when my wife is gaining weight she actually seems really into me gaining and she almost helps me along to gain more by fixing me way larger portions at meals and bringing me seconds even before I ask. I have come to realize when she is heavier and slowly gaining it makes her feel comfortable to have me getting bigger and fattening up also. She also has seemed to like my much bigger belly and softly squeezes my softer pecs....okay moobs now I guess. She has recently gone to work for a new company in the same industry and started to gain some weight and has not worked out forever. She had a week off after a business trip that we had already planned and our vacation fell through so we stayed at home and she tried to go to the gym every bit she could.....mostly because her new work outfits seem to be straining and she doesn't want to replenish her work wardrobe. So she is eating better and trying to snack less which I don't like. It has now been over a month and her workout routine has stayed to course and she has been eating less and losing a bit more weight... and she went even as far as to make a comment to me the other day after dinner....which she never does...she said as I went to the pantry to grab a box of cookies after dinner "you might want to slow down on the snacks" I was in awe....I thought to myself okay so you are going to the gym again and have lost a few Lbs. from the weight you have gained and now you want me to slow down. It seem's that my wife and possibly your's are the same....while they are fattening up they don't mind, actually they like us to fatten up with them to make them feel better and the minute they want to lose weight and start slimming down they act like we are some big Fatty now. She also has commented on a few mutual friends of our's and how Fat and out of shape their Husband's are....where as for the last several years she has not discussed or fat shamed anyone really. also, I am not even as big as I was a while ago when I was trying to get her to comment on my weight gain while intentionally gaining. Hopefully she just goes and buy's some new work outfits like your girlfriends jeans in bigger sizes and continues to gain.

As far as discussing openly this fetish with your girlfriend in my experience it never worked out that great. I have simply just had her gradually gain on her own and when I notice her appetite growing make sure she has all her favorite fattening snacks stocked up and readily available. I am hoping her trying to slim a bit gets to tough and she starts to really fatten up...and at that point she will be probably be bringing me thirds at every dinner. I truly believe that if she gets fat she wants me to get as fat or fatter these day's.

Oh....and Mutual gaining is kind of the ultimate for me these day's also.

Okay....this thread has come back after a year....great because it is a very hot one.

My wife goes through some aggressive snacking stages many months at a time and sometimes longer where she really starts to pig out. I start to notice her gaining weight and it look's so sexy on her. During these times I keep the freezer and pantry obnoxiously filled with her favorite fattening ice creams, cookies, chocolates etc. Several times I thought she was going to scold me for buying so much of her favorite fattening things after she has noticeably gained some weight form her continual snacking....instead she thanks me for buying her favorites and starts right in on a pint of ice cream. I am a bit in shock but also totally aroused by her thanks and excitement to stuff herself with her fattening snacks.

Many times in the past couple of years my wife has gained a good amount of weight during these times and her appetite got totally out of control which is so sexy when that happens.

I have this reoccurring vision and dialogue in my head of my wife coming up to me all vulnerable just finishing off a pint of ice cream with a little bit of ice cream still on her lip as she licks it off and gives me a big hug before she starts to get dressed to go out with friends for dinner. As she tries to get on a new pair of larger designer jeans she just bought and a silk tank top she can't even squeeze into....she struggles for a minute and realizes she has already out grown her clothes she just bought in bigger sizes two weeks ago. She becomes vulnerable and complains to me that it is my fault that I have allowed her to get so Fat....and that she is going to show me by getting really Fat now....as she goes back into the kitchen and comes out with a bag of fattening cookies standing by me in her panties and Bra that can't even contain her luscious fattened figure. I am aroused in this dream and realize she can't stop eating out of control even if she wanted to now....she she feels entitled to blame me and show me she is trying to fatten up more when in actuality she can't stop eating. This is such a turn on for me....because of the vulnerability she displays as well as the out of control over eating.

Just thought I would keep this great thread going as well.

I think ChubbyHubby said it best.

I do see how your mind can wander with these thoughts. The slightest physical change mainly because of weight does change a person's outlook and or direction at times. My wife with even the mildest gaining and or loss definitely changes her attitude and well a lot of things during her fluctuations. When she gains even 15 Lbs. and maintains that weight for a while she is more care free, relaxed and less concerned with over indulging with food and everything in life. Transversely when she loses weight she becomes more fidgety and less relaxed harder for me to get along with and she never wants to go out for nice dinners and food takes a big "back seat" in her life and she becomes more distant toward me, a lot more on edge and I even catch her raising her eyebrows at heavier women and acting like they are unhealthy compared to her now......not to mention she will comment on something I fattening I may eat like a huge pasta... where as before she would join in with me eating the same thing and follow it with some fattening desert and snacks afterwards. So her whole attitude and way she lives really changes with a weight fluctuation of only 20 Lbs sometimes. I think it has to do with when she was younger in her teens she was very pretty but overweight and during High School she lost weight and became Cheer leader. So she always associates the positive attention she received when she slimmed down as so good. In college she started gaining again but got a lot of attention because she was now the pretty Curvy/Voluptuous coed....who eventually kept gaining until she dieted down.

So perceptions in your head are hard to change....even though in my eyes the heavier she is the more Beautiful she is.

I keep having this recurring dream that this co worker to my wife and sister who works for the same company in a different dept. are trying to fatten my wife up.

Like I said before all three of them new other other a long time ago and the sister was the tallest of all of them and quite slim back then but I have been told by my wife that she is even heavier than my wives friend.

So the dream is of them always eating lunch together and snacking in the break room on cookies and treats. True to my dream my wife can never turn down cookies or any sweet snacks.....i fact she always sacrifices larger entrees just to fill up later on sweets. So, in my dream the two sisters are caught snickering about getting my wife to keep eating more cookies and pieces of left over cake from the break room after some pretty big fattening lunches they all go to together. The one sister mentions that doing this is probably going to have an effect on their fattened figures as well. The other one giggles a bit and say's who cares it's not like we are not already fat now anyways. The other say's agrees and say's you are right about that....as she say's it is just so cute how she keep's snacking now in the break room even after us two fatties are completely full. They both laugh together as they walk out and my wife is still chewing with a mouthful behind them.

I always wake up right when the two other women are poking fun at my wife and saying to her that she will soon be as fat as they are with all the eating she is doing and as I see my wife in the dream...she has a cute look on her face as her mouth is full with some food from the break room.

I guess all these great stories in the forum is subconsciously getting n my mind with this new sexy potential adventure.

My wife doesn't seem like her appetite has become to much bigger in real life but she certainly look's to have gained a few Lbs. with her working with her friend and sister......maybe my dream will come true.

I am not sure the percentages on the correlation between muscular gym guys and heavier girlfriends, finances or wives.

I have been into weight lifting for a long time and played football until after college and I have always had this fetish and thought heavier women were more beautiful then thinner women (By Far). I don't know for sure if this is in the majority of the percentages. I have heard that many like the feel of fit next to fat.....I have discovered that fat next to fat feels pretty damn sexy also.

All very good suggestions above.

I found that when I get bored or even full that if I order a milkshake while gaining I can slurp it down in no time and even want to go back for more. Not only does this add major calories but it stretches your gut and eventually even if you get bored of eating you will still be eating because your appetite has grown so much from your stomach being stretched,

Ever since I was young I liked chubbier girls, then chunkier, then plump as time went on and then Fat. I always was fascinated and interested in weight gain and the changes to girls and women. I would occasionally even notice mens Fat bellies but was more only interested in weight gain on women and always liked the changes.

All my girlfriends were aware I liked them thicker and a few even knew I wanted them to gain weight, in which all of them did. Two of them actually played into it and I think one was actually converted into a feedee and liked weight gain as much as I did.

I think I fist discovered that there were a lot of other people into this and it was a fetish on websites like Uk Feeder, a geocities site and Dimensions.

I think everyone goes through some sort of on the fence type thing with should they gain or not.

I can tell you for me in the last several years it happens initially with me eating more without acknowledging and all of a sudden I notice a small weight gain5-10 Lbs. I kind of get aroused and realize how much more I can eat than just a month ago and how I a have a bigger appetite. Several times in the past years I have acted on it and intentionally gained after noticing this initial gain and it turned me on so much. Mostly because of a lack of weight gain on my wife and in my life at the time but also because it was so easy to keep gaining because of my bigger appetite. Usually if it is way to much effort like when I was younger I just kind of gave up. I am at a point now usually with the natural appetite increase during the previously mentioned times as a starter and then after I intentionally stuff way more food I see results right away. A couple of times I got really carried away just to try and get some comments or teasing from my wife about my sudden gain and when they didn't come it was like a game to show her how Fat I could get before she commented.

I would say go for it 10 Lbs. at first it may just be the starting point to really get you interested to go for more.

I got to a stage where it became so easy to gain because I consumed so much more food not because I was trying but almost because I had to. When I was eating it made me aroused and when I was felling Fat it made me want to eat. It was very exciting having the fetish of weight gain with me all the time....different then when I was always just watching my wife as she gained a few Lbs and then hoping for more and then several weeks after noticing she gained a few more....don't get me wrong that is very exciting and arousing but having the weight gain with you at all times and actually working at making it more and seeing the results all the time was really something different and exciting. Not to mention noticing the changes lie going down to tie your shoes and realizing you can barely do it because your new big gut is in the way and when you finally do get around your belly enough to tie your shoes you get a bit out of breath from the strain. Or without realizing when you get up off of the couch after being full you actually make some slight noises not a huge strain noise but you make noises now. I originally noticed this when my wife would gain a good amount of weight and she would breath in and make noises getting off the couch or even getting into bed settling in. These things are there to remind you and kind of arouse you with your weight gain. Sometimes with my big gut I would moan after getting up off the couch I would find myself touch and then rub my belly unconsciously and after that I would feel hungry and get aroused....craziest thing.